Why Most Guys Fail With Women

One thing I'd like to point out is that women have an amazing sense of intuition. Often times, it can be accurate enough to the point where it seems like they can READ your mind. This is especially true when it comes to figuring out what you're feeling and how you feel about yourself.

I remember a time a few years back when one of my friends who wasn't very good with women was talking to a female friend that I know. From my viewpoint, he wasn't doing too bad but he also couldn't seem to get her attracted to him. Afterwards we talked about what happened and he confessed to me how nervous he was, and how he felt like she was out of his league. But that he was trying very hard not to let it show. He was pretty sure she probably couldn't tell. I agreed with him because I never would of guessed that was what he was feeling.

Then a few days later I got talking to the female friend and the topic naturally drifted to the conversation she had with my other friend. I asked her how she felt about him and I was amazed at her response. She said that she could sense he was very nervous talking to her and that he felt he didn't measure up. And because of that, she didn't feel any sort of attraction for him.

I was floored.

As it turns out, women are REALLY good at reading emotions in other people. Which means you need to be 100% congruent and authentic or you'll come across as fake to women.

So what can you do and how can you come across as a man who is authentic and who feels like he is her equal?

It all boils down to confidence and how you view yourself. You need to build a strong and capable self image for yourself.

Your self image is basically an image of who you are as a person that you carry around inside. Take some time to figure out what kind of a man you want to be. Write down all the personality traits that your ideal self would embody. Then make plans to acquire those traits.

Close your eyes and make a mental image of your ideal self. The clearer you can make the image, the more compelled you are to achieve it. It could be a still picture in your mind or an animated sequence.

Keep asking yourself the questio
"Am I the kind of person I'd like to be?" And if not, keep refining who you are. Do this on a weekly basis and keep yourself accountable for being true to yourself. Once you've built a strong and powerful self image that you absolutely love, you can bet women will love it too.