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By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Victim, Survivor or Thriver? How They Are Different and What You Can Do To Move On.

Each experience is telling us something about ourselves, other people, the society we live in, the country, the world. The messages we receive from our experience are filtered through our belief system, previous experience and cultural norms. For example, one person may see adversity as something they will never recover from, someone else takes difficulties and hard knocks as opportunities to review what they are doing and make a fresh start. How you deal with a difficult life challenge, how it changes you, who you become, what you learn from it - are entirely yours to choose.

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

7 Keys to living with Intention, Meaning and Purpose

Are you living life or is life living you? Do exte al events or people push you into a negative state difficult to escape from? Or is it you who determines your experience of life? What happens in life cannot be controlled. Many things in life are imposed on you whether you like it or not. However, just as a competent surfer does not control the wave but masters the art of riding it, you too can determine how you deal with challenges. How to direct your own course and travel life’s currents in ways that are meaningful to you? Use your free will.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,773 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Psychological Flexibility - The #1 Skill for Turbulent Times

Life is rarely a smooth ride where everything goes to plan. There are many uncertainties, unpredictabilities and hiccups along the way. But the more you are able to adapt to new conditions, the less painful the process becomes.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,682 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Is Frustration Ruining Your Peace Of Mind? Manage Life’s Challenges with Greater Ease and Calm.

Who has not found themselves irritated or dismayed about things happening in their lives? Frustration is more common and socially acceptable than anger and rage but it fulfils a similar function and if chronic is also very damaging. The ‘Benefits’ of Being Frustrated.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,627 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

How To Set Boundaries and Stand Your Ground

Boundaries are important. From a psychological perspective, boundaries are the mental, emotional, spiritual or relational limits on who and what kind of influences you accept into your life. How you expect to be treated depends on your personal history and self-evaluation. This is different for each person and circumstance. What is acceptable in one case and with one person, may not be tolerated in other instances. The cost of weak boundaries.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,607 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Intuition - How to access, develop and use it in your own life

Intuition - the ‘sixth sense’ - has had a rather chequered history. At various times it was considered a gift bestowed on only a few, a curse leading to persecution or a form of woo-woo imagination children were taught to suppress. Although some individuals seem naturally wired for strong intuitive abilities - as others are for athletic or musical talents - that kind of intelligence can be enhanced by most sensitive people. What form does intuition take?r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,532 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past

Why Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,520 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Forgiveness - Why You Should Consider It And How To Forgive.

A gift to yourself The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!! Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,506 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Forgiveness - What If You Have To Forgive Yourself?

Sometimes it is easier to forgive the actions of another person than your own transgression or mistake. Your life may have changed because of you doing something or not doing something: If only I had not been so …. It’s all my fault. They’ll never forgive me. I can never forgive myself. You may be beating yourself up, stuck in self-recrimination, guilt and shame, because of something you did or did not do. But there is no benefit to self-condemnation. It does not change anything. Only choosing different behaviours or making amends for your actions will make a difference for the future.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,499 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Why Memories Remain Painful Even After Long Time And How To Loosen The Hold Of The Past

Why Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,497 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

How Psychological Abuse Damages Your Self.

Psychological abuse leaves no visible marks and often remains hidden within families, romantic relationships, toxic individuals and groups, cults and organisations of various religious and non-religious orientations. However, it is at least as damaging as the more explicitly violent forms of physical and sexual abuse. Mental, emotional and spiritual abuse leaves lasting damage to a person’s sense of self, confidence and ability to navigate life successfully.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,493 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Self-Pity Is Toxic. Choose Self-Compassion Instead

Unwanted changes, unexpected challenges, loss, disappointments, abuse or other forms of adversity often bring with them hurt or harm. Feelings of self-pity are quite normal and understandable. Life has changed in some way and often not for the better. It is only natural to feel sorry for yourself when you are having a hard time. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging that you are suffering and unsure how to cope. But if self-pity takes over and you don’t reign it in, it is a very problematic emotion. The Problem with Self-Pity.r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,457 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Why Empaths And Sensitives Must Take Special Care Of Their Energies

