Create the life you want

You don’t need to rely on others to get your needs met. Responsibility for happiness is yours. Your self-esteem is found deep inside. You surround yourself with positive energy.

You surround yourself with empowering and supportive friends. You require a profession, career, or business that expresses your skills, smarts, and passions.

Acknowledge your spiritual journey

You know you are connected to a power greater than yourself. Your spiritual path is freeing to your being. Influence means congruency, influence or ‘inner fluency’. The success of your inner fluency is to the exact degree that the beliefs you hold in your heart, the thoughts you think, the words you say and the actions you take line up.

Embrace well-being

Being selfish is essential to your self care – everyone benefits. Resolve your unfinished business. Commit to physical and emotional health.

Express authenticity

You have no room for arrogance. You identify your value and worth.

Practice forgiveness

You understand that making mistakes is human – perfection is an illusion. You learn from your errors – moving on. You don’t apologize when you are not wrong. Generosity of forgiveness profits both you and the other.

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Radiate personal power

Choices come from your internal place of power. You have the skill to reclaim your balance through your sense of self. You conduct yourself with power and grace.

Ask for guidance

Guidance is there when you ask. A friend, your spouse, and God support and guide you when you are lost. You are humble and steady.

Trust your intuition

Your intuition is connected to your soul. Your soul is your solution.

Are you looking in the mirror? How can you claim each of these ideas and celebrate your ‘inner-fluency?” 3 steps:

For the next 8 weeks incorporate each of the above ‘inner-fluency’ traits – one per week.

1. Using a tape recorder – record (talk) for 3 minutes (get your egg timer) describing you in the context of that inner-fluency trait.
a. What are my immediate thoughts on this trait? (don’t think about it too long!)
b. What role does this trait play in my life?

2. Play the recording back one week later. Listen for this:
a. How honest was I about how I truly saw this inner-fluency trait?
b. What was missing from my 3 minute recording?

3. Take out a note pad, a journal or whatever you write on and answer these 2 questions:
a. What one behavior can I implement right now to get me closer to that inner-fluency trait?
b. What 2 barriers will stop me?
c. How will I remove these barriers before they become real barriers? (Okay, I know that’s 3 questions!).

You measure of inner-fluency is the start of stepping into a world of personal freedom – taking charge of your life and living with passion.

Author's Bio: 

Karen Keller, Ph.D. is an expert in women’s leadership and assertiveness training. She is also a successful entrepreneur and author. She specializes in the skills of influence and persuasion, executive coaching, mentoring, sales techniques, management development training, motivational speaking, personal life coaching, and corporate training. Discover Influence It! Real POWER for Women now! For your free subscription visit