I am getting older. Of course this is true for everyone, but it arrived for me so suddenly and I was a little unsure of how to be the best host to this arrival. I realized I am entering my Elder years and am now embracing the changes. My own parents gone and my children young men and women with their own lives and though I am loved and involved with them I feel my purpose and my position in life’s broader context to be shifting. I love the grandmother in me responding to the new babies that have arrived. But what has become apparent to me is this is not a trial run but the real lead up to the transition and that there is no turning back. I am now twice as close to my death than my birth. This fact has bought with it the movement to what is appropriate and at the same time different from any other stage of life.

We live in a culture and society full of fear about aging, a culture nearly devoid of significantly present and respected female elders, who are owning their Elderhood.

When I look around I see too many of my age group has learned to play the game of staying one step ahead or behind this demanding but beautiful aging process with chemicals, surgery and clothing that doesn’talways honor the shape or needs of our aging bodies. I have never found it a source of any benefit to have to look a certain way that fits the dictate of a culture that says being youthfully appealing will enhance your self worth. Being thin and porcelain skinned is for me an odd look on a woman entering their Third Age. Perhaps now is the time when we stop caring whether we are found attractive by other human beings. It is heartbreaking that that so many of my contempories are avoiding the possibility of embracing their Eldership, and therefore an internal world of love and acceptance.
Now is the time to start to answer to something much greater. To have our expression of our gratitude and longing for connection and the love of life be fulfilled in a freedom as we prepare for our transition. In our aging we have the opportunity to become the best version of ourselves as we begin a deeper conversation with death.

To begin this dialogue it is necessary to see death as a part of life as we seek to have some of the bigger and overarching questions answered for ourselves.

Answers that will take us to complete self acceptance and a love that belies any age. A vulnerability that asks for love and gives love and doesn’t wait for anyone to approve or disapprove

Author's Bio: 

Margo Knox is an International speaker, author and mentor for Eldership and those entering the third age
Margo has an online ezine availble from
and a 4 week Stepping up To Eldership course