You Are Capable of Unconditional Love

It has been quite some time since my last posting and oh so much has occurred in my life that words find it hard to express. However, I have been seeing a lot of articles lately about unconditional love and how we, as adults, seem to lose that ability to see love for what it is rather than always trying to look behind the scenes and analyse.

Over the past few days I have been listening to The Sedona Method by Hale Dwosking on the recommendation of a friend. Whilst I cannot quite grasp the concept just yet, I was interested to hear a story about how the creator of the Sedona Method was searching to be loved in the hope that it would bring him happiness.

Upon reflection, he realised that he had actually been loved by his wife and yet he still had an unhappiness around him. He had been loved by his children yet that unhappiness persisted. Then he realised that happiness didn’t actually come from being loved, it came from the ability to give love.

In a small way, think of when you give or receive presents. Which one feels the best? I would like to think for most people, the act of giving presents brings the better feelings inside of you. This is just the same with love, learn to give and the feelings of contentment and happiness should be yours.

Ok, but as with everything, there seems to be some difficulty pervading. The professionals tell us that whilst it is easy to give love as a child, many years of being told to control our emotions make it very hard for us, as adults, to freely show love to others. I have mostly gone through adult life believing this and that my parents had stifled any ability I had to express love.

However, only just last night, I was talking to my youngest son at bedtime and he finished off by saying “I love you daddy”.

I of course replied immediately and instinctively “I love you too Liam”

Once said, I suddenly realised that I, even as an adult am actually capable of unconditional love. To say that I loved my son came without question or reservation. No second thoughts or deliberations, just plain and true “I Love You”.

I suppose now, I must take that ability out to the adult world and not question my capability to love any more. I clearly do have it, I have maybe just believed the lie that it was knocked out of me as a child.

So, what is the purpose of this posting today? Firstly maybe it is to reinforce my belief that I am capable of unconditional love to anyone and not just my children. Secondly, I just want you to think twice about this story and consider whether your capability for love has been stifled by misbelieve or an unloving childhood.

Please don’t be like me and drive those close to you away through a disbelief in love, act now before it is too late and just tell that person you love exactly that....and mean it from your heart.

Your future deserves!