Your Marriage Relationship Toolbox

There are certain “talk” tools that can improve any marriage. These tools are often used with couples who sign up for marriage retreat week-ends.

Specific “talk” tools are introduced along with a process known as facilitated communication. With communication facilitated by a third party, a couple is able to learn better ways to communicate with one another as they share a renewal of their marriage during the retreat week-end.

The best way to get on track with your marriage is to actually attend a marriage retreats but the sample of a few “talk” tools shown below can show you how to begin to have better communication within your marriage.

• Watch your timing.
• Use a business-like location for your couple communication.
• Only praise, no criticism.
• You do not criticize any suggestion or idea.
• Never interrupt.
• Don’t blurt! Soften your statements.
• No re-defining the issue.
• Take time to see things from the other person’s point of view.
• Make all of your statements into questions.
• Repeat what the other person said.
• Be specific.
• Apologize, even though it’s not your fault.
• Dare to be the person your spouse wants you to be.
• Check-in, check-up but don’t check-out.