“Why Talking is Important for Dissolving Away Anxiety”

Anxiety in this day and age is part of the living process, but it doesn’t have to destroy lives. Anxiety, tension, and emotional feelings that are overwhelming can be healed if we are willing to open up and talk about what we have going on inside… and let all of those frustrations out.

Not that long ago there were no psychologist and psychiatrists, we had family and friends that we talk too. We didn’t have to pay big money to talk to someone important with lots of diplomas on their wall. We went home and opened up and many times cried about what we had going on. Families cared about their loved ones feelings, and because of that they knew they had to be a sounding board for all their emotional turmoil.That’s why people down through history have sat down and enjoyed breakfast and dinner together… I remember my mom and my dad would have morning coffee and talk about life and get things off their chest.
Sometimes we work ourselves into a rut of holding in emotional energy. All that emotional baggage creates tension, stress, and puts a big weight on our shoulders, to the point that we feel we have the weight of the world bearing down on us. That’s not good, we need a pressure release valve which allows tension to melt away.

Take a pressure cooker, there is a normal pressure that builds up for cooking to create something good to eat. And before the pressure cooker can be opened all the pressure has to be released for safety reasons…we don’t want it to blow up. And God forbid if something goes wrong and the pressure just keeps going up and up there is a safety plug that pops out and all the pressure is released… thus keeping everyone safe.

Well the same thing goes for people, we have a normal amount of pressure that we can handle, and even become more efficient with. And in order to release all of that pressure we have to open up… by talking about all the daily challenges we have thus making it easy to release all the pressure. And if we don’t sooner or later we explode, get angry, start raging, and sooner or later become depressed. So it’s very important that we allow all the stresses, the steam of life to be released in a safe way. And how do we do that? By talking about what we carry inside “daily” thus life becomes easy and peaceful.

It doesn’t mean that talking about things will heal all those challenges, not at all. It just means that all that emotional pressure is not going to kill us by cause high blood pressure, a heart attack, high cholesterol, nerve pain and other biological challenges. And right now we have lots of people who don’t open up to anyone, be it a close friend, spouse, or family member… and that’s not good.

And many times GI’s going to war are subjected to all kinds of terrible stressors that no one should be subjected too. And one of the few ways they can address those challenges… is to open up and allow all those feelings to spew forth. And for men that’s not easy, because lots of men are raised with role models that never allow their guard to come down, and let their feelings out, so they don’t know how to express their feelings. But with practice they too can learn how to allow their feeling out, and get rid of all that stress, strife, and anxiety.

And studies show that jou
aling is another form of talking things out. And jou
aling can be great for those who suffer from anxiety from things that happened years ago. Jou
aling allows all our feelings, thoughts, and images from the past to be written down with pen and paper, and defuse all the emotional energy around those subjects, and thus life becomes much easier and happier. Jou
aling is like talking to ourselves, and thus allowing us to have an internal conversation from one part of us to another… thus healing the past.

So in general it’s very important that we have a daily conversation with our spouse, someone in our family, or a close friends about all the stress we have to deal with day in and day out. Talking things out is a ritual that we need to recapture, a ritual that some how got misplaced down through the years.

Talking about life is a ritual which is a wonderful quick relief valve which allows anxiety to escape and happiness to fill the void. And talking things out creates trust, and trust creates love… and love is very important.

May everyone start a daily ritual of talking about their life… thus creating love, peace, and happiness forevermore.

Many Blessings to Everyone

Dr. Paul Haider - Master Herbalist