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Why It's Good to (Sometimes) Be Selfish

Written by Ruth Davis

Topic: General Self HelpPublished February 27, 2011
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So many of my clients tell me that their biggest challenge is finding time for themselves. Not just finding time, but JUSTIFYING the NEED for time for themselves.

They tell me that it is so easy to do for others, to take care of everyone else, but that, when it comes to claiming any space for their own interests or needs, they feel an overwhelming sense of guilt and undeserved-ness and inability to make it happen.
Scheduling time for yourself is as important as scheduling everything else you have to do. Self-Care is as important as doing the laundry, going to work, walking the dog.
When we take care of ourselves, we are more willing and able to give and care for others.
And yet it is so easy to get so busy with all other things and other people's needs that we neglect our own.
I attend a weekly yoga class. For 90 minutes each week I give myself the opportunity to gather with like-minded people, practice breathing and stretching, and tune out the noise of everything else in my life and turn inward.
For several weeks last month I was so busy with work things that I took my yoga classes off of my calendar. It is no surprise that I was suddenly cranky, stiff and feeling overwhelmed with everything. The week I went back to class, I immediately felt balance and calm and clarity again.
Scheduling activities in our calendar is the key to getting things done. When we create the space and time for things that are important to us, we can actually do them.
So how do you take care of yourself? Do you even give yourself permission to?
Here's a powerful Worksheet from the Spark Your Heart, Ignite Your Life! program that can help you re-define what being selfish means to and give you a new way to create some much-deserved ME time in your daily life.

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About the Author

Ruth Davis is a Creative Living Coach and the founder of Spark the Heart. In addition to one-on-one coaching, she leads workshops and retreats that combine practical coaching techniques with creativity and play to spark her clients' deepest passions and dreams.

Ruth's greatest passion is engaging with and encouraging others to explore who they really are and how they want to create and live a more passionate, more purposeful life. Click here to read her story.

In the midst of all this creativity, Ruth is also the owner of Mac to School, providing customized Macintosh computer trainer for home users and small business owners. For the past 23 years, her patient and enthusiastic approach to teaching has given her students the confidence and excitement to embrace the often overwhelming world of technology. Check out the free video tutorials on her website at www.mac2school.com

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