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Hi Dennis, I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of man they desire so naturally I have been doing my research on how the other side goes about this. From a woman's perspective, you are 100% on target. Just reading what suggestions you ...
Hello Doc, I’m sure you've been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I've been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn’t ...
Hi, There's this guy at work that I've really hit it off with. We've been flirting lots but have also chatted lots and I started falling for him and thought he felt the same. We'd been texting and the other night we'd both been drinking, him out with his mates, me at home. When he got back into ...
Hello Doc - Is a bookshop or a music shop a good place to ask women out? If so, how do you start a conversation? Wouldn't it be strange? You see, I haven't met anyone that great through friends or at bars and clubs. I also wanted to know what to do when either you or she is with a group of ...
Hey Doc: I'm 21 years old and this girl that I've been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon. This girl has been really down on the dumps with personal problems, losing family members, etc. and we've been keeping each other "company" if you will. I want more than that however. I have a feeling ...
Doc: Ever since I started living with my boyfriend I've caught him masturbating. At the beginning he would watch porno and masturbate, I told him this really upset me and he said that he wouldn't do it again. He also eventually got rid of all the porno. Well everything was good - or at least ...
Dr. Dennis, So I am about to tu 33. I’m financially stable and have a great career. But when it comes to dating I don't feel like I’ve found the "1" so I am starting to think about having a baby on my own... scary. I know it's not the ideal idea. Trust me, I imagined having met Mr. Amazing ...
Hello! Thank you so much for your time and attention. I have been living with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He doesn’t like my father as according to him "my view of men is distorted by the secretive way he (my father) acts towards my mother". According to him my insecurities and ...
Dr. Neder: I read one of your articles about how to keep my boyfriend interested in me sexually. You said to try to change things up but honestly I feel like I just want to be myself because if he fell in love with who I am then why should I change just for him to show interest in me again? He ...
Last year, I met a 36 year-old man (I am 45) and when we instantly connected. We met through a dating site. He picked me up at home and the rest is history. He knew I was falling for him and began to retreat. He travels a lot with his job but I wasn't used to how to handle a long distance ...
I’ve been seeing this girl for 3 weeks now. We recently bumped into each other at a get together and were childhood sweethearts - big crushes on each other! Just a few days ago we where at a bar and her roommate introduced her to a friend and he instantly started hitting on her, right in front ...
My boyfriend and I have been dating about a year. We have a good relationship and we're both sure we want to continue moving forward. We live about 700 miles apart and see each other 1-2 times a month. Here's the problem: my boyfriend has been single almost all of his adult life. He's enjoyed ...
Dear Dr. Neder: I have been divorced for 16 years and focused most of that time on raising my two children. I have dated a few men however I seem to be attracted to losers. Now that my kids are grow I would like to find someone to settle down with again. It is hard to find single men my age. ...
Hi Doc: I am 30 years old and have never been on a date. I had very bad anxiety because of my obsessive compulsive disorder. It's not as bad now, but I don't have much experience talking to people. I talk to people at work and they want to help me, but I fear I am not experienced enough. I ...
Good Morning --- I really enjoy reading your website! I would like to know, why do men sometimes just cut you off (no communication) when they are dealing with their problems. Long story short, I met someone last April --- things started out great, but then I found out he had been separated ...
Hi, I first met this guy through mutual friends about 2 months ago. The second time we all hung out during 4th of July in which case, he instantly showed me interest and invited me to another party. We flirted heavily and had a good time until 4 am. When we parted he invited me to hang out with ...
I've been dating the same guy on and off for 3 years and I think it’s about time for a change considering that he never does anything to make me feel special. The problem is that I can’t seem to meet a 'nice guy' in the city I live. I have considered moving however my career keeps ...
Dear Dr. Neder: My boyfriend and I have only been dating a year and 2 months. I do really care for him and I pray he cares for me as well. Here is my concern, he has hidden things from me before, and I have found out and now I'm getting afraid he is doing it again. He has promised me that he ...
