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Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? Answers are finally coming in! A recent article by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim has much to say on this topic that is both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the real issues of concern.
It's a controversy that just won't quit. Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? Well, answers are finally coming in! A recent article by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim has much to say on this topic that is both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the real issues of concern.
Divorce is a highly emotional topic. When children are involved the consequences are far more dramatic - and, not surprisingly, so are our opinions. I know there are many people who sincerely believe that no divorce is a good divorce. That children are always and inevitably harmed by the ...
We all do it from time to time. Make a sarcastic comment about our ex, criticize something they did or didn’t do, gesture or grimace our faces when referring to our former spouse. When we do it in front of, near or within hearing distance of our children, we set ourselves up for a hornet’s nest ...
The holiday season can bring up painful memories of happier times, especially if you are divorced and have children. When feeling yourself starting to sink into negative emotions keep in mind that with the pain comes a choice. You can choose to acknowledge the past for what it was. You can value the good times you might have had together. Then you can choose to move on and let go. If you don’t, you will likely get stuck tormenting yourself with the "shoulds." We should still be a family today. He should be ashamed of what he's doing to us.
I read a poignant comment on a blog recently written by a married mother of three. She was a child of divorce whose father moved out of the home when she was four. She talks about having very few pictures of herself as a child and only one of her mother and father together. Her grandfather found ...
Preparing to break the news to your kids that you’re divorcing their other parent? Feeling insecure about how to broach the subject? Wondering how much to share during and after the divorce? How your children will react? How to handle their questions? How to deal with your special circumstances? What the experts suggest? Well you’re not alone. Talking about divorce to your children is tough. You don’t want to make errors you will regret. There are many common mistakes parents make at this time. Learn five of the most important ones so you can avoid them.
Being a divorced Dad can be one of the most frustrating experiences any parent will ever face. For many it seems like a can’t-win situation. You find that you’re constantly trying to prove yourself – to your ex, to the children, and often to a Step-Dad who has moved into the picture.
Is our down-tu ed economy having an effect on divorce in the United States and other nations around the world? While it’s too early for statistical evidence, reports from marriage counselors and divorce atto eys around the globe are in agreement. They’re finding many couples who were ready to ...
Ever go on a vacation without making plans in advance? The consequences are usually disastrous. If you fail to plan ahead regarding newspaper and mail delivery, feeding your pets or watering the plants, knowing where your destination is and reserving your accommodations, your vacation is likely to be filled with disappointment, frustration and even heartache. What about preparing your children for your pending divorce? Do you have a plan – or are you going to wing it without any prior thought? For children, divorce is a monumental life experience for which they have no preparation.
Many families experience separation or divorce as summer approaches so they can take advantage of the school break to make post-divorce transitions. There are many other families, however, that make the break in the midst of the school year.
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT We all know divorce creates havoc in any family’s life, especially when children are involved. Moving on after divorce can also be challenging. It’s a time to be very gentle, both with yourself as well as with your children.
It’s no secret that one of the biggest challenges a parent faces after divorce is staying in good communication with your children. Obviously all parents struggle with communication issues as their children grow, but children who have had their lives dramatically altered by separation or divorce need even more attention – and diligent observation by their parents. Children tend not to tell you when they are angry, resentful, confused, hurt or depressed.
Imagine going through your divorce with billions of people around the world following your every move. That’s the reality Maria Shriver and A old Schwarzenegger are facing as they explore the options that lie ahead for their family.
Facing divorce and stymied about how to tell your kids? Wondering how it will affect them? Worried about hurting them with the news? When’s the best time to talk? What to say and not say? What they will say? Not sure just what to confide? Well you’re not alone. There’s no doubt this might be one of the most difficult conversations you’ll ever have. It’s a talk your children won’t want to have – and you must be prepared. Here are the mistakes most commonly made by parents.
It’s disturbing, sad and shocking to learn about the physical and emotional abuse Mackenzie Phillips experienced as an adolescent and young woman. How many other children and adults are hiding and trying to cope with unspeakable “family secrets” that get left unspoken and unacknowledged? What are the effects on young people who are trying to make sense of abusive behavior at the hands of the very adults they are supposed to trust? One thing’s for sure. Children are easy victims of all kinds of abuse.
Whether Tiger Woods gets a divorce or not, his family is experiencing the emotional turmoil resulting from any parental breakup. Celebrity or not, everyone in the family is affected by a separation or rift between parents. Often Mom and Dad are so caught up in their own battles they tend to overlook the effects on the children, especially when those children are very young. However, kids come with powerful emotional radar.
The second annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Professionals who deal with divorce issues -- therapists, atto eys, mediators, coaches, educators, clergy and others – will be joining forces to share valuable ...
Today’s Hollywood is rarely a place to find role models for our culture, especially when it comes to divorce and family issues. Year after year we’ve been exposed to dramatic, painful, explosive relationship breakups resulting in tabloid headlines that feed upon scandal and ...
Too often, grandparents are caught in drama between parents during and after their divorce. While they want to help in any way they can, many grandparents just don’t know how to ease the hurt, confusion and other emotions affecting their innocent grandkids. Since every divorce is unique there are no cookie-cutter solutions that do the trick. But here are some guidelines to help you be there for your grandchildren at a time when they need your love and support.
Sadly, celebrity divorces make all the headlines for all the wrong reasons. They showcase the most unconscious behavior, especially when it comes to relationships. Kim Kardashian’s marriage gone off tracks after such a short time is just one more example.
Getting psyched up to tell your children about your pending divorcen-- or separation? Not sure what to say? When to say it? How tonsay it? What to expect after the conversation? What to do next? How do deal with your special circumstances? What therapists,nmediators, atto eys, clergy and other ...
Sadly, celebrity divorces make all the headlines for all the wrong reasons. They showcase the most unconscious behavior, especially when it comes to relationships. Kim Kardashian’s marriage gone off tracks after such a short time is just one more example.
One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The ...
More than ever before, divorce is making news. Much of it is due to changing legislation regarding issues such as custody. In the past five years there have also been major shifts in our perceptions about divorce and the emergence of new alte atives that can simplify and reduce the time and ...