One thing that one may have heard, if they are into self-development or on the healing path, is that their wounds are their gifts. Now, if one is in a lot of pain, it can be hard for them to get their head around this.

This could be a time when they are struggling with the fear of abandonment, feel worthless, and even have moments when they feel suicidal, for instance. What this could show is that their early years were anything but nurturing.

A Focus

So through being in so much pain, their main priority could be to find a way to change their life. Moving on from what is taking place is then going to be the only thing that matters, finding their so-called ‘gifts’ will be the last thing on their mind.

In a way, it can be similar to someone who is extremely hungry told that being this way will allow them to find things that are really precious. They will be hungry and everything else can be seen as being irrelevant.

Staying With It

However, as long as they keep going and don’t give up, they are likely to find that their experience on this earth starts to change. This can be something that takes place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

The months and the years will pass by, and some of their inner wounds might not be as strong as they once were. If there are certain wounds that are still painful, having wounds that are not might make their life easier.

A New Outlook

At this point, they might start to see that due to the wounds that they have had, it has caused them to take their own path in life. As a result of the pain that they were in and the difficulties that they had, they might have simply not been able to go down the ‘normal’ path.

This might have been frustrating at the time but now they might be grateful that they have been able to step off the beaten track. And while they might still carry a fair amount of pain, this pain might not be so powerful that they are unable to experience inner peace or to feel comfortable in their own skin.

Settling Down

What this can also mean is that their wounds start to heal faster than they did before, even though their need to heal them is not as strong. This can be seen as something that is called the healing paradox.

It simply comes down to the fact that when one is attached to an outcome, it is less likely to take place. Yet, when they can let go of the need for something to happen, it is more likely to occur.

An Unexpected Outcome

Along with one taking a different route to others, there are a number of things that they can attain by having wounds and healing these wounds. For one thing, they can gain a deeper understanding of themselves and humanity as a whole.

Not only this, they can end up with a level of empathy and compassion that would probably be hard to attain any other way. They will have been to hell and back and know what it is like to truly suffer, which is why they will have the ability to understand other peoples pain and suffering and to assist them, if they so choose.

Final Thoughts

What seemed like a burden at one point in time can be seen as a blessing at another point in time. One could come to believe that they needed to go through what they went through in order to gain the understandings and the skills that they needed to fulfil their purpose on this earth.

If they hadn’t done the work that they did on themselves, though, what took place would have defined them instead of redefined them. This would have prolonged their pain and set them up to lead a miserable existence.

Author's Bio: 

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, three hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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