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By peter-murphyJan 23, 20081 topic

3 Great Ways To Beat Procrastination At Work

As more tasks become automated due to advances in technology there is a general expectation, whether it is realistic or not, that productivity should increase as well. Everyone seems to have more work than can possibly be done in a day and this pressure can result in feelings of being overwhelmed which in turn leads to procrastination at work which can actually decrease productivity if not properly managed. Although there are hundreds of reasons why we procrastinate and put

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 21, 20081 topic

Dealing With Negative People Made Easy

I was playing tennis today with one of my tennis buddies. We play once a week and we usually chat about work, professional tennis players and local news. Today he was very negative about the people of the area we live in. According to him they are all thieves and crooks. Now this makes me really angry when I hear him talking like this since I have had very positive experiences with the people I have dealt with locally. I find the locals to be very friendly, helpful and cons

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyMay 30, 20081 topic

How To Stay Motivated In The Face Of Office Politics

When you are out in the business world, whether it be as a house painter or a lawyer, you will almost always encounter some form of office politics. If you are lucky, you will find employment with a good, decent firm that has a fine management team, but you have to be prepared for the reverse to be the case. It is a sad fact of life today that some companies actually like to play employees against each other. Some see it as a means of toughening the workers, or winnowing out

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 18, 20081 topic

Why Pacing And Leading Is For Wimps!

Okay, you have read some books on body language and they all said you must mirror and match, pace and lead.... And you failed miserably when you went out into the real world. Let me tell you why and what you need to do instead. But first a story that illustrates my point... A few years ago I moved into a very well paid position in the company where I worked. And in my new job I was dealing with company directors, business owners and senior executives -- face to face. And

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyNov 7, 20071 topic

How To Stay Motivated When You Feel Like Giving Up

If you stay motivated with your work then you will never think of giving up. Giving up or quitting is the plan of the loser. The people who keep quitting with their work are the losers in this world. The people who give up are at the bottom of the food chain. Do you want to be down there? Do you want to be a loser? Are you the type of person that wants to give up when things get tough? You should not be. Here are some tips that you can use so that you do not easily give up on

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 23, 20081 topic

How To Stay Motivated Until You Get What You Want

And somehow you knew how to stay motivated... Goals are mysterious things - they spring into our minds motivating us to succeed, fuel fires of fantasy about success and new found happiness, initiate an almost manic effort to move our lives forward, and then - suddenly the fire goes out. What once motivated you to succeed, drove you to get up early and work late, now weighs in your mind as a failure in the wings. Don't despair. The aftermath of the best intentions often fe

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 11, 20081 topic

How To Be Motivated To Create The Life Of Your Dreams

When it comes to motivating yourself to be a better person, to do better at work or to create a happier family life you need to understand the importance of taking control of your self-talk. You really need to know how to motivate yourself through thick and thin. Do you ever pay attention to the thoughts inside your mind? And more importantly do you ever notice the way in which you talk to yourself? Here are three tips you can use right away to motivate yourself - find out

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 29, 20081 topic

How To Improve Communication Skills And Your Personal Style

Here are six tips for improving your communication style: 1. Knowing how to improve communication skills will come easier once you become aware of your own communication style. Each person has a unique way of communicating. Listen to your own speech. What sorts of words do you use? Which sort of body language and what tone of voice are you using? Now, think of someone who, in your opinion, is a good communicator. Compare your style to theirs. You’ve just taken an important

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 4, 20081 topic

6 Communication Skill Secrets That Work In Any Situation

People forget sometimes that a communication skill may have to be learnt. They are so hard on themselves when talking and understanding people doesn’t come easy – and then so the tension that builds up makes it even harder to have this communication skill. But you can develop your communication skill just like you can develop any other skill. You don’t get angry with yourself for not having the skill to play the piano or to sail around the world do you? No? Well there’s no n

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 22, 20081 topic

How To Get Motivated And Have Industrial Strength Self-Motivation

It is not your fault if popular self-help courses have never worked for you over the long term. How to get motivated is not adequately dealt with. Why? Because generally speaking there are problems with the material you have read and listened to in these courses: To appeal to a wider audience the self-help experts often leave out the more complex and the more powerful concepts and techniques - the best ones for getting motivated! Instead you get a burst of short term ins

