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What Women Want - Tips for Writing Emails that Women Respond To

Written by Dave M.

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished September 23, 2007
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What Women Want. Whether you’re new to meeting women online, or you’ve got multiple online dating profiles at several different sites, I think you’ll benefit from incorporating a few of my scientifically tested email writing tips that will help you get more responses from the women you’re trying to meet.
There are 2 rules of thumb to go by when it comes to writing these emails.
1) People like people who are like themselves.
2) People like people who like them.
In order for a woman to begin to believe that you like her and that the two of you are indeed alike, you’ll have to speak to her on a personal level. A good way to talk to talk to women is to treat her like she’s the only woman in the room, so to speak.
This means you need to do your homework by reading through her profile and finding ways to make her feel as though she’s the only woman you’re talking to.
You can still continue to email as many women as you’d like, but steer clear of using an obvious cut and paste email template that makes the woman feel like she’s one of many on an assembly line.
You can also give her a compliment—but watch out for going overboard here. There’s a fine line between simple admiration and begging for her approval. And with most women, erring on the side of less is better than more will go a long way in building up some intrigue about you in her mind.
So don’t be excessively gushy. And definitely don’t throw in any cheesy pickup lines.
Your email should also include a question or two, asking the woman to expand on something she mentioned in her profile. Be careful not to sound too eager with this as well. Your question can be as simple as, “I see that you said you’re into parasailing. I’ve always thought that looked fun. How long have you been doing that?”
And finally, one of the most important online dating secrets is crafting a good subject line. If the subject line isn’t intriguing, she probably won’t even open your email—which would be a waste of the time you spent writing the actual email.
Concentrate on writing subject lines that are conversational. It’s also useful to work a question or challenge based on something she mentioned in her profile into the subject line.
Be creative and have fun with it. If you mess up with one woman, there are always plenty more out there to talk to!

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Dave M. is the author of Insider Internet Dating: Discover how an average guy met 398 women with online personals -- using an embarrassingly simple, dummy proof, internet dating 'routine' that works nearly every time. He also publishes a free internet dating tips newsletter, available at what women want

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