I will tell you why the single life is best. We live in a modern age where anything goes. Marriage has become unnecessary but sometimes advantageous or wanted. There are more people than ever having children outside of marriage or choosing to live alone and not have children at all. The good news is that we have a lot of different options available to us when we are choosing which lifestyle is best for us, the bad news is that some people blindly do what a lover wants or what they see their family and friends do, without wondering or finding out if a different lifestyle is better for them.

Being single does not mean being lonely, unloved or frustrated! There are a lot of people who prefer being single and have a fantastic and very happy life. They
are never lonely and their love life and sex life is great. People sometimes assume that single people have no sex life, but the opposite is more likely to be true. Married men lay next to their wives all night longing for sex, not being allowed to have sex, and not able to go out and meet someone else. There are men in loveless marriages who claim their wives are frigid or have health problems so they do not make love...... Translated this means the wife does not love him or fancy him so she makes up excuses to get out of having sex with him.

These people have a totally celibate and frustrating life while a lot of people who live alone get sex regularly. In a way you cannot blame them if they look for someone else so that they get sex and feel wanted. That is not just about sex but also about being appreciated and loved. It must be a lot less frustrating to be single and wishing you had a sex life than be married and fancying the person you are married to, and laying next to them in bed, and not having a sex life. Single people can have a sex life, they can have it on their own and have sex as little or as often as they please without having to ask their partner for it or make excuses when their partner wants it and they do not. They also have a lot more chance of meeting someone than a married person. Married men who were not happy at home sexually, and were not in a position to leave their wife and find someone more loving, and could afford it, would set up a paid mistress they saw on the sly or visit brothels. To them it was simply a way to relieve the frustration and have some fun.

Years ago it was normal and expected that everyone would get married by the age of 25,probably have children and settle down. Anyone who was not married by the age of 25 was considered to be “left on the shelf” and unwanted and would have a more difficult life. There was no way anyone could have children unless they got married. Women were expected to save themselves for the wedding night and they were probably too scared to have sex before they got married as they could not risk ending up single and pregnant.The man was expected to be the breadwinner and provide a home, material possessions,money, love and loyalty to the family and the woman was expected to give birth to any children, bring them up, keep the house clean, cook, make clothes and attend to her husband's sexual needs. Lovely for women who want to spend lots of time at home and are maternal,boring and almost nauseating if they are not.

Beth Shepherd therapist psychic and relationship excpert wonders how many women do you know who would choose to be at home all day with children doing nothing but cooking, cleaning, tidying up, cleaning and sewing if they had the choice? When you speak to very old people now they sometimes talk about marriage as if it is a chore, a duty, a job rather than anything to do with love or even friendship. Love and sex rarely come into the conversation. If they
get married because it is expected of them and then they find that they do not like their partner they continue to make the most of it because that is what everyone else did and does and what is expected of them. What else could they do? It was easier to get married and do what everyone else is doing than to rebel and try to swim against the tide. This may sound awful but because of the lifestyle that was considered normal and expected of them when they were young many of them automatically went into being married and made the most of it. Hence many people who got married in “those days” have never been in love and some of the women
had never had an orgasm or enjoyed sex. They gave sex to their husband as one of their duties in return for what he provided for them. It was really more of a business arrangement.

At least now people can decide what lifestyle suits them without being pressured into living a lie and if they change their mind somewhere along the line they do not have to worry about not being able to cope or being shunned by society if they do not conform. If you are married and decide you wish you were single it could be a lot of hassle, time and expense to change things. If you are single and decide to find a partner and settle down it is far easier. Meaning that the single life is best. By Charlotte Craig, life coach and agony aunt at http://www.accuratepsychicreadingsonline.com Beth Shepherd.

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