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What Women Want in Men - Do You Need to Look Good?

Written by Joshua Uebergang aka "Tower of Power"

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished February 6, 2009
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One of the strongest beliefs I need to destroy is that women must have a physically attractive man. Society overemphasizes physical appearance as it pries off of men's insecurities. Physical attractiveness in women is important for men, but guys get into relationship trouble by projecting their desires onto women.

A guy's attractiveness towards women comes more from his personality than physical looks. I've heard countless stories of guys over 40 years old, bald, short, and even over 300 pounds, who date and keep very attractive women. On the contrary, I know plenty of wealthy, young, good looking men who initially attract a woman, but they don't keep her because these guys do not have the complete package, described to you in this article.

Physical looks grabs a woman's initial interest, but it fails to maintain any strong relationship. (Remember, I'm defining a holistic approach to what women want in men.) If that's the case, why do tall, good looking, rich guys attract and keep beautiful women? Such men have other characteristics that attract women. They emit confidence, are challenging, and show other alpha male qualities.

If you still don't believe a man's personality, communication, and other non-physical aspects attract women more powerfully than tangibles, you're a "theorist". You theorize on what you think works and doesn't work based on your limiting beliefs. Put your limiting beliefs aside to discover the truth.

How you communicate to a lady - and not your physical looks - determines how attracted a woman is to you in the short-term and long-term. Non-physical qualities are more important in the long-run because they determine the condition of a relationship.

Of course, there are women who only accept a man based on his looks. These women probably make up 2% of females. Don't worry about these few women! In fact, avoid them like the plague! Their shallow personality is created from low self-esteem and other self-related problems that make them a pain to be around.

Though the characteristics described throughout this article is attractive to any woman, even shallow ones, you shouldn't be avoiding them because they initially dislike you. I want you to avoid superficial people because they are unhealthy for anyone around them. If a potential partner adds no value to your life, and you only want them because they are attractive, then you're the one with a shallow personality seeking to cover up a void only you can fill.

With that said, the importance of a guy's looks for a woman is more about looking good rather than being good looking. Women get repelled by a man's looks when he has poor hygiene, awful attire, and annoying nervous habits. These physical qualities will hold any man back from success with women - no matter the ways he learns to attract women. Repulsive breath turns off any woman.

Rather than worrying aimlessly over how good looking you are, focus on looking good. Firstly, to make better use of your looks, get some good clothes. Ask your friends what they think you could change to improve your physical attractiveness. Even better, ask a female friend what she thinks you could change. Most women will be more than happy to fix you up. If price worries you, good clothes need not be expensive. You can jump on eBay and search Google for online clothing stores to pick up bargains.

Oral hygiene is another physical aspect that must work for you instead of against you. Brush your teeth in the morning and night. Remember to brush the roof of your mouth and tongue to remove bacteria that makes your breathe smell like an unemptied disposal unit. Floss at least once a week to remove food stuck in between your teeth. Furthermore, you can rinse your mouth regularly with water, gargle salt water, and use a mouth rinse. Do what you can to prevent the build up of bacteria, which creates smelly breath.

Another physical quality any guy can improve to become more desirable to women is his health. I encourage you to workout at the gym at least three times a week to improve your strength and aerobic fitness. Hit the weights and do cardiovascular workouts to improve your vitality. The sessions will develop your endurance throughout the day, better your happiness, improve self-perceptions, and help you maintain an energetic personality.

Working out gives you psychological benefits beyond characteristics favored by women. You can overcome personal insecurities and live a happier life with regular workouts. You will emit confidence, dominance, boost your self-esteem, and improve your wellbeing - all characteristics women desperately want in a man. Anything that improves your life makes you more desirable to women.

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Joshua Uebergang is a world-leading communication skills coach and has given you a free guide on what women want in men to get women forever interested in you. You can receive more advice to improve yourself and your relationships by signing up to his free newsletter at TowerOfPower.com.au/free.

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