Winning My Ex Back – Breaking the Safety Net

“If you love someone, set them free. If they come back to you they’re yours, if they don’t, it was never meant to be.” This is what people USED to think about relationships. The first part of this analogy is true, though. You do have to let your partner free once he or she decides to break up with you. Clinging too much to them will just chase them farther and farther away. Showing them that you badly need them will just make them lose all interest and feelings for you.

Try taking my word for it and stop chasing your ex. I’ve gone through at this situation before and later realized that the answer to win my ex back has been right before my eyes. My ex wondered, “What happened?” He wondered what caused me to lose interest in him. This hit his ego. He assumed that I have found someone else which caused me to lose interest in him. When this happens to you, you are in the right track.

The secret behind this logic is that your ex enjoys the benefits of being in a safety net. This simply means that they can enjoy the perks of going out with other people and at the same time be assured of the fact that they will always have you to run to once the dating frenzy has died down.

Once you realize that you are your ex’s backup plan, the next step for you is to work your way out of it. Before I won my ex back, I had to make him realize that I’m not someone he can expect to run to once he get bored with his dating life. To do this you have to be strong and firm. You have to ignore your broken heart for it can urge you to do things that will make your sticky situation a lot worse.

First thing you should do is to cut all forms of communication with your ex. Making yourself mysterious will make your ex girlfriend or boyfriend more curious as to what you’re up to and, most importantly, sets them off their game.

Take advantage of the networking sites. Facebook is a powerful tool and a great way for your ex to monitor your every move. Believe it or not but your ex will still be watching your every update on your page. He or she would want to be updated with how you’re dealing with the break up. Which means that your conversations with friends broadcasted online will reveal that you still have feelings for your ex losing every chance of you ever winning your ex back.

So if you don’t update your page just so he won’t see what you’re up to, why not just delete him from your friends’ list altogether? It will make things much easier for you right? Wrong. This will give your ex girlfriend or boyfriend the message that you still care. If you hadn’t cared about the breakup, your “cyber friendship” with him or her shouldn’t even bother you.

This is but an example of how you can free yourself from your ex’s safety net. Once you’ve achieved this, all you have to do is sit back and wait for your ex to knock on your door begging for you to come back.