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By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

How Self-Esteem Issues Show Up

Most people experience self-doubt on a regular basis and I am not immune. I have spent entirely too much of my life trying to accept myself as I am. While easy for me to see how wonderful and special you are, it was a challenge for many years to see myself in the same light. It’s no wonder that my first book focuses on “self-discovery and acceptance.” And it’s no wonder that my journey led me into psychiatric nursing and success coaching not only to work on my own personal development, but to assist others in their personal leadership development as well.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

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By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

What If YOU Were Front Page News? Four Steps to Freedom from Secrets

“You cannot look at someone’s exterior and know what’s going on inside.” This quote from the book The Journey Called YOU is a very profound statement because what it means is that looks can be very deceiving; someone who seems to have it all together may in fact be living a life of lies.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

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By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

What Does "Being a Nurse" Mean To You?

Being a nurse used to be associated with the white starched dress uniform and cap. When you saw someone in that uniform, it meant purity, compassion and care. It also used to mean handmaiden or the “one who takes orders.” These days few people still wear white and even fewer wear dresses. Many ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

30,287 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Staying Positive in a Negative Environment

Staying Positive in a Negative Environment By Julie Fuimano, Executive Coach Probably one of the hardest things we must do as leaders is to stay positive when everyone else around us is negative. It’s not easy to maintain a positive attitude and not be drained or consumed by the negativity that ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

11,457 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Tools For Enforcing Personal Boundaries

Has anyone ever spoken to you in an inappropriate manner? Often people are caught off guard and are not prepared to handle these challenging situations. But, as a leader, whenever you are in a situation that’s uncomfortable, it’s imperative that you speak up; the person needs to know that the ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

7,557 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Six Steps to Managing a Negative Work Environment

Does your work environment bring out the best in you or the worst? When you leave work, do you feel drained, exhausted and even angry? Do you generally feel like you are dodging bullets all day? It happened to me the other day. As a practicing RN, I take shifts at a local, acute care psychiatric hospital.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

6,907 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

The Art of Prioritizing

There’s an art to getting things done without creating a stressful environment. When you find yourself with too many things to do and not enough time to do them, stress rises. And at times, panic can set in. Instead of trying to schedule it all in, take some time to identify your priorities. ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

6,874 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

BE CONSTRUCTIVE, NOT DESTRUCTIVE

Throughout the day, you greet people, have conversations, and attend meetings. Every communication impacts you in some way, either adding value to you or depleting you. Communication is an extremely potent personal power and you need to learn to use it wisely. For instance, do your ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

6,318 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

The Elements Of A Great Manager

As you know, being a manager is no easy task. And if you’ve been promoted from a technical position you may not be prepared to meet the demands of your new position. For some, managing comes naturally while others struggle with creating cohesive teams, handling staff difficulties and producing ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

5,743 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Powerful Communication: Apology Do’s and Don’ts

Do you apologize for anything and everything? Do you apologize for things that are completely out of your control? How about apologizing for other people’s behavior? Do you tend to apologize just to see if the other person will apologize? An apology can be a very cathartic act. It can mend fences and build bridges. It is an act of a true leader when you are able to admit a wrong or mistake. An apology done well is powerful. For this reason, making an apology should be taken very seriously.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

5,059 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Are You Committing Lateral Violence?

What? Lateral violence? What’s that? Lateral violence, also known as horizontal abuse or violence, is the disruptive, disrespectful or antagonistic behavior of others on the same hierarchical level within an organization. Lateral violence, in essence, is abusive acts committed against people you work with; people just like you who are making a living doing something they (hopefully) enjoy, and who are doing the best they can.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

4,981 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Managing Impressions

Every morning you get out of bed and go about your day. You say good bye to your spouse, get the kids off to school, and make your way to your job. At work, you attend meetings, greet customers, and chat with colleagues. Maybe you go to the gym a few times during the week. Weekends, you spend ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

3,300 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Conflict...A New Perspective

I was recently asked to address the issue of conflict resolution at the hospital of one of our clients. In today’s fast-paced and stressed-out society, conflict resolution is a critical issue. People don’t always have the time or the tools to handle conflict. The word ‘conflict’ connotes ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

