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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 15, 20081 topic

A Rosh Hoshana Eid

Last week marked the end of Ramadan, the Muslim month of fasting. I was particularly pleased that its end coincided with Rosh Hoshana. As a bonus, Eid, the festival following Ramadan, coincided with Gandhi’s birthday. It all seemed fitting, somehow, emphasizing our participation in an American tradition that's larger than the sum of our own traditions.nnGrowing up in Southern California at a time when I was often the only Muslim around, I often felt alone in the circle

Primary topic: Religion

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 14, 20081 topic

John McCain, Postmodern Candidate

One night after the presidential election of 2000 in November and before the ultimate resolution of that election by the United Stages Supreme Court in mid-December, as I lay in bed listening to Nightline, I heard James A. Baker III explaining to Ted Koppel why it would be wrong to supercede the mechanical counting of votes in Florida, which had favored Republican presidential candidate George W. Bush over Democratic opponent Al Gore, with manual recounts: Because, Baker argu

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonNov 7, 20081 topic

Women: How To Stop Starving Yourself Of Success

When we talk about starvation, or eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, we’re normally referring to behavior relating to food. For example, when someone is said to have the condition called anorexia, we are typically describing a behavior pattern marked by an aversion to or pushing away of food. When someone has bulimia, it typically means behavior characterized by the bingeing and purging of food (gorging on food and then inducing vomiting).nnBut when I first bec

Primary topic: Success Principles

Success Principles

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 27, 20081 topic

Tee-Time And Me-Time

Mothers live in a permanent state of guilt. How come men don't? Mothers are guilty not just about whether they work and how much they work and should they work and where they work. But they are also guilty about what they do with the few moments they can call their own. A classic example of the difference between men and women is spare time, quality time, what is known in the parenting business as "me-time". As a mother you don't get a lot of it. What do you do with it? Maybe

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonMay 14, 20081 topic

An Unnecessary Gamble: The Biggest Mistake In Retirement Investing

One of the most common mistakes made in the retirement investing world, particularly among 401(k) participants, is over-concentration in an employer's stock. In an analysis of more than 100,000 401(k) participants from companies offering stock in their 401(k) plan, more than 54 percent of employees had stock concentration levels that were greater than 20 percent of their total account, an amount that is enough to significantly decrease their median forecasts. In fact, loading

Primary topic: Investing

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJul 15, 20081 topic

Comrade Lenin: Alive and Well

The New Russia may have finally embraced free-market capitalism, but Vladimir Lenin, founder of Soviet communism and one of the great murderers of the twentieth century, still casts a long shadow across the Russian landscape. Indeed, when I journeyed to Russia with my family last summer to research my forthcoming novel, Moscow Rules, it seemed Lenin was our constant companion. His statue still looms over the gates of the city that once bore his name, with its arm heroically e

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 15, 20081 topic

My Father, the Witch Doctor

One day, back in the early 70s, my father suddenly discovered that he had the astonishing ability to talk to the dead and heal the sick (for real!).nnBy day, he was a successful interior decorator with clients ranging from the Presidents of Cuba and Haiti to assorted mobsters and the illicit rich. Mom was a brilliant, glamour-rama whose style lit up any room including when she was shaking the dice in some Havana casino.nnOvernight, our Miami home became like Lourdes as people

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 22, 20081 topic

The Dangers of Radiation

The most serious problem with the widespread use of CAT scans is the radiation these devices leave in our bodies. CAT scans are not simple chest X-rays, which deliver only a small amount of radiation. Instead, they expose the patient to a significant amount of radiation, and radiation in significant doses has been shown to increase the risk of cancer.nnWe are all exposed to "natural background radiation" -- that is, radiation from the sun, radon gas, rocks in the ground, cosm

Primary topic: Heart Disease

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 6, 20081 topic

Frequently Asked Questions

It's only been two days since I started breastfeeding and my breasts are killing me. Why?nnOnce your milk starts to come. in, and the milk volume quickly increases -- which usually occurs sometime during the first week after delivery -- your breasts have a tendency to become overfilled, or "engorged," and this can be quite painful. It may take a while for your body to learn how to regulate your milk production and for you to get the hang of breastfeeding. Until then, it is ea

Primary topic: Pregnancy

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonNov 3, 20081 topic

What Do Your Children Need To Know To Succeed in Today's World? And What Can You Do to Help Them At School And At Home?

