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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Signs of a Controlling Relationship

The following are signs of a controlling relationship: 1. Flattery – Flattery is different than a compliment – A compliment adds to a person. It builds within you a sense of confidence free from any ulterior motives. Flattery on the other hand is insincere and selfish in its motive – which is simply to gain a greater sense of control. Flattery always deals with comparisons. The flatterer will privately build you up in the process of tearing others around you down. 2.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

6 Characteristics of Healthy Relationships

By Michael Fehlauer Long-term healthy relationships are possible. There are fundamental skills, as well as a perspective in the way we approach our relationships, that enable us to experience solid friendships. The people we allow into our world either add to our lives or subtract from our lives. What are the characteristics of the type of friends that add to us? Here are six attributes of great friends: 1. They allow the friendship to be governed by the law of love – Three characteristics of love are acceptance, understanding and commitment.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Creating Emotionally Safe Relationships

1. Safe relationships involve suspending judgment – I can’t begin to recount the times I’ve jumped to conclusions regarding my judgment of someone’s motives. Even though “what” someone has done is clear, “why” they did it is rarely as obvious. It takes time and patience to discover what is in someone’s heart and what motive was behind their behavior. 2. Safe relationships involve celebrating differences - The difference between you and others is a reason for celebration.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Your Emotional Health and Your Relationships

Your relationships are affected by your emotional health. The healthier you are emotionally the stronger your relationships will be with others. The best thing you can do for your spouse, family and loved ones is to take care of yourself. Here are some tips on how to take care of yourself so you can better care for others: 1. Your emotional health requires you to listen to your emotions – Even though you can’t afford to be controlled by your emotions they are often an indicator of how you are handling the stresses of life.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Saving Your Marriage

By Michael Fehlauer 1. Identify the core issues – The first step in saving your marriage is to make the distinction between the symptoms and the core issues. Only after the core issues are identified can you take the first step in repairing the relationship. There is a verse in the bible that says,“When the foundations are being destroyed, what can the righteous do?” Your marriage will never be stronger than the foundation it’s built on. There are things in the course of your marriage that can chip away at the foundation of your relationship.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

The Differences Between men and Women

1. Difference One – Facts vs. Feelings: Between men and women the most obvious difference is men love to share facts, women share feelings. To the Men – Be willing to enter her world of emotions. The facts are not as important to her as you being willing to listen to her. Be patient and allow her the time to express her feelings. To the Women – His desire to get to the facts is not necessarily an expression of a lack of genuine concern. Men are problem solvers. He just wants to “fix it” by giving you a solution. 2.

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Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Internet Safety Tips to Protect Your Relationships

Internet safety has increasingly become a significant issue in the area of relationships. A common and obvious threat to your home and relationships is the subject of pornography. Pornographic material from the internet comes in two ways: solicited and unsolicited. Unsolicited material is sent to your inbox. An estimated 30 % of the unsolicited emails sent to the over 30 million users is pornographic or racist in nature. Solicited material is something a computer user seeks. There are over 70,000 pornographic sites that are available online.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Communication in Relationships

Good communication in relationships is a result of skills that can be learned. How to listen is a huge first step in developing healthy communication in your relationships. Even more so, learning what to listen for is another key. David Schwartz says, “Big people monopolize the listening. Small people monopolize the talking.” It is natural for me to monopolize a conversation. I must make a concerted effort to listen more tha I speak.

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Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

The Secret to What Women Really Want

What Women Want was a comedic film released in the year 2000. The film’s main character which is played by Mel Gibson, wakes up one morning with the ability to read women’s minds. With the significant role women play in our society, if it were possible for a man to read a woman’s mind, he could control the world! Even though I’m not a mind reader, after 30 years of marriage here are a few things I have discovered that women want. 1.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Trust in Relationships

The fundamental importance of trust in relationships, and the destruction that happens when that trust is violated became a reality to me several years ago. It’s still a vivid memory; ugly and detailed accusations, followed by denials from me. I lied, got caught and our world crashed. At this point the details aren’t important. What’s important is I had betrayed the trust of my wife, my family and my friends; as well as the trust of thousands who had put their trust in me. So much was lost.

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Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Marriage Tips

<u>1. Spend time together</u> – One of the marriage tips I want to initially suggest requires the importance of spending time together. Even though this point seems too obvious to mention, it is still surprising how this simple truth can get away from us. Recently Reader’s Digest reported about 1001 couples who were surveyed regarding the elements they value the most in marriage. The statistics were interesting with the importance of laughter being 52%, compatibility 30%, quality sex 13% and frequency of sex just 9%.

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Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Christian Marriage Revealed

1. The Christian marriage is revealed in the creation of man– In the second chapter of the Bible we find God’s purpose regarding the marriage union. In Genesis 2:7 we read, “The LORD God formed man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.” The term “breath of life” in the Hebrew is actually translated the “breath of lives.” When God breathed life into Adam He also imparted the essence of Eve’s life as well. 2.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Stepping Out of the Shadow of Shame

In looking at the shadow of shame I am reminded of a story author Max Lucado tells about that took place in the early seventies. One sunny summer afte oon two sisters were abducted by two men as they came out of a convenience store in Casper Wyoming. The two men drove the two girls to a canyon bridge, where they brutally beat and raped the older sister.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Surviving Infidelity

Surviving infidelity may not result in your marriage being saved, but it does include you finding the strength to live out your life in God's peace and hope. Yet, once infidelity has taken place, what are the necessary steps in surviving infidelity? The following principles are absolutely key not only for your emotionally health, but key if the relationship is going to survive. 1. Pray and ask God what He wants you to do. Cry out to Him in all your pain. Listen for His answer. Wait until you know for sure. Don’t let your spouse pressure you into making a quick decision.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Trust in Marriage

A bridge spans the gap between two locations. Trust in marriage spans the gap between two individuals. 4 ½ years ago, my heart was broken with betrayal in my marriage. A huge chasm spanned the space between me and my husband. My trust in Mike was completely shattered. All I could do was take baby steps of forgiveness. Creating a trusting relationship out of that horrible void was the challenge that loomed ahead. Today, I can say that we have experienced the miracle of re-built trust. It is possible to re-establish trust in marriage!

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

Staying Motivated When You Feel Like Giving Up

Author Lynn Anderson tells the story about a shipload of travelers 350 years ago who landed on the northeast coast of America. The first year they established a town site. The next year they elected a town government. The third year the town government planned to build a road five miles westward into the wilde ess. In the fourth year the people tried to impeach their town government because they thought it was a waste of public funds to build a road five miles westward into a wilde ess.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

How to be Happy in Marriage

1. Don’t look to others to make you happy – The first step in discovering how to be happy in marriage is recognizing the true source of happiness. In most relationships we are initially attracted to another person because they make us feel good about ourselves. Yet, if the marriage is to grow we must realize that it is unfair to make our mate the primary source of our happiness.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Michael FehlauerRecently published1 topic

3 Relationships That Empower Our Lives

A great example of relationships that empower is told by Willie Morris in Parade magazine. The story is about major league baseball player Jackie Robinson. Jackie Robinson was the first black man to play major league baseball. Breaking baseball’s color barrier, he faced jeering crowds in every stadium. While playing one day in his home stadium in Brooklyn he committed a critical error.The fans began to ridicule him. He stood at second base humiliated.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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