3,050 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Overcoming Self-Doubt

Everyone experiences self-doubt at some point in our lives. For many people, self-doubt can be pervasive, even crippling. It can impact your relationships. It destroys confidence. It causes procrastination or lack of effort. It can be extremely frustrating to live with the reverberating voice in ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,914 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Learning To Live

Death. No one wants to talk about it and yet none of us will escape it. When it happens to someone we know, most people don’t know how to handle it. And it’s because people are uncomfortable about it and it’s so final that people fear the most. In fact, there’s only one thing that tops death on ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,910 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Raising The Bar: Dealing With Negativity In The Workplace

Challenge: I’m a new manager leading a team of sales professionals. One of my associates is very negative and does minimal work. While he meets quota, he could do so much more and his negativity impacts the other members of our team. He’s been with our company for a number of years and it seems ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,518 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Lead with Values

What is important to you in life? Do you know what your values are? Values are those things that are priorities. These can be anything from nature and beauty, adventure, learning, having fun, or honor and integrity. You know these things because when you see them in others, they bring you joy. When you experience them for yourself, they bring you joy. And when you don’t have enough of them in your life, you feel empty, like life has lost meaning. Too often, however, we live life without our values leading the way.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,428 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Three Elements Of Trust

A key element in creating a team is establishing trust. Most people are familiar with environments where trust is absent where you cannot simply be yourself for fear of reprisal or ridicule. So instead, you shrink, hide your true self and create a façade, play the game and work the political ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,216 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Motivated to Change

You talk about how you want something different in your life – a new house, a better relationship with your spouse (or to find a spouse), get out of debt, or lose weight – but nothing changes. You find that you spend (waste) a lot of time talking about it, but not doing anything about it. How do you motivate yourself to change? There are two ways people will change, either by choice or by force. Neither one is very pretty. Change by Forcer

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,196 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Frustrated? Let Go of Your Emotional Energy

You’re really frustrated. Angry. There is so much happening in your life and you have so many emotions floating around you can’t think straight. You’re tired. You’re moody. Ok, even irritable. Friends are complaining. Your spouse is complaining. Your kids hide when they see you. So you withdraw and say very little. Then colleagues ask, “What’s wrong?” You just want everyone to leave you alone! The thing is you have so much emotional energy you really don’t know what’s wrong! You don’t know what you feel! But you do know that soon, you just might explode! Why does this happen?

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,141 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Say “Yes” to You!

Have you ever had anyone speak to you in a tone that made you feel uncomfortable? And yet, you said nothing. Have you ever done something for someone or with someone that you really didn’t want to do? And yet, you did it anyway, only to become resentful later. Every time you say nothing, every ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,033 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Staying Positive in a Negative Environment

Probably one of the hardest things we must do as leaders is to stay positive when everyone else around us is negative. It’s not easy to maintain a positive attitude and not be drained or consumed by the negativity that surrounds you. But as a leader, that’s exactly what you must do. ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

2,024 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

A Matter of Thought

It has been echoed through the ages that what we think about is what we bring about and our thoughts actually create our reality. James Allen’s book, “As A Man Thinketh” was written in the late 19th century to communicate this concept at great length. Steven Covey calls it the “first creation”, ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,930 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

The Basics of Emotional Intelligence: Emotions as Messengers

Do you find yourself at the mercy of your emotions, a victim of reaction, behaving in ways that you’re not proud of and often regret? Are you one of the millions of people who avoid conflict and confrontation because you don’t know how to deal with other people’s emotions? ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,926 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Winning the Battle in Your Mind

“When I try to do the work, to approach a task or push through my procrastination, a battle ensues in my mind. I wind up feeling so intimidated that I take a seat and let the battle go on. I get so distracted that I’m paralyzed and I don’t get done whatever I wanted to do. It’s limiting – it limits my ability to set goals and to dream of new things in my life. It tears me down and I feel like I have no control – that my life is out of my control.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,904 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

