Why wait until you are dying?

Why wait until you are dying to answer the question “What Is Life All About?”

I came across this information recently which was put together by a palliative nurse and it really brought home the need for people to live their lives NOW before it’s too late.

Why do many wait until they are about to say their last farewells in this life to realise what is important to them? Why not ask “how can I be happy NOW?” and start to live this way immediately?

The palliative nurse has collated information and posted the five most common regrets people have in their last few weeks of life – and I think that her findings should be a lesson to us all to find the meaning of life and live it now.

It’s my experience of dealing with many thousands of people as a life coach that the most important question that we can ask ourselves today is What’s my Life Purpose? Once you establish what your Purpose is in life, you can then work on your behaviours and set achievable goals from a place of true meaning and beging to live life on a happier and more fullfilled level.

Here are the most common things that people said to the nurse:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Surely it has to be time to connect to Life NOW! Find your Purpose

It’s never too late.

Why wait?

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Thanks for the Information from Inspiration and Chai http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

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Author's Bio: 

Richard Jacobs - What's my Life Purpose?Richard Jacobs has had the privilege of coaching over 100,000 people in seminars and workshops. He has been in the self development industry and a life coach for 16 years. One of these seminars…. probably life’s most important question was turned into a book and now an online system – “What’s Your Purpose? Seven Questions to find your answer“. He developed a whole system to find and live your Purpose with follow up programs – how to create the Attitude that most makes you sing and the Means to achieve your goals while keeping a smile on your face.