Hi Dr. Neder, I'm trying to approach and meet a girl I see frequently on the way to work in the morning at the train station. What is the best approach and what do I say at first to get her trust and interest? Please let me know what you ...
Do women even want a nice guy anymore? I've been a nice guy all my life. Upbringing taught me to be nice to everyone. I open doors for women, compliment them, laugh with them, do nice things for them such as favors and such. What do I get in return? “You’re so sweet and ...
Hi Dennis, I like this guy. He’s one of those really hot guys that every girl likes and he knows it and he seems stuck up and conceited about it. He knows all the women want him and definitely knows he's hot stuff but all the times I have talked to him he seems nice. So today I saw him ...
Hey Doc! I've been dating off and on since my divorce a few years ago. I generally am completely open with my dates, and willingly share information about my life history. I've just met a gal who is a Psychologist. She has challenged my practice, saying that there are some things that are ...
Hi Dennis, I read your books, and like their practicality. I have one question of theoretical nature: why is it that woman usually do have had more previous relationships than men, although they are 'supposed' to be the more monogamous gender? Are they just trying a lot more short-term ...
Dear Dennis, Five years ago, I hired this bright, good looking employee. She delivered her results well, and soon moved to an assistant manager position through department assessments. All through, I heard of her 'negativity' and 'attitude', from female managers, and felt this may be female ...
Hey Doc, I'm writing to you again not because I'm in a jam, but because I want to learn from a previous relationship. My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. It was cold-hearted and all of a sudden. We dated for 4 months and were so glad to have found each other. Nonetheless, after ...
My Wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have 2 beautiful boys and a girl (7, 4 and 5 y/o.) Lately it has been totally impossible to get her to have "alone time" with me. I have tried talking to her, flirting with her and just doing special romantic things for her but every night ...
I’ve been friends with this girl all through high school but since December we have been best friends. The past 2 months we have brought our friendship to a new level - friends with benefits you could say. She has been going out with another guy for about 2 years but they were on a "break" ...
Hello Doc, For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of man that you've seen from your experience for these women to date or marry? For instance, when us ladies are out on the prowl for a nice gentleman what are some qualities to look ...
Hello Doc: I like this girl in my class and everyday before I go to school I am confident about approaching her. Every time I get the chance to however, I get all stiff. Today for example, when I was sitting only a few inches from her I couldn't even bring myself to talk to her. Can you tell me ...
Hi Dr. Neder, I LOVE your books! They really helped me and this letter is an example of what I’ve learned. I was walking out of this building on campus and by chance I see this girl walking next to me. Every one around was wearing kind of uniform for orientation and I thought that would be a ...
Hey Doc: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she wants. We were together for just over 3 years and have our problems like any relationship. I have a hard time expressing my deep feelings and at times I am independent and distant I ...
Hey Doc: I had a friend that is very important to me ask me out. I told him he was important, but just a friend. I didn't say “yes” to him because mostly I've been thinking about a couple of other guys, one in particular, that I want to go out with. They seemed to have shown signs ...
Hey Dennis, I need some help on communication. I have trouble with communication. For some reaso I am just not effective at communicating; especially with women. I really just don't know how to communicate effectively. I've heard that the key to communication is to listen, ask questions about ...
My boyfriend and I are in our late 30’s and have been dating for over 3 years. Today, in a casual conversation we were talking about our future and he made the comment, "I was talking to someone about our situation and..." The gist was that he was talking to this person about saving money to buy ...
Hello Dennis: I recently started a graduate (doctorate) program where I have to keep a 3.5 GPA or else I will get kicked out. It's kind of a conditional thing...err sort of. So no guarantees I'm going to get my doctorate. You know what I mean. Also you can’t get any C, D, or F grades. So ...
Hello! I have a fairly serious issue regarding my parents and my relationship with my boyfriend. I am 22 years old and I live completely on my own, however, my parents still give me problems about my boyfriend. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years. I love him very much and he ...