The world is changing at an extraordinary pace. Twenty-five years ago, most young people who mastered the "3 r's" of reading, writing, and arithmetic and had a high school diploma were likely to be able to get and keep a decent job. Not so today. In research for my new book, I've come to understand that there are seven "survival skills" all young people need to master for success in today's world. The skills needed for careers, college, and citizenship have converged. Student

Primary topic: Achievement

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 24, 20081 topic

A Tricky Treat . . .

"Cemetery." Not a great way to start a conversation with a stranger, is it? Today all things deathly are impolite. But it wasn't that way in years gone by. Passing was something to be embraced. For two hundred years, urban American Christians were buried in churchyards. Then things got crowded and large cemeteries were born. Boston's Mount Auburn, Philadelphia's Laurel Hill, and Brooklyn's Green-Wood were all founded in the first half of the 19th century on rolling expanses o

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonMar 18, 20081 topic

Can Bad News (Really) Be Good News?

We're up to our eyeballs in The Information Age. This certainly shouldn't be news to anyone given the fact that we can't seem to get away from the 24/7 world that technology has afforded us. There is news, views, and supposition coming at us from every angle, including on-line versions of traditional media like newspapers and magazines, millions of websites, 24-hour TV news, emails, text messages, cell phones, satellite uplinks that connect us to far corners of the world, and

Primary topic: Financial Freedom

Financial Freedom

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 27, 20081 topic

Tuesday, September 13, 2005 (Wife In The North Excerpt)

Absent with LeavennMy husband left for London for two weeks. Let me see, how long have we lived here. Oh yes, three weeks. How pregnant am I? Seven months. How many children do I have? Two and a bit. Do I want to be here? No. Excellent. He has a deadline, he always seems to have a deadline. He is the one who wants to live up here, yet he is the one who has to work away for weeks at a time. I knew he would have to go back soon after we moved; he can do part of his job down the

Primary topic: Friendship & Loneliness

Friendship & Loneliness

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonNov 9, 20081 topic

A New Context for Schooling

Economic survival is not the only factor that we must consider as we rethink education goals for the twenty-first century. To better understand how all of our schools must adapt to new realities, we need to explore three fundamental transformations that have taken place in a very short period of time:nn * the rapid evolution of the new global "knowledge economy," with profound effects on the world of work -- all work.nn * the sudden and dramatic shift from information that is

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 12, 20081 topic

Prologue

Walter Martineck hardly knows Drew Peterson, a retired police sergeant in the Chicago suburb of Bolingbrook, but he's a good friend of Peterson's stepbrother, Tom Morphey. So it was that Martineck found himself unwittingly drawn into the events of October 28, 2007, the day Peterson's young wife, Stacy, was last seen. The prologue that follows is a dramatization based on an account Morphey reportedly gave to police, as well as statements Martineck made in the media regarding h

Primary topic: Women's Issues

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 7, 20081 topic

The Apostles Of Clean Fighting: Who Put The Rifle Into The National Rifle Association?

Why is the National Rifle Association called the National Rifle Association? It seems an odd choice considering the organization's commitment to the Second Amendment, which refers broadly to "arms," not rifles, that require keeping and bearing. Wouldn't it make more sense for the NRA to call itself the National Firearms Association or the National Gun Association? Rifle comes across as a little . . . exclusionary. I mean, what about all those millions of pistol and shotgun ow

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 6, 20071 topic

Rejected? Throw A Party!