ARE YOU READY? YOUR LIFE IS WAITING

Change is often very difficult for people to accept and yet it’s happening every minute. The only thing certain is change. When you find that things are not as you want them to be in your life, it’s time to get comfortable with change. The Comfort Zone Change means many things to people. It ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,869 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Use Empathy to Unleash a Huge Reserve of Potential

Consider the thoughts that go through your mind on a daily basis – the fears, doubts, criticisms, and judgments. If you knew that other people have the same thoughts about life, their mate, their kids, the organization, about their co-workers and bosses, and about themselves as you have, ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,866 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Let Go of Your Need to Be Right

Have you ever had an argument? It’s a silly question, for sure. Everyone has. You know, in that moment, when you’re so sure that you’re right, when you just wish the other person would hear you - your version of reality, that is, your right way of looking at the world. If they would only understand the world the way you do, everything would be fine! But then, they are thinking the same thing in that moment, believing you should listen to them. Their way, after all, is the right way, the only way.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,854 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

What’s so H.A.R.D. about Change?

Why does change have to be so darn hard? We struggle to lose weight, get in shape, eliminate debt and stay (happily) married. Health issues such as heart disease, depression, addiction and obesity - preventable illnesses – are rampant. Why is it so hard to change? The answer to this question describing eight strategies for success can be found in my new book, Does Change have to be so H.A.R.D.?, now available in bookstores.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,839 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Strength In Being Human

“I am seen as a pillar of strength. I was brought up this way. I don’t show my emotions or to talk about the bad stuff going on in my life. When people ask how I’m doing, I say, ‘I’m fine.’ As a nurse, I am always there for others. I don’t want to have to ask for help or lean on others for ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,803 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Four Sources Of Discontent

There is a pervasive discontent in our society today. We seem to be suffering from an epidemic of unhappiness. Why do some of us seem to constantly be looking for something that we simply never quite seem to catch up to? What causes this discontent and how can we overcome it? In your mind, you ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,798 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

How to Deal With a Bully

Most of us have come face to face with intimidation at some point either at work or in our personal lives. It’s never easy because at the moment it occurs, there are two big things to manage: • YOU and your emotional state and • The other person’s behavior You have to assert yourself in a way that defuses the bully and his or her anger while at the same time managing the rage that is exploding inside you.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

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By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Take the Time to CARE

When I started my career in health care nearly 20 years ago, I was struck by the compassion and care with which nurses and other professionals gave of themselves to their patients. It felt like home to me as I embarked upon my career as a caring professional. But I also noticed how unhappy and stressed people were. I noticed that people who CARE often do not show that same level of compassion to themselves or to coworkers. In nursing, especially, there was an “eat their young” mentality.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,690 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Don’t Forget to Care

‘Care’ or compassion is an essential ingredient in the profession of nursing as well as many other caring professions. Without compassion, you might as well come up with another name for “nurse” because without “care” it’s not “nursing”. But it’s not just nursing that requires compassion, or caring professions for that matter. Everyone you interact with over the course of your day has the right to some level of respect. Oftentimes, people are so focused on their own agenda that they forget they are dealing with other human beings with their own agenda and priorities.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,674 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Leadership Strategies: A Productivity Model

In 2005, as president of the Philadelphia Chapter of the International Coach Federation, I held a meeting with the Board of Directors because in some areas we seemed to be hitting snags in accomplishing our objectives. While people were working hard and committed to achieving our goals, we were off base with some of our efforts. People needed to be focused and reoriented so I designed an outline for understanding productivity in a more strategic manner. When operating as part of a high level team, it’s essential that all parties are on the same page and operating in harmony.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,652 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Do People Enjoy You?

What is the experience you provide for others? Consider how your presence and behavior impacts your employees, your colleagues, your boss, your children, your parents, your spouse. The experience people have when they are with you, when they enter your department or have dealings with your department, will create memories and have lasting impact. “People may not remember what you say, but they remember how they feel when they are with you.” rn~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,623 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Where Do You Look For YOUR Value?