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 16, 20081 topic

The Easy Way To Lasting Self Motivation

Will power alone will never work over the long term. It is the hardest way possible to get yourself to do anything. The answer is to discover the secrets of self motivation. Why? Because it is like trying to open a tin can with your teeth when there is a can opener in your pocket. Instead you need to tap into the limitless power of your mind. When you do you can break bad habits, create beneficial new ones and put yourself back on track easily, quickly and with very littl

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 11, 20081 topic

The Secret Motivation Strategy That Never Fails

No matter how much you want to make your dreams come true you still need some practical ways to keep yourself motivated over the long term. You need the ability to keep going in the face of setbacks, disappointments and short-term frustrations. i.e. a motivation technique that works. Thankfully there is a simple and very powerful way to stay focused and highly motivated. Are you ready for a personal breakthrough? 1. Determine The Reasons Why You Want To Attain The Goal Wri

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyDec 13, 20071 topic

5 Powerful Motivation Techniques That Work Like Magic

You become what they think, whether that is something positive or something negative, so you need to make sure it’s something positive. If you control your thoughts you control your future and you can make it happen. Motivation techniques need to get you in the right frame of mind to begin with. 1. See Yourself Achieving your Goal Sports psychologists train athletes to visualize themselves as winning a race. Top athletes see themselves as passing the finishing line in first

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyNov 9, 20071 topic

Good Habits That Keep You Motivated All Day Long

If you want to stay motivated for the rest of the day thennyou should keep in mind several things. Below is a list ofnthings and pointers that you might want to take note of. These pointers and tips will allow you to keep going for thenwhole work day. 1. Exercise in the morning. If you want to jump start you body right away then you should get on that treadmill in thenearly morning. Exercising in the morning allows you to wakenup not only your body but your mind as well. Whe

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 15, 20081 topic

9 Great Ways To Change Your Life By Changing Your Motivation Style

If you are not as productive as you'd like or tend to procrastinate, you can become motivated by changing your personal style. The trick lies in making the activities you put off more interesting, easier, and less unpleasant. One way to make a job easier is to break it into smaller jobs. If your task is to file your income tax return, you may view it as time consuming and tedious. But if you break it into smaller categories such as gather records, download tax software, and

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 17, 20081 topic

How To Deal With Discouragement And Develop Exceptional People Skills

Ever feel like giving up? Do you ever feel so discouraged that even one more day of frustration will be too much to handle? Everyone gets discouraged at times however there are a number of key differences between people who keep on going and those who give up: 1 Focus On Your Goal Not On Your Problems One of my mentors is a highly successful property developer and he loves solving problems. All day long he can take on one problem after the next and just keep going. How do

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJun 4, 20081 topic

How To Stay Motivated In The Face Of Frustration

People need motivation to carry them through a variety of activities. If you have ever dreamed of performing in a symphony orchestra, or playing the lead in a play; getting that book published, or landing that dream job, frustration is something you will have to deal with. So, the question facing you is, how do you stay motivated when faced with frustration? Step one is to realize that nothing worth achieving is going to come easily. To become a great musician, actor, singer

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 24, 20081 topic

Magnificent Meetings - 5 Tips For Success

Your impact at meetings will determine in a big way how well you do in your career. In other words you will rise as high as your communication skills will let you. Ability and competence in your position is expected - how well you get your point accross will make the difference between your opinion being valued and your input getting forgotten one more time. Look at any business leader, politician or community spokesperson. What do they all have in common? The ability to spe

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By peter-murphyJan 22, 20081 topic

How To Achieve More By Dealing With Resistance

Today I want to discuss the missing link in goal attainment... Your personal success and achievement depends on your ability to act upon what you know. Yet this is where most people stumble. It is easy to find out what to do. Simply ask the right people for advice, read the best books on the subject and attend the seminars that will fill in the missing details. It is following through on what you know that makes the difference between the people who are achieving and every

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 17, 20081 topic

How To Take Control Of Your Self Confidence

If you think success, happiness and love are going to happen without learning through mistakes along the way you are mistaken. Our brains are wired to learn from our own experiences as well as those of others. Without experience how are you going to learn anything? Let me give you an example. At my local bank a number of weeks ago I attempted to make small talk with the cashier and she completely ignored me. Last week I was in the bank and tried my small talk routine again