You’re going to be rejected in life, heck it happens to me all the time. And if you haven’t experienced much rejection, I’ll bet you’re not taking many risks. Without taking risks you’ll lead a safe, predictable, and somewhat boring life. So let’s learn how to rock rejection. Read on.n nI’ve been rejected zillions of times… such as when I was a 16 year old runaway in New York City. Of course I hadn’t figured out how I&#821

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonMar 24, 20081 topic

Secret To A Successful Divorce: Instead Of An Attorney Use Self-Help, Mediation Or Collaborative Law

As a family-law attorney for over 35 years, I can tell you that the secret to a successful divorce is to minimize your involvement with the legal system and to avoid using lawyers who work in it. Where one spouse is a controller abuser -- 5 to 10 percent of all cases -- this advice does not apply, but for everyone else, going to an attorney as your first step is the worst thing you can possibly do and court is the worst possible place to settle divorce disagreements.nnHereâ

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 5, 20081 topic

How Is Sally Now?

Many people ask me, after reading Hurry Down Sunshine, how Sally is doing now. The book tells the story of Sally's first manic attack at the age of fifteen, during the summer of 1996 in New York City. My aim was to recreate the experience of Sally's astonishing leap into psychosis from both inside and out, and to show its effect on those of us who are closest to her. Writing Hurry Down Sunshine, I sometimes felt as if I was describing a great storm: an unexpected wind had com

Primary topic: Inspiration

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonMar 25, 20081 topic

Your Divorce: It’s About Time! (And Children) (And Money)

To have a better divorce, you need to take some time to read, think about and act on the advice in my book, Make Any Divorce Better, and the specific steps you can take. No matter what your situation, if you follow my advice, things will soon get better. nnAs a family law attorney for over 35 years, I can tell you that unless you face a serious emergency like those in my online âemergenciesâ article, then nThe worst thing you can do is run to an attorney before you are mo

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonAug 16, 20071 topic

Broken: Book Excerpt

ProloguennOctober 1994nnThere was a sharp rap on the door, followed by a muffled but unmistakable command from a voice outside in the hallway.nn"We want the white guy, just the white guy. We know he's in there. He comes out now and there's no trouble for anyone later."nnI was the "white guy." I knew in that instant that my family's desperate search to track me down had ended at this decayed two-story apartment in a violent pocket of Atlanta's inner city. Terrified, I rushed a

Primary topic: Addiction and Recovery

Addiction and Recovery

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 15, 20081 topic

Which Candidate Would Make The Better Pirate?

America, in a ritual that it undertakes every four years, is about to elect a president. Our choices for the highest office in the land are a man who has done absolutely nothing in two years in the U.S. Senate, Barack Obama, and a man that has done too much for too long in the U.S. Senate, John McCain.nnHow are we to judge a candidate that has not enacted any legislation and must find it bothersome to roll out of bed and vote, since he does so little of it? How can we assess

Primary topic: Humor, Fun and Games

Humor, Fun and Games

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 18, 20071 topic

The Path of Unconditional Happiness

The highest spiritual path is life itself. If you know how to live daily life, it all becomes a liberating experience. But first you have to approach life properly, or it can be very confusing. To begin with, you have to realize that you really only have one choice in this life, and it's not about your career, whom you want to marry, or whether you want to seek God. People tend to burden themselves with so many choices. But, in the end, you can throw it all away and just make

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 5, 20081 topic

Why I Wrote Hurry Down Sunshine

It was with a feeling of trepidation that I first sat down to write Hurry Down Sunshine. I don't think of myself as a memoirist in the usual sense of the word, and Hurry Down Sunshine is not about my childhood or my "awakening" or the "turning points" in my life. It's about a dramatic event that took place in the time-span of a single summer, when my daughter Sally, at the age of fifteen, had a manic breakdown.nnAfter writing about sixty pages, I decided not to go on. The sub

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 3, 20081 topic

Advice From The Underbelly

When I was pregnant with my first child, I had no absolutely no idea what to expect. I went about my business as if nothing was different. At work I'd occasionally glance down at my growing belly as thoughts of chubby, quiet, smiling babies dressed in all-white filled my mind. I had convinced myself that my life wouldn't really change.nnFast forward a few months -- I was sitting in my infant daughter's room and we were both crying. She was crying because she needed a new diap

Primary topic: Pregnancy

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 30, 20081 topic

So Whose Fault Is It When Candidates Fudge On The Federal Budget?