A finely tuned perception is one of the main characteristic of empaths and sensitives. They pick up on very subtle non-verbal clues, feeling the energy and emotions of others, even if they are not obviously displayed. Body language, facial expressions or simply the energy of a person are enough to perceive what is really going on. Sensitives notice when someone is inauthentic and are not easily fooled by outward appearances.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,429 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

How Fear Traps You Into Being Someone You Are Not

The fear response is triggered when facing danger. The ‘danger’ could be not measuring up to a desirable or imposed standard, not getting done what you set out to do, not fulfilling your own or other people’s expectations, being seen as less than perfect or failing at something. There is also the ‘danger’ of not fitting in and being noticeably different to the norm. All these fears and anxieties have their origin in you questioning your ability to cope with life’s challenges and people’s responses to your actions.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,367 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

What Role Does A Difficult Past Play In Your Life?

For many individuals, the past is not past but remains an ever-present influence in their present life. Even though the physical effects of past events often demand more attention, the psychological legacy may be much more difficult to move on from. If past events are processed as experiences to learn from and grow as a person, pain and upset can be transformed into greater wisdom and strength. However, if not resolved, past challenges keep us hooked into the emotional charge of the time. Loss and Grief.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,358 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life!

Beliefs create Reality. Why do some people have a succession of abusive partners? Why do many adults suffer with addiction problems despite having seen the devastation it caused in their family when growing up?

Primary topic: Psychology

1,288 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

How to stop your Inner Critic sabotaging your Happiness and Success.

Know your Inner Critic. Most people believe and feed an inner critic who points out faults and flaws, dwells on the negative, and is often downright abusive. This can lead to procrastination, inactivity or avoidance. It affects your emotions, your self-esteem, confidence, courage and joy of life. And most of all it diminishes your trust in your own strengths and abilities. Self-criticism. Being overly critical and dissatisfied with yourself. Often based on unrealistic and unreasonable expectations about who you should be and how you should act. Judging yourself negatively.r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,281 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

5 Ways To Boost Your Self-esteem.

A sense of self-worth, self-respect and confidence that you can handle what life presents to you are all features of self-esteem. But appreciating and liking yourself is not always easy, especially if your sense of self was seriously undermined in your youth, toxic relationships, negative cultural influences or major life changes. Don’t let them determine your sense of value, instead resolve to get to the truth of who you are and form your own view of yourself. Take Charge of your Progress.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,269 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Depression May Be Induced By Stress. Manage It With These 8 Tips.

The word depression is used in different contexts. Some people claim it for minor problems like being disappointed, hurt or discouraged. Others use it to describe feelings of such heaviness and dejection that they are barely able to function. Symptoms may be so severe that it becomes a life-long debilitating condition where clinical interventions are warranted to redress chemical or hormonal imbalances within the body.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,269 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Invest In Yourself: 5 Tips For Self-care That Helps You Be Your Best.

In a busy life, self-care is often pushed aside or given low priority. Perhaps a weekly yoga class or run around the block on weekends are all you can fit in. But for optimal functioning you need to invest in your mind and emotions as well as your physical health.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,268 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

5 Marketing Tactics Used By Predators To Draw In Their Victims

When individuals are trapped in or have left abusive situations, they often ask themselves: How did I get into this? Why did I fall for it? How could I be so naive? Why did I not respond to red flags earlier? They experience much self-recrimination and shattered confidence in their judgment of people and situations. While ultimately every choice is each person’s own responsibility, the mechanics of sinister recruitment and manipulation are easy to fall prey to.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,244 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

The One Person You Always Need To Trust Is You!

Most successful and beneficial relationships include an element of trust. Expecting loyalty, reliability and trustworthiness you assume that the other person will do what they say, that their word can be relied upon and that promises, commitments and agreements will be kept. When trust is broken it leads to disappointment, suspicion and damaged relationships that are hard to repair. As it relates to the interactions you have with other people, this kind of trust has an exte al focus. But there is an even more important kind - the trust you have in yourself.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,213 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Counter Stress with Serenity! Find out how you can fit it into your busy life

Everybody knows about stress. Too much to do, too little time, problems, issues, irritations and whatever else makes life complicated and frantic. But serenity? Isn’t that a very old-fashioned idea with no relevance in the modern world? Quite the contrary, it is essential for well-being and counteracting the damaging effects of stress on body, mind and soul. But how to practise it in a fast-paced life?

