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We all want to be listened to, to be heard. When we are hurting we want others to understand and be there for us. Unfortunately, many people do not know how to be empathetic or compassionate. They may mean well and don’t show it. Or what seems like a big issue to you does not seem that ...
Accept whatever feelings you may be having. Do not fight against feelings you do not wish to be experiencing. Observe them as objectively as possible. Think to yourself “I am feeling very angry or disappointed or apathetic” — in time your feelings will change. Be hopeful that the next ...
Well meaning people may tell you that you have no right to feel sorry for yourself. You should be putting on a brighter face to the world. You could be doing better than you are if you would change your attitude. Your feelings are yours. Do not let others attempt to manipulate your feelings. ...
Be very particular about who you spend time with. Surround yourself with loving, supportive, positive people. People who are negative, demanding or just plain mean are toxic. They are toxic not only to your physical health, but also to your mental health and to your soul. This is easier than ...
One of the greatest obstacles we all face is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of the future, of the present. We doubt if we will be able to cope day in and day out. We doubt our medical care. We doubt ourselves. We live in fear. Fear immobilizes us. Fear does not keep us safe; it keeps us ...
What are alte ative medical techniques? Alte ative medical techniques most commonly are outside of conventional medical care (1). In other words, they promote wholistic healing for pain management. Wholistic healing involves treating the whole person, body, emotions, mind, relationships, and ...
Many of us have just never learned how to make good decisions. Maybe you had poor role models growing up; perhaps you are a people pleaser and go for the initial approval without looking at the long-term ramifications. Could it be you have never learned how to function as a separate individual ...
It’s easy to feel overwhelmed when you live with chronic pain. Every day life can be a struggle, seemingly impossible to overcome. You push yourself with every ounce of energy right down to your soul, and it feels like nothing’s there. Simple activities that others take for granted can be a ...
Just when you’re almost recovered from the holidays, already it’s time for your New Year’s resolutions. It’s common to beat yourself up because you wanted to lose 20 pounds last year, and now it’s time to resolve to lose it again. Or, you wanted better health, less pain, more wealth, more ...
Complimentary medicine is a fairly new term to describe "alte ative" techniques. Many people are now using options from herbs, massage to acupuncture in conjunction with their physician's treatment that it is no longer considered alte ative, because it doesn't replace your doctor's care, but ...
As we begin the New Year, those of us who suffer with chronic pain want hope that this year will be better. We want less pain, improved quality of life and the ability to live as “normal” a life as possible. Those of you who care for us, as both professionals and loved ones want that for us ...
If you are so depressed your sadness is clouding your life, get help. If you are being treated for the physical pain but not the psychological issues, it is not enough. If you are on an anti-depressant talk to the doctor who prescribed it. Sometimes anti-depressants or related medications are ...
Set realistic goals. Most people heal slowly. Some people stabilize and don’t progress further. Whatever your situation is, set reachable, realistic goals for your health. If you feel frustrated or are having trouble reaching your goal, set a more attainable goal. Be gentle with yourself; ...
You hate to see your loved one hurting. Perhaps you are wondering what you can do to help. Here are some ideas: First, learn everything you can about your loved one's condition(s). Understanding what is causing the pain and what can aggravate it will help you to be more compassionate. Pain is ...
Always have something you’re looking forward to. Whether it’s a vacation, a weekly phone call with someone special or private time set-aside just for you, make it your job to keep a sparkle in your life. Anticipate something special every day. When it’s sunny outside, I look forward to a few ...
To live in happiness rather than chasing after it, I recommend the following 10ntips. I know this is easy to say and harder to do. I was a single mother with twonchildren and a private practice when I incorporated these tips into my own life. Innow speak to women's groups encouraging other women ...
What does your checklist look like when you are shopping for a new home for your family? For most of us, a home buying checklist includes a quiet neighborhood, good schools, new appliances… but does your home buying checklist include good feng shui elements? How do you know if a home you ...
Accept whatever feelings you may be having. Do not fight against feelings you do not wish to be experiencing. Observe them as objectively as possible. Think to yourself “I am feeling very angry or disappointed or apathetic” — in time your feelings will change. Be hopeful that the next ...
Many people with chronic pain feel guilty. I did. I must have done something. If I were really a good person this would not be happening to me. Is God punishing me for a past sin? Am I just weak? If I tried harder, did more, would this pain exist? Or is it that I am being selfish? Others ...
FEEL PLEASURE NOW Believe you are worthy of pleasure and happiness right now. You do not have to wait for the pain to become better or go away. Enjoy your life now. If your pain is too severe to enjoy life the way you want to, find new ways to feel pleasure. If you can no longer run in the park, walk or go in your wheelchair. If you can’t write or read because of your hands or eyes, use your ears to listen. Appreciate the simple things whenever you can. I am often grateful I