You may have the sneaking feeling that there's something the presidential candidates aren't telling you about the federal budget. And you're right. Here it is:nnEvery expert who looks at the federal budget uses the same word to describe it: unsustainable. The federal government is $9.5 trillion in debt already, and is projected to run a half-trillion dollar deficit next year. Plus, there are huge expenses coming up as the baby boomers retire and start needing help from Medica

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonApr 3, 20081 topic

But Don’t Forget Money

If people are Nice, Trusted, Proud, and Included, then the Recognition will certainly follow. And that doesnât mean strictly dollars and cents.nnOur strong feeling is that money is not the main reason people choose where they work for life -- for a career. After all, money canât compensate for your bossâs ignoring you and it surely canât cancel out having to work beside boorish and ill-mannered colleagues. Thatâs why people say of an offensive boss, âI wouldnât

Primary topic: Management Skills

Management Skills

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 15, 20081 topic

Divas, They're Just Like You and Me

Do you demand only the finest 1000 thread count Egyptian Cotton sheets or require that your bath be drawn only with bottled spring water? Do you insist that your coffee be stirred only counter‐clockwise? If so, then, like many celebrities, you're a diva. Are you surprised to learn that you don't need to be famous to be a diva? Don't be, because divas, they're just like you and me.nnLike many Americans who try to stay tuned in to the popular culture, I rely on a number o

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonNov 29, 20071 topic

Focusing On The Essentials

Do you think you know a leader when you see one? Most companies have the wrong notion of what a leader really is and does. Yet all the development efforts in the world can't deepen the leadership pool if they're focused on the wrong people to begin with. nnThe brilliant strategist, the creative genius, the financial engineer, and other bright people command attention and respect, and rightfully so. People recognize such individuals' knowledge and intelligence, respect their o

Primary topic: Leadership

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJun 5, 20081 topic

Healthy, Wealthy And Wise?

By the author of Forgive Us Our DebtsnnWhat two vital features of American national life are inordinately costly compared to any other country, no longer deliver world-beating results, are increasingly inequitable, are highly dysfunctional, and elicit growing anger from much of the country’s population?nnIt’s not a trick question, but the very fact of these parallels is more than worth pondering.nnThe answer -- the two H’s of health care and higher education

Primary topic: Health Products and Services

Health Products and Services

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJun 23, 20081 topic

Shrink Not -- Adjust the sail and seek The New Gold Standard of Leadership

Soaring gas prices and the US credit crunch have many business owners scurrying to reduce costs and "do more with less." But this natural and reflexive approach to economic uncertainty is often the worst path a business leader can take. In fact, while researching my recently released book The New Gold Standard: 5 Principles for Creating a Legendary Customer Experience Courtesy of The Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company, Ed Staros, a founder of the modern-day Ritz-Carlton Hotel Company

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 26, 20081 topic

My Buddy's Candle

When I finished writing this story two meaningful events occurred. One day while discussing this with a friend she told me she had the same thing happen to her. She watched her dog be run over by the school bus which was bringing her home from school. Sharing Buddy's story helped her to heal.nnThen one Saturday morning my inner voice said go to the animal shelter this morning. I have learned from experience to always listen to this voice and often feel it is coming from God k

Primary topic: Inspiration

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 9, 20081 topic

Prologue (Walking on Walls excerpt)

It was late July.nnThe summer mangoes had dropped from the trees and were lying rotting on the ground, ripped open by feasting bugs and birds. Their intoxicating, sweet smell mixed with the heaviness of the nightblooming jasmine. This languid perfume created a thick, rarefied atmosphere that at times made breathing difficult. In Miami nature is often a mix of colorful abundance and dark decay.nnThis evening I was walking home from a friend's birthday party. We had listened to

