We all have opened up a door or two that should have stayed closed. It’s equivalent to dating an old boyfriend/girlfriend, the feelings just aren’t the same. This happens because the energy’s do not mix well.

You either have a change of heart and think” it’s been long enough,” or “they’ve changed, I’ve changed” or you try again because someone suggests it to you. It is important that you do not force the issue. If people and situations have changed things will flow smoothly. If all circumstances are not right it is equivalent to fitting a square peg in a round hole. Here are some tips to help you through:

1. Do you speak with ease or are you cautious with your words?
2. Is this person on an even level with you?
3. Is there a motive? Sure, you know why you want to get things going, but what about them?
4. After you’ve talked, are you excited about seeing this person again?
5. Most importantly, have things changed?

Regardless of why you are seeing this person ie; friendship, family, relationship, etc., you are putting forth an honest effort. If things have not changed, there’s nothing you can do. You have done your part and that’s all you can do. Are you at ease with this person or not? You have to be at ease if anything is going to work. If you are not at ease, simply wish them well and walk away. You can feel comfortable never opening that door again.

Is this person going to help you get to the next level in your life or are they going to bring you down? Do you have common interests? The worst feeling is when someone tries to drag you down. This happens when people lack the knowledge of knowing when someone is sucking the life out of them and the courage to walk away from it. Two birds of a feather flock together is an old saying and it’s very true. Peoples’ habits rub off on each other. So, if they have an off spring or siblings, guess what? Your energy might or might not match theirs either.

So, before you open that door you have to realize a few things. You’ve changed, you’ve grown and you might feel that by stepping backwards it might help you to move forward. Go ahead and try it, but if it doesn’t feel right in your gut, don’t stay there. You are a strong person and if it works out or not, you will still remain the same strong person.

A lot of friendships and relationships have been rekindled from an open door. Both parties have grown in their own way and their energies together are harmonious. This is how it should be. This is healthy for both parties concerned. Circumstances are different, mindset is different and emotions are different.

You can always just meet on a social level and meet for lunch or dinner every once in a while. You can catch up without getting too involved with each other if you like. This is also a way of getting reacquainted with each other. Conversations will flow more freely.

Here’s a meditation exercise to use to help you tell if a person’s energy is good for you. If you have meditated before get into your relaxed, meditated state. If you haven’t meditated before, do your research on the subject first and when you are ready you can do this.

You are relaxed, you feel every breath….It’s a beautiful day outside, the sun is shining. You are walking through a garden and you see the most beautiful red rose. You pick it; you smell it and keep walking. You walk into town rolling the long stem with your fingers. Every couple of minutes you smell the wonderful aroma of the rose. You stroll past some friends you know. You stroll past the mail lady. You say hello to everyone you see, still smelling the rose. The person you know approaches you….does the rose still look vibrant or has it started to wilt?

Try this and see if it helps. It only takes a couple of minutes, but things will become clearer.

May all the doors that you open, be filled with love.

Author's Bio: 

My website,http://www.WomensRecreation.com, offers others hope and encouragement. I do believe that we are here to help each other and to learn from each other.

I wrote three books "Walk in Peace" & "My Soulful Journey" and "The Wishing Well" which can be purchased on my website, Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com.

I also have a Blog Talk Radio show. I have interviewed people regarding all subject matter. Feel free to listen to the archives at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/womensrecreation.