Thousands of thoughts go through your mind in the course of your day and each day you make many choices. Your choices intend to bring you the greatest value. Your perception of what adds value is based on your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and habits. These were created from your life experiences ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,606 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Five Steps Toward Eliminating Overwhelm

Overwhelmed? It happens to the best of us at times. Some people live in a constant state of overwhelm. Knowing yourself, being aware of your abilities, and creating an environment that nurtures your success can help to alleviate or minimize overwhelm. You also must learn to stand up for yourself and create good boundaries with your time and your workload. This can be quite difficult for people who enjoy pleasing others, who seek reassurance and approval from others, or who have an inner barometer that just doesn’t know when to say “no.” Overwhelm means you need to simplify.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,586 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Debt: The Good, The Bad And The Ugly

“Neither a borrower, nor a lender be,” cautions Shakespeare in Hamlet. The reality is, most of us carry debt. From a money management standpoint, that is not necessarily bad. Sometimes debt is good. Sometimes it’s downright ugly. The key is to carry the right kind of debt, and not too much of ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,585 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Assert Yourself

You are asked to join a committee that meets over lunch every Friday. You promised yourself you would refrain from any additional committee work. This also means you need to tell Jane you can no longer join her for power walks. “We need you to finish the outline for the project team. ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,574 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Managing Your Emotions after a Layoff

Change is constant. We just aren’t always aware nor do we pay attention to every change that we make through the course of a day. But when big changes occur, like a layoff or termination of employment, we stand up and take notice. We have to!

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,562 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

An Introduction to Value Science

You have thousands of thoughts that float through your mind all day every day. How do you sort through them all to determine which thoughts are good ones? In other words, how do you know which thoughts will lead you to good outcomes? It’s hard to know. You can become attached to certain ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,561 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Learn How to Be Happy

“He's simply got the instinct for being unhappy highly developed.”n~ Saki, British author (1870 - 1916) Happiness is not about what you own, who you married, or what you collect. Happiness is feeling good – not having your life look good – and it can only be felt right now, in this moment. It ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,555 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Planning For Retirement

People have many different financial goals, but one they share in common is to be financially independent. I define that as the time when we conclude that our annual expenses can be covered for the rest of our lives without working any longer. Calculating your expenses over the next 25-40 years ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,550 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Is There An Elephant In The Room?

Something is wrong. It doesn’t feel right. Maybe you know exactly what it is. Maybe you haven’t taken the time to identify the problem but it feels bad. You skirt around the issue. Perhaps it’s something with your relationship or with your kids. Perhaps it’s a work issue and everyone skirts ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,547 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Leading Change from Obesity toward Health

Obesity is a now a huge health epidemic – I don’t need to tell you this. It’s on television and the news. There are several reality shows such as ‘the biggest loser’ and ‘heavy’. You may even be able to look down at your own scale or at family members to see just how big the problem is (pun intended!). We know it is a problem. People talk about how we need to do more to correct the problem and little things are starting to change such as new menus at the popular fast food restaurants and even in school cafeterias.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,532 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

The Answer to Your Prayers

Have you ever prayed for something and wished for it and worked hard to get it but it just doesn’t come? We have all been in this place where we want something so badly we can almost taste it and it’s not here. We wonder ‘why?’ and often think, “Why me?” or “Why NOT me?” It is frustrating and emotional. We can feel angry and disappointed. There are expectations that if we envision what we want and do the work, then we should be able to have it right? That is, after all, what the law of attraction teaches us.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,522 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

Building A Mutual Fund Portfolio

Wondering what to do and what time frame to do your investing in? Here are some ideas to assist you in your investments. Stick with stock funds. As long as you have five or more years until you need the money, stock funds will likely provide you with superior returns over any other ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,512 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

What Impact Are You Having on Others?

Lately, people, places and things have been reminding me of my friend and coaching colleague, Susan Race, who died suddenly in 2008. She was one of the first coaches I met when I entered coaching in 2001. She offered a bright smile, was always supportive, loving, energetic, and generous with her ...

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

1,491 views

By Julie DonleyRecently published1 topic

The Essential Ingredient in Achieving Your Goals

Ok, so you turn the calendar to a New Year and suddenly you think something should change. You’ll get those pesky 20 pounds off once and for all! Or you’ll definitely get promoted or change jobs this year. Or perhaps this is the year you will have a better relationship with your spouse – or your kids – or your parents… The list goes on and on.

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

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