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonAug 22, 20081 topic

5 Keys To Fat Loss Success

When it comes to losing fat, success doesn't happen overnight. Sometimes it doesn't even happen over a few weeks, a few months or a few years. Don't rush it, don't crash and don't expect too much of yourself too soon. Life is for the living; for the making of mistakes and learning from them. Below I have outlined my 5 Keys to Fat Loss Success so that you can not only lose fat but keep it off -- forever:n n1. Set realistic short-term goals: The best way to think of these is as

Primary topic: Fitness and Exercise

Fitness and Exercise

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 6, 20071 topic

When What You Want Is Stalking You

When What You Want Is Stalking YounnYou know that advice people give then you're dying to buy something, "Go home, and if you're still thinking about it in a few days, go back to the store and revisit it." Frequently one you get home you realize you don't really want the item over which you lusted so heartily. Other times, you are stalked by it. You sleepwalk through your days with visions of trousers dancing in your head. Oh, the stuff in your closet you'll accessorize the p

Primary topic: Women's Issues

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 25, 20071 topic

Evaluating Your Options and Choosing Integrative Treatment

It may seem that we have a long way to go before most people have access to truly integrative cancer treatment. Academic medical centers have not yet sufficiently integrated CAM services into their conventional care models. According to research by Dr. David Eisenberg and his colleagues at the Harvard Medical School Osher Institute, none of the 39 randomly selected academic medical centers that integrate complementary and alternative medicine services into conventional care h

Primary topic: Health Education

Health Education

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJan 7, 20091 topic

New Year. New You. New Nest Egg.

Build a better nest egg with 6 easy, sound strategies for 2009.nnThe stock market lost 38% in 2008, but if you lost more than 20%, your problem wasn't really the stock market, it was the design of your nest egg. Storms occur in markets, as they do in the real world, but your home shouldn't be flooding every time it happens. nnYou know intuitively that your retirement plan doesn't work. Your nest egg has drowned twice now in the last eight years. You were elated with your retu

Primary topic: Financial Freedom

Financial Freedom

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 3, 20081 topic

Five Quick and Easy Recommendations for Career Women

1. Know how to shake hands. Your grip must be firm and you must make eye contract. Smile and squeeze. Human contact is the first step in initiating a relationship.nn2. Determine what you and/or your services are worth right from the start. Don't sell yourself cheap at the beginning just to get some business. If you or your product are too cheap, you won't attract the best customers. I had the same price for the first several years, which was significantly higher than my more

Primary topic: Career Coach and Career Coaching

Career Coach and Career Coaching

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 5, 20081 topic

Hurry Down Sunshine Excerpt

On July 5, 1996, my daughter was struck mad. She was fifteen and her crack-up marked a turning point in both our lives. "I feel like I'm traveling and traveling with nowhere to go back to," she said in a burst of lucidity while hurtling away toward some place I could not dream of or imagine. I wanted to grab her and bring her back, but there was no turning back. Suddenly every point of connection between us had vanished. It didn't seem possible. She had learned to speak from

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 7, 20081 topic

America's Greatest Gunmaker?: Nobody You Know

Who was the most important gunmaker in American history? There must be at least half a dozen -- and maybe up to a score if you thought hard about it -- leading contenders. Let me get into the spirit of things by naming, off the top of my head and in no particular order, Oliver Winchester, Samuel Colt, Messrs. Horace Smith and Daniel Wesson, Christopher Spencer, John Browning, Christian Sharps, the Remington brothers, John Garand, Eugene Stoner . . .nnEach and every one of the

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJul 16, 20081 topic

Not Just For Kids -- The Surprising Health Issues Of Midlife Women

One of the advantages of reaching midlife is that we are finally finished with all those issues that make childhood and adolescence such a pain in the neck, such as needing set bedtimes as well as regular dental and eye checkups; having to worry about using protection during sex and about cigarette smoking; getting all those shots to prevent diseases and wearing helmets to prevent sports injuries; needing to eat all our vegetables and avoid sugar as well as not missing gym cl

