Shrink Fear Grow Love
When the fear-fog clears, when the projection that has kept him separate from you and sealed a barnacle over your heart finally shatters, you see your partner as if for the first time. Not only do you see her clearly, in all of her sweet and simple splendor, but the delusions of separateness fall away, and you can see how under the hooks of hair or teeth or height or education or ambition or boredom or do we have enough to talk about or he’s wrong for me or she’s not attractive enough or I’m always irritated or mannerisms or humor or social fluidity orr