Why Attractive Women Love Jerks - Part 1
Written by David_DeAngelo
I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like...
"I'm sure what you're saying is right, but I don't want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women..."nn..or...
"I have seen what you're talking about happen all my life, but I'm a 'nice guy' and I want women to like me for me..."nn...and...
"This doesn't make sense..."
For most of my life, I was the nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successful with women, this actually created an obstacle for me.
Let me explain...
Because I believed that "being a nice guy" must be the way to success with women, I actually couldn’t even perceive any other way.
In other words, I could see a situation where a woman was attracted to a mean, abusive guy and think to myself that either she must be screwed up in the head, or that the guy must be really nice to her the rest of the time.
As you probably know, it's hard to convince a person to believe something when they already have a belief about the topic. The person that you're trying to convince just uses whatever you say to convince themselves that they're actually right...and you're wrong.
I did the exact same thing.
No matter how much evidence I found to the contrary, I still somehow believed that being a "nice" guy, buying women flowers and gifts, taking them out, and generally letting them be in control of the relationship had to be the way to attract them.
Well, after continuing along the same path and getting the same results, I realized something that literally changed everything for me.
I realized that jerks do, in fact, attract hot women.
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