Power can mean a lot of different things to different people at different times. It’s a term often used in the corporate world – think of how many times you’ve heard the phrases “power suit” or “purchasing power”. It can also refer to the electricity that fuels our homes or the mechanical energy in a vehicle. But when it comes to people, being power-full is an entirely different concept.

The Power to Control

As a woman, you do have the power to control your life but chances are you aren’t comfortable with using it. You may have always associated the terms “power” and “control” as negative. This may be because your personal experience with someone who was labeled as powerful or controlling was a negative one. Most of us have been at a job where one of our coworkers was promoted and turned from nice to nasty when they were given power over others in the organization. That’s not the right way to use your power.

Become Empowered and Power-Full

Being powerful and taking control don’t need to be detrimental. In fact, using your personal power for positive change is a very good, healthy thing. It empowers you, allowing you to take control of your life, to honor your Self and experience what it’s like to be power-full in a way that is good for you.

The following are ways that help you understand your power and how to aim its focus for positive change in your life.

1. Know what’s important – identify your core values. When you use your power to make a change because it upholds your core values, it’s the right thing to do. Changing only because someone else expects it is not a good use of your power.
2. You are valuable; know that your are worthy. Each and every one of us has value and worth. Your core values are just as important as someone else’s. Don’t undervalue your Self.
3. Effective Communication is a means to power. You might call it the art of negotiation but the ability to communicate effectively allows you to get what you need and want. This could be the definition of power in and of itself.
4. Don’t forget others have power. You’re not the only one who is seeking positive change and honoring your own self-worth. Other people in your life are seeking the same things; allow them to use their power in a positive manner just as you use yours so that everyone benefits.
5. Pay attention to what your Self is communicating. Harnessing your power comes from more than just interacting with other people; you must learn to listen to what your Self is telling you it needs. Pay attention and honor those requests.
6. Find joy in being power-full. Positive power should bring joy – the joy to do as you wish, to have what you need, and be energized to perform at your optimum.

It takes time to identify our core values and use them as a way to become power-full but it’s time well spent. As you get more in touch with your true Self, you’ll find that acting in a power-full way comes easily and naturally.

As long as you honor your Self and your core values, being power-full is a very positive position to take. And as long as you follow the golden rule by treating others as you would like to be treated, control is not only acceptable, but a trait to be admired. So go for it! Become power-full and take control!

Author's Bio: 

Lori Chance is a collaborative writer and editor specializing in how-to, informational, spiritual, and personal development articles and books. Her self-coaching book for women titled Who Am I? is now available through Amazon and her website. Learn more about finding out who you really are and what you really want, and receive the Top 5 Secrets to Successfully Change Your Life for FREE, by visiting her website and blog at http://www.LoritheChangeAgent.com.