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How many times have you heard this when you ask someone how they’re doing: “I’m FINE! And you?”…and, you simply KNEW that you were being fed a line of hooey? How often has that happened to you with men as opposed to women? Perhaps, in these times, it’s an even more important question to ask, “When you hear it, and you know it’s BS, what do you do (particularly when it’s a friend)?”
Do you have trust issues with your partner (and/or someone you’re not romantically involved with)? If you don’t, you’re a rarity. With so many couples I work with, it looks like communication’s a major issue (which it is), but more often than not, the more fundamental issue you’re dealing with is what you trust and what you don’t with your partner. If you’re in this dilemma, odds are that your willingness to mend your heart, and get majorly re-connected with your partner has become inextricably linked with your mind demanding that the other person prove to you that they’re trustworthy.
Today I’m Asking You: What Do We Do? Rather than giving you my relationship advice like I do in most of my blogs, I’m going to do something a little differently today! Rather tha “teach” anything, I am simply sharing some questions around how men and women relate to each other. When men and women don’t relate to each other, it can lead to devastating results and enormous missed opportunities, so this is an important topic. Have you experienced “mixed messages” in a relatio
CAUTION: If you happen to be someone who doesn’t have ANY kind of Spiritual path/philosophy you care about (or don’t believe YOU have a Spirit that guides you in any way), please don’t read any further. Doing so will either confuse you and/or piss you off.
Today’s blog is about pain and the prescription for it, all rolled into one! First, let’s talk about the pain. I hear all kinds of complaints about men from women. I hear frustration, genuine conce and fears that mostly centre around the fact that they don’t feel they’re getting what they need. From men, I also hear frustration, that they’re feeling stuck and bored, and like they’re just going through the motions. What’s behind these feelings? More importantly, what can we
Three years ago, a young 22-year-old man my son knew was walking along a local overpass that is one of the busiest traffic corridors in the Boulder area. For some reasons that we’ll never really know, this young man – deeply loved by his family and his friends – made a decision; one that ignited ripples of impact across the lives of so many other people. He decided to follow through with a choice he must have made before even getting to the overpass. He went to the railing, hiked one leg and then the other over the railing, and made the last decision of his life when he jumped.
Ok, if you’re not a Pink Floyd fan – and/or haven’t listened to the Dark Side Of The Moon album (it’s been pointed out to me recently, by the way, how badly I’m dating myself by even using the term “album”) – this article may take you a bit more time to get in the groove of. There’s a song on the Dark Side album called “Speak To Me/Breathe.” The first verse contains the following lyrics: Breathe, breathe in the airr Don’t be afraid to carer Leave but don’t leave mer Look around, choose your own groundr For long you live and high you flyr
In my work as a Relationship Architect, I hear so many questions come up – and some more than others. One of the most common questions I get from couples in short-term and long-term partnerships is around relationship expectations. What do you expect of me? What do you need me to do? What should I do? Check out this video for a discussion. And while this can be a really reasonable question to ask – one might even say it’s smart – it can also be one of the dumbest questions
Whether or not you’re currently in a relationship with a lover/partner/spouse, you know that relationships of ALL kinds are a crucial ingredient in what makes life worth living (at least that’s how I look at it). You probably also know that managing a relationship with anyone easily and quickly can turn into seriously tricky business at the drop of a hat.
Do you ever notice how much time you spend trying to “figure out what’s going on” in your life…and in your relationship, if you’re in one? If it ends up being a fair amount of time, how’s it working for you? When you do get some “answers,” what’s the most common result you get from having obtained that answer? Furthermore, where do those “answers” most frequently come from for you?…others?….your mind?….your heart?….or, from your intuition?
Sadly, along all the political back and forth that is polarizing men and women and in many of the relationships I see, I fear humanity is getting thrown in the rubbish. Relationships haven’t been about connecting and community. It’s been about men vs. women. It’s been about truth vs. lies. It’s been about integrity. We forget that yes, we have these human bodies, and we identify ourselves as different genders. However, regardless of the body and gender identity, we are huma
Sometimes, less is more. If you apply that maxim to relationships, what kinds of questions or thoughts does that conjure up for you? Where do you imagine that would be true for you and your partner? Maybe it could apply to how much time you both spend distracting yourselves…maybe it’s about ways you complicate things that don’t need to be complicated!
It started before the election returns were even coming in, much less votes being cast. After months of being saturated with the incessant doom and gloom (great new Rolling Stones song about that, by the way) of all the political advertising, the media immediately pounced on the next thing for us all to be worried about within hours of the election being decided: the fiscal cliff.
It’s kind of a funny thing, that expression “It scared me to death.” [Recently discussed by Geoff at Debbie LaChusa's Money Success Happiness blog at www.moneysuccesshappiness.com] In my work with people, and in my own personal life, one of the biggest components of happiness, success, obstacles, or challenges always seems to boil down to one thing: FEAR. Now, you may think you know what fear means… you certainly know what it feels like… but let me paraphrase a definitio I like a lot: Forgetting Everything’s All Right.r
Ah, love. Whether you’re in the infatuation stage, a newlywed, or having some troubled times in your marriage, it’s normal to ask, “How long is my relationship going to last?” I’ve had several couples lately – some in a pretty new relationship and others who have been together for decades – and as I dig deeper to find out what’s causing this constant questioning, the number one thing I come up with is: fear. https://youtu.be/tnH9OMQgKW4 The fears that come up a lot are: “
It’s time to share a relationship question you need to ask when something has gone south with your partner, in order to start healing and righting the ship. Before I share that question with you, I’m going to share a similar one I heard at an event recently. Jack Canfield, an author, motivational speaker, corporate trainer, entrepreneur and co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series asked: What if we went through life every day with a perspective that says “I will ac
I bet you haven’t even thought about this reason for relationship conflict! I remember learning this theory 25 years ago, and it’s still not really “out there” in the mainstream. So many of us have stuff we haven’t worked through or resolved. As a result, we may feel let down and reactive towards our partner for not giving us what we need, leading to arguments and resentment. What we don’t realize is that this relationship conflict is not about them, it’s about us. There’s