Primary topic: Personal Development

Personal Development

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By peter-murphyJan 24, 20081 topic

Communication Skills - The 4 Powerful Secrets That Win People Over

Having a conversation seems very natural to some people, but to others it is a struggle every time. There is no need to feel frustrated or upset every time you are faced with a situation where you must be involved with a conversation. Conversation is essential and important to every day life. If you avoid conversation with others they may see you as stuck up. Thinking you do not value what they have to say or think they are not worth your time. You can gain a horrible social

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyNov 4, 20041 topic

How to Take Control of your Self Confidence

Having confidence is all about believing in yourself and the onlynway you can build your belief in what you are capable of is byntaking action in the world and learning through trial and error. If you think success, happiness and love are going to happennwithout learning through mistakes along the way you are mistaken. Our brains are wired to learn from our own experiences as well asnthose of others. Without experience how are you going to learnnanything? Let me give you a

Primary topic: General Self Help

General Self Help

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By peter-murphyJan 22, 20081 topic

The Secret To Life Long Success And Fulfillment

What Makes the Difference? On a warm spring afte oon, fifteen years ago, two young men graduated from the same college. They were similar in many ways... Like most ambitious, hard working students they had also enjoyed time off to play sport and to have fun with their friends. And they were both very excited about the bright future that lay ahead. Fifteen years later they met. They were still alike in many ways. Both had a good family life, a comfortable home and they bot

Primary topic: Success Principles

Success Principles

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By peter-murphyJan 23, 20081 topic

5 Practical Shyness Tips That Work Everytime

We all experience a little shyness at times with people who we find intimidating. Here are some useful suggestions and ideas that can help you overcome shyness and speak up when you need to in order to achieve your goals... 1. Shyness is a problem for millions of people around the world and unfortunately, there is not a magic potion that will eliminate shyness or one simple suggestion that can be of assistance to all shy people. If you want to overcome shyness and improve

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By peter-murphyJan 21, 20081 topic

The Amazing Secret To Ridding Yourself Of Self Consciousness

One of the biggest challenges to developing superior communication skills is that you already have your hands full in those situations where you need help. Take a typical scenario - meeting new people. If I give you tips for listening more effectively and you rush off to practice the tips you may not get very far no matter how hard you try. Why? Because you are likely to be self conscious when you need to be other conscious. Standing in front of the new people you want to me

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By peter-murphyJan 24, 20081 topic

Getting What You Want Most From Other People

Very often in relationships we do not seem to be able to get the one thing we want more than anything else - the approval of other people. In fact the more we want it the more difficult it can be to turn the situation around. Typical approaches include withdrawing from other people so that only those who are really interested in you will make the effort to get to know you. The other person takes on all the risk of rejection and you risk not having someone make the effort to

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 18, 20081 topic

How To Solve Disputes With The Helicopter Talk Technique

Do you ever find that when a friend asks for your opinion on a problem it is a lot easier for you to see a solution than it is for your friend? And do you also find that sometimes you feel completely stuck when it comes to your own problems? The same applies to disputes, relationship issues and disagreements. When you are part of the problem it can be very difficult to see a solution. What you need at times like this is a helicopter! Helicopter Talk Technique: 1. Imagine

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 29, 20081 topic

How To Communicate Better With Body Language Secrets

"I don't let my mouth say nothin' my head can't stand." Louis Armstrong Since the 1970's, learning how to communicate better has had a lot to do with understanding body language. Julius Fast wrote a book entitled, Body Language in 1970. He talked about a new science called Kinesics. It opened the way to more studies and books on the subjects. Today, the term Body Language is very common and understood as an important element of communication. In fact, experts in the field

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 29, 20081 topic

Be Confident Even In The Face Of Confidence Killers

You can be confident! All you have to do is rid yourself of confidence killers. Confidence killers are self-defeating thought patterns. Many of us walk through life with these harmful assumptions. See if you’ve got any of these evildoers in your thoughts: 1. The All or Nothing Sniper: This way of thinking is the reason you can’t seem to enjoy even the small wins you’ve been getting in life. I’ll bet you were the kid in school who went home crying when you got one wrong on

