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If not “dead,” it’s certainly in extremis. That’s a medical term meaning “at the point of death,” but the gist of the phrase will work. Email is in trouble, perhaps extreme, but we do not know. Is it stressed, or has it moved into strain? What will be the future? Of course no one knows. ...
Multiculturalism is a reality in the US and for those of us who do business globally. The US has more legal immigrants yearly than all the other countries in the world combined. Also there are vast cultural differences among "native" Americans living in the US for several generations, as you ...
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) affects about 5% of us severely and perhaps 25% of us more mildly. Women and young adults are more likely to suffer from it. It’s a form of depression that, according to the National Mental Health Association (NMHA), is a real illness with sometimes severe ...
I get letters. As a Relationship Coach, and the “How to Attract the Man of Your Dreams” expert on a major website, I get letters. “I’ve been seeing a guy for a year who’s in the process of a divorce,” writes Anne (not her real name). She goes on to ...
I love Mr. Mafioso on AskMen. “Look, college boy,” he writes, “there are certain lessons that all the books in the world couldn’t teach you.” Strikes a chord with me. I came out of college quite the college girl. It was a college in rural Minnesota, very ...
Every couple of years the topic of identical twins hits the front cover of Newsweek. In fact it's about time now--be watching! Most people find the topic fascinating. The relationship between identical twins looks good from the outside; a seamless interface, and they seem to enjoy one ...
The best advice I can give you is to test your ideas in the actual location under realistic conditions to eliminate unpleasant surprises. Work with an experience coach or wedding consultant if you can, and then keep in mind the following things: 1. THE WIND. Wind can affect the temperature, ...
Serving as “Attract Your Dream Partner” expert for a major website, I get questions. I get the same questions in my coaching practice. “I saw this girl in the bookstore and I want to ask her out. What do I do?” “I want to ask this woman out but I can’t get her attention.” “There’s this woman ...
We are nothing, if not the sum total of our experiences, but when is it "baggage" and when is it not. Baggage is when you’re weighed-down by past experiences, stuck and unable to move forward from the weight. We think of it along with such terms as dumping it, getting rid of it, carrying ...
Something’s making you anxious. In today’s world it could be any number of things, and sometimes several in combination. Maybe it’s a big assignment at work with a pressure deadline you’re not sure you can do it all and you feel your job depends upon it. Or you suspect your husband’s having ...
I have been a fan of Edith Piaf’s for many years. Among her esoteric US following was the basketball team at my college, which used to warm up to her song, “Milord.” I was also a student of French, and learned to sing along with many of her songs. Even though I knew nothing of her life, and ...
More than 48% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals. The American Association for Single People projects that by 2010, 47.2% of adults will be unmarried. Being single does not mean being alone, not does being in a couple for the holidays insure happiness. Let’s dispel some ...
One of the things we all dislike about psychologists is terms like "vulnerable to loss." Who, pray tell me, is not "vulnerable to loss"? It is devastating to lose someone who made your world a better place. Or some thing that did, like a career, a special house, your left leg, the ability to ...
We tend to think of feeling angry as being caused by rude drivers, people we don't like, or 100 degree temperatures, and feeling good as being caused by kind people, successful projects, or ice cream cones. When we're working on our emotional intelligence we work on our self-talk and ...
Homemade Struffoli makes a great Christmas Gift. Here's a photo of mine: http://tinyurl.com/susandunn. We are entering that sacred time of year. In every culture around the globe there is a celebration this time of year with different names, but the purpose is to bring people together for ...
I’ve been studying proverbs from around the world in order to produce an inspirational PowerPoint. There are some beautiful slide shows out there, and as far as I’m conce ed there can’t be enough of them, and I’ve not seen one with great proverbs, of which there are plenty. They are a ...
THE MONDAY FROM HELL Keely was the last person to arrive at the office Monday morning and when she walked in, she could feel the tension in the air. As she walked back to her office, others looked up and rolled their eyes or shook their heads, and she