I find that my confidence level has a direct correlation to the positive attitudes of those people I am around. It doesn’t matter if they are at the office or my personal life. If I am constantly around negative people, overtime doubt and fear start edging their way into my life and my self-confidence starts plummeting.

I find that negative people have a tendency to gossip about anything … it could be distress in someone’s life whether someone they know or someone on the front page of Google News. Their outlook on life is usually like looking at a glass that is either half empty or are complaining that someone took the water glass. Overtime, folks like this suck the life out of anyone who has constant exposure to them. In short, they are toxic.

I have found that when I surround myself with people who have positive attitude; I leave conversations feeling energized. I can’t help but feel good about myself and that translates into confidence. Typically positive people are comfortable in their own skin and are very calming to be around. They understand that life is good. These are the people you want around you when life hands you a lemon. They are the ones that will be rolling up their sleeves and pitching in to help you make lemonade.

Overtime, I have found myself becoming more effective on not to allowing negative people to occupy space in my mind; but rather to accept them where they are at. I purposefully keep interactions with such people down to a minimum and focus conversation just on the topic at hand. I steer away from any personal conversations about myself and urgently find a need to rearrange my sock drawer when they start belaboring the injustices of their life.

I purposefully seek out and surround myself with people who consistently exude positive energy; because these are the people who make me feel great. I am a person who continuously looks to improve myself - it could be my health, relationships or self-improvement. I am someone who enjoys pushing herself outside her comfort zone. Because of this, I have found that the people I want in the bleacher seats of my life are the ones I want cheering me on; rather than telling me the reasons I will fail. So ask yourself, who are in the bleacher seats of your life?

Author's Bio: 

Using my own life as living proof that extraordinary choices lead to an amazing life, I help others women do the same. As a divorced mother, I empower other divorcees to move out of their comfort zone and begin creating an extraordinary life for themselves and their children. For additional information about me, please join me at www.steppingintojoy.com