Primary topic: Communication Skills and Training

Communication Skills and Training

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By peter-murphyJan 18, 20081 topic

Creating Icebergs Out Of Hostility

Have you ever dreaded an upcoming presentation, meeting or function because you just knew that the group would be hostile? Maybe you had heard that these people are very critical, even aggressive.nn*How can you prepare for such a situation even though you would prefer to disappear into thin air.* 1 Use Adversity To Make You Stronger Very often we make our greatest breakthroughs in the face of huge challenges. We improve our performance ove ight because we absolutely have to

Primary topic: General Self Help

General Self Help

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By peter-murphyJan 23, 20081 topic

The Simple Secret To Lasting Motivation

This is a key to lasting motivation and beating procrastination. If you have friends who are highly driven business people, spend time with them whenever you want a motivational boost. You will feel charged up and more ambitious after meeting them. And it’s fun. Of course if all you did was talk business every evening your life would become one-dimensional pretty quickly. At the other end of the spectrum you can also socialize with people who drift through life with no dre

Primary topic: Motivation

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By peter-murphyJan 24, 20081 topic

The Mirror Man

Lady Twilight felt angry. It was one of those days when she was doing her best to be nice to everyone but nobody was being nice to her. What if people could be friendlier she thought to herself as she wandered through the open air market. It was a warm, sunny day so there was no use blaming the weather. In that case it must mean that people just do not like me, she decided. The chatter of voices was all around while she sat at a table by the side of the shopping crowd. She

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By peter-murphyJan 21, 20081 topic

Happy Talk And 3 Simple Secrets To Happiness

What is the one thing you want more than anything else for the people you love the most? If you had a magic wand what would you grant your family and friends? What is it that everyone wants? To be happy! How can you make other people happy until you are happy? How can you be happy? Lester Levenson, creator of The Sedona Method, discovered the key to happiness. He searched for 47 years and nearly died in the process but he did find it. Do you want to know what it is? Leste

Primary topic: Happiness

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By peter-murphyJan 24, 20081 topic

Leverage Avoidance Values For Irresistible Selling

What are values? Values are filters that everyone uses to help make sense of all the information we must process before we make a decision. When you appeal to a person's values you speak directly to their decision-making criteria. Values: In simple terms, values are what is most important to us. If you ask yourself: what is most important to me about having a new car? You will discover the key issues that you consider when buying a car. Your prospects will also pay attentio

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By peter-murphyJan 23, 20081 topic

Why Now Is The Perfect Moment For You To Succeed

Let´s discover the importance of balancing preparation, timing and momentum. It´s critical if you want to finally beat procrastination. While timing is important very often we need to make the best of the situation we find ourselves in. The perfect opportunity, the perfect conditions and the perfect moment may never exist so we need to take action now. And ultimately you must find out how you can become a procrastination beater as of today The most successful people in the

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By peter-murphyJan 17, 20081 topic

If What You Are Doing Is Not Working Change Your Approach

And ironically the more we worry about it, the more tense we get and the more likely we are to say something stupid. Let us a take a look at some remedies: 1 Learn to relax when you feel under pressure. I often talk about the importance of managing your emotions This is an essential skill. There are a wide range of courses and books that you can refer to if you want to learn more about relaxation. When you feel relaxed it is easier to think on your feet and to be flexib

Primary topic: General Self Help

General Self Help

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By peter-murphyJan 22, 20081 topic

That First Step To Massive Success

Do you ever procrastinate? So do I! I had some work to do yesterday and I kept putting it off. I thought to my self - I´ll wait until later when I feel more alert and in the right frame of mind to do it just right Do you ever do this? Then it hit me like a ton of bricks. If I wait for the perfect moment I will be waiting a very long time. With that in mind I just got started. I took the pressure off and stopped insisting that I create a perfect piece of work. The endles

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By peter-murphyJan 17, 20081 topic

The Amazing Success Secret Anyone Can Start Using Today

However there is one success secret that costs nothing. And we can all use it today to get ahead more quickly. I am talking about cultivating exceptional people skills in a way that puts you ahead of the crowd, in a way that respects and honors the people you deal with in your life. Ironically when we neglect people skills the complex business and social infrastructure of our world can fall over in a moment. What do I mean? Have you ever walked into the store of a major nat

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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