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Worry is one of those things that will pull you down and stop you in your tracks quicker than most anything else. Most things you worry about don't happen, but that doesn't seem to stop anyone from spending time and energy worrying. Worrying ruins the present by bringing in anticipation of ...
Everyone has problems. It doesn’t matter who you are, your station in life, how old or young you are -- you have problems. Often we look at other people and think that they don’t have problems. However, we never know what is really going on in someone else’s life. When you look behind the scenes ...
Whenever you encounter a challenge or a problem, it is valuable to search for the ‘one common denominator.’ Finding the one thing that is consistent throughout will help you to determine what causes the difficulty. Once you understand the cause, it will be easier to make the changes necessary ...
I simply don't believe in constructive criticism. You can't build someone up and then tear that person down. The two words simply don't go together. My experience is that most people use the concept of "Constructive Criticism" to criticize. They just want to put the other person down, and they ...
I love the saying that advises us to “expect miracles.” The problem isn’t that there are no miracles; the problem is that you don’t expect them or even recognize them when they happen. When you come to realize that miracles are constantly happening if you are paying attention, miracles will ...
Success is a great experience and something that takes time,ndedication and work. It also usually takes support from nothers. No one accomplishes much on his or her own. Even nif all that means is we have people who believe in us and ncheer us on, it takes a collaborate effort for each one of ...
I tuned in to listen to my radio show on the new station and was very disappointed not to hear it. They were airing an infomercial for a personal cleansing product instead. When I told my husband the show wasn’t on, he reminded me that the time had changed and the show would be on in an hour. I ...
I am famous for saying that change doesn't happen ove ight -- it happens over time. Any type of change you are creating is going to take time. You have to make the change a habit so that it is something that is simply an integral part of your life, and no longer something odd or different. Once ...
We all have excuses as to why we can't do something. Ask anyone and they can give you a million excuses why it can't be done, why they haven't moved forward on their goals, and on and on. Making up excuses takes a lot of energy and time. So since, as humans, we seem to enjoy making up excuses, I ...
I am not a big fan of buying anything that requires assembly. I would much rather pay a little extra and have the job done for me. Sometimes that is possible and at other times it isn’t. Often the only way to get what I want is to participate in the assembly. I believe this is true with life as ...
Rushing may seem to assist in getting more done, but I have found it often does the opposite. The faster you go the more behind you can get. If you are behind, slow down and assess the situation. Going faster might not be the answer, slowing down and figuring out a new strategy may be. Step ...
One of my early mentors, Thomas Leonard, advised people not to try to improve a weakness. He said that, when you try to improve a weakness, the only thing you get is “a stronger weakness.” I believe that is true. It is more important to focus on your strengths and maximize what you do well than ...
The great news about life is that it doesn’t happen all at once; it happens in small steps. And here is more great news -- you don’t have to know all the steps to get started. All you have to do is focus on what is in front of you and take the next step. As you continue on your journey, the ...
I have learned that anyone can declare any day a holiday or special day such as National Marshmallow Toasting Day (August 30th) or Cheese Pizza Day (September 5th). There is a process to follow to create a holiday or special day but pretty much anything goes. Now if you want a National Day (as ...
I find it amusing how many people, programs, and books are out there today that promise to change your life in a second, a minute or as long as a day. Although intriguing as it may sound, changing your life isn't going to happen in a flash. Change takes time, and usually more time than you ever ...
One of the keys to reaching your goals is to eliminate any escape routes. It is tempting to retreat to safety and comfort when challenges and difficulties arise. To avoid turning around and abandoning your goals, you must make going forward more compelling then going back. When striving towards ...
Want is the first step in achieving success. Creating a desire, a want, begins the wheels of success to turn. Sadly enough though "wanting" is not enough. In addition to wanting, you have to believe you can have it. I notice that many people say, "I want" and follow that with "but" and list all ...
No one likes to be miserable. Well, most people don't like it, anyway. Misery can make life unbearable. However, misery does serve a purpose. When you get through the misery and can take a step back from the situation, you will see that, through the misery, you have developed personal strength, ...
Gosh, life is busy. It seems that everyone is rushing to do something, be someplace or get caught up. The real danger in rushing is that one can get so busy that life will pass by. It pays to slow down and enjoy life. Take in the simple pleasures and enjoy the moment. I have observed that, with ...
I am a firm believe in the concept of choice. I believe we all have choices and that our choices shape our lives. Indeed, our choices create our lives. However, if you don't know that a choice is available, you are not able to select it. This can greatly limit your ability to make the right ...
Famous people know the importance of being quoted or not, depending on what they are saying. Reporters often ask, “Can I quote you on that?” There are times when being quoted is a good thing. It is nice to know that what you said was important enough for someone to repeat. However, there are ...
Lately, I have been melding two ideas together, one from my past and one from the present. When I worked in Corporate America, one of my managers had a sign on his door that read, “If it is meant to be, it is up to me.” I thought, at the time, it was a catchy phrase, but didn’t give it much more ...
There are many ways to keep in touch, but there is one way that is more special than all the rest. That one special way is to write, yes with a pen, a letter. I know e-mail is quick and text messaging is super quick, but nothing says, "I am thinking of you" like a "real" letter that is sealed, ...