Primary topic: Psychology

1,198 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Overwhelmed by Difficult Emotions? How to Take Charge and Calm Emotional Storms.

Feelings come in waves, often appearing out of the blue, triggered by a memory, words overheard, pictures or experiences. The more we are trying to reign them in, suppress or ignore them, the stronger and more persistent they get - if not in the moment then sometime later, even after many years. The Gang of 3: Emotions, Mind and Body.r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,178 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Meet Drama With Detachment - The #1 Skill For Coping In Today’s World.

Detachment is not about being aloof or withdrawing from the world. We can be passionate, involved, enthusiastic and engaged with life in all its forms. Living in seclusion may help some people to go deep within, but for others that sort of separation from the world is not desired or possible. The detachment contemplated in this article is an internal process to be undertaken while remaining immersed in life matters.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,169 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Why You Need A Strong Sense of Self And How To Boost It.

When life is busy or challenging, most people get so caught up in what goes on in their head that they forget all about the rest of their body. But problems and difficulties are best addressed with the whole of you. If you focus on your issues with a strong sense of self - rather than only your mind - your confidence and inner compass have a solid base for operating in the world. This is enhanced by being fully present in the here and now - rather than dwelling on the past or projecting thoughts into the future.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,135 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Why You Need to Cultivate Self-Love

Self-love - really? Isn’t it conceited, selfish, unpleasant, arrogant, narcissistic, vain and full of false pride? It is, if ego-based and full of self-importance. However, there is a different kind of self-love you really need. The right kind of Self-Love.r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,112 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Empowerment! The 11 Qualities You Need To Be In The Driver’s Seat Of Your Life.

Empowerment! The 11 Qualities You Need To Be In The Driver’s Seat Of Your Life. You are the authority in your life although it might not always seem that way. When exte al circumstances or events impose conditions that are not of your choosing you might feel powerless and loose hope of ever being fully yourself. Other people move on from adversity and thrive with new qualities and strengths. They understand that even though many things may be beyond their control, nobody and nothing can take away their power to determine their inner life and response to life’s challenges.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,089 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Upgrade Your Psychological Toolkit To Make Sure You Are Prepared For Life’s Challenges

Each person has their own ‘toolkit’ of psychological qualities. They guide how life is lived, the choices made, inclinations and preferences, connections with other people and performance at work. Among them are characteristics like calmness, independence, diligence, friendliness, creativity, courage and so on.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,081 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

The Must Have Habit For Living An Intentional Life - Your Own Life Audit.

Businesses perform audits of goods and services, management structures, staff performance and anything else relevant to the particular company. Often this results in internal adjustments and restructures. On a personal level we can also benefit from stopping and reflecting on how we are travelling. Following great upheavals we might be forced by circumstance to take stock and assess how to deal with it, what needs to be done, what resources and options are available. But there is much to be gained by doing it as a regular practice.

Primary topic: Psychology

1,071 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Inner Strength: How To Build A Firm Foundation For Living Your Best Life.

Inner strength is created though effort and determination. At the core of it is the trust that one way or another you will be able to deal with whatever you may encounter in life - whether it be a crisis or simply the challenges of daily life. If you do not let them crush you, hardship and adversity provide a opportunities to steel your inner fortitude. But you can also develop and strengthen it by deliberately enhancing key psychological attributes that will make you stronger and more resilient: Strengthen your Sense of Self.r

Primary topic: Psychology

1,062 views

By Christiana StarRecently published1 topic

Be Your Own Authority and Practise Choice In Everyday Life.

Every day is full of decisions: what to wear, what to buy for dinner, which way to go, who to contact, when to take the dog for a walk … But while those ‘small’ choices might affect how your day goes, it is the big ones that have a significant effect on your life. To work out the choices you can realistically make, ask yourself which things are beyond your control, which are within your control or at least something you can influence. Then make the most important choice of all: to be in the driver’s seat of your life and exercise your free will wherever possible!

Primary topic: Psychology

1,048 views

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