Most individuals will spend their entire life being told that their dreams are something that they can’t do. “There is no way that you can play football with the boys”, or “No one would make you president”, or “You can’t possibly fly planes with all girls in the military”.

It’s really hard to hear everyone around you tell you “You can’t”. Can’t is such an ugly word. The more times you hear it, the easier it is to believe the lies that are being told. You have to search for a way to respond to it. Don’t listen to it or any negative thoughts that people say about what you can do.

There are two different types of people in the world. There are those who take every no they hear for an answer, and then there are people who say ‘yes’ when people tell them that they can’t. Which type of individual are you destined to be? It’s easy to classify yourself as one or the other, but in real life we are a bit of a yes person and a little bit of a no person. There are different people in our lives that make us respond differently. For example; if someone in your life has gained your trust, like your parents, say that there is no way that you could do something, you might believe them. But, if someone that you are only acquaintances with tell you that you can’t do it you may be driven to prove them wrong.

Instead of taking the truth of others to heart, learn to say yes for yourself. The truth is, you can do anything you want. If you want to do it then know if you try your best that you can get it, no questions asked. Put the power of positive thinking to work and put your dreams and goals out there.

The first step is to focus on the positive things in your life. When you feel that something is going wrong, even something minor, you need to take the time to find something positive in it. For example:

Negative: You get wet in a rain storm.
Positive: It’s going to be great to have rain for the garden.

Negative: You get cut off by a truck.
Positive: Slowing you down may have saved you from being in an accident.

Negative: Your drop your grocery bags.
Positive: You run into someone from high school.

When you take the time to see the positive things in life, you can focus on being able to say ‘yes I can’ when others say ‘no you can’t’. Know you are worth having positive experiences in life.

You have everything it takes to make what you want to happen happen. Make sure you set your sights to it and just say YES. Take the first step to getting what you want and follow through with each consecutive step. Don’t try to jump from step one to step twelve. It’s not going to work. When you work steady and diligently to get what you want in life it will come to you. You deserve it, want it, and will accomplish it.

Don’t let difficulties, obstacles or discouragement hold you back from the life you deserve. You can have all you want by staying focused and taking it one step at a time through any controversy.

Anything is possible for you through your strength of mind and perseverance. Head toward your destiny, it’s waiting for you.

Author's Bio: 

Lori Chance is a collaborative writer and editor specializing in how-to, informational, spiritual, and personal development articles and books. Her self-coaching book for women titled Who Am I? is now available through Amazon and her website. Learn more about finding out who you really are and what you really want, and receive the Top 5 Secrets to Successfully Change Your Life for FREE, by visiting her website and blog at