Primary topic: Health Education

Health Education

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonApr 21, 20081 topic

Spiraling Health Care Costs

Americans are deeply unhappy with the country's health care programs and costs. And rightly so. As one author observed, "A recent survey showed that only 17 percent of respondents in the United States were content with their health-care system . . . Why the discontent? The superficial reasons are simple enough to describe: the system is hugely expensive, very bureaucratic, and extremely patchy. The expenses first: U.S. health care costs a third more, per person, than that of

Primary topic: Health Products and Services

Health Products and Services

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 7, 20081 topic

Three Presidents And The Rifle

Three of our presidents have been particularly fascinated by rifles: George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, and Theodore Roosevelt. But all for different reasons. nnWashington was what we would call an "early adopter" of rifle technology. As early as the French and Indian War (1754-1763), when he was first baptized into frontier warfare, the young, ambitious officer owned his own rifle. This was at a time when few, apart from frontiersmen, even knew what one was.nnIn 1775, for i

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonSep 27, 20081 topic

Flinchlessness

You flinch . . . you lose.nnImagine skiing at over 130 mph on skis and you catch an edge. One instinctive flinch to catch your balance and you lose any chance at winning the race. The challenge is overcoming the protective instinct to throw your hands out for balance while maintaining stability and maintaining your line.nnIn a sale, negotiation or even a debate, flinch and you lose ground. In a world of incredible speed the lost ground might be too much to recover from.nnImag

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonApr 25, 20081 topic

Parenting And Divorce: It’s About You!

As a parent, you are at the center of your childâs life, but first you are at the center of your life, and what your child needs more than anything is for you to be okay. Being OK will also improve your negotiations with your Ex over all issues. nnThere are a lot of things you canât change, canât control, so you have to play the hand youâve been dealt. But the one thing you can do something about, the one thing you can control, is how you react to things that happen.

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 24, 20081 topic

Why They Talked, and What They Want

A great gulf exists between American military and civilian societies. But paradoxically, it can be hard to tell young veterans of our wars in Iraq and Afghanistan from their peers who haven't served. As I wrote a book about West Point recently, I would visit with vets who had left the Army and were attending some of America's most prestigious universities. I was struck that the veterans were often the ones walking around campus with the longest hair, and the most stylish clot

Primary topic: Inspiration

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonOct 3, 20081 topic

War In Iraq, George W. Bush

Accomplished? On May 1, President Bush triumphantly proclaimed the end of combat operations, and he did it with a theatrical flourish. Attired in a Navy flight suit, the former Air National Guard trainee (Bush had actually cut short his flight training to participate in a political campaign) landed ceremoniously on the deck of the aircraft carrier Abraham Lincoln off San Diego. Bush emerged from the plane under a banner stretched across the carrier's super structure. "Mission

Primary topic: Writing Tools

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonJun 24, 20081 topic

Meeting Your Change Muscle

During change, most of us feel weak and incapable. We haven't been told that we can get through things, so we automatically assume that we can't. But I'm here to remind you that you're much stronger than you've ever imagined. You've already been through many more changes than you realize, and you've helped hundreds of people through change just by being a friend You have been exercising your change muscle for your entire life. This muscle has nothing to do with how old, educa

Primary topic: Goal Setting

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonDec 6, 20071 topic

Replace Fear with Trust

On the first day of school, within the first two minutes, I discuss this issue with the children. While most classrooms are based on fear, our classroom is based on trust. The children hear the words and like them, but they are only words. It is deeds that will help the children see that I not only talk the talk but walk the walk.n nI use the following example with the students on their first day. Most of us have participated in the trust exercise in which one person falls ba

Primary topic: Positive Thinking

Positive Thinking

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By Carol Tavris and Elliot AronsonNov 29, 20071 topic

Turn Selling Around

The heart of the new approach to selling is an intense focus on the prosperity of your customers. This is a radical departure from what most salespeople and selling organizations do. The entire psychological orientation is shifted 180 degrees. No longer do you measure your own success first. Instead, you measure success by how well your customers are doing with your help. You're not focused on selling a specific product or service; you're focused on how your company can help

Primary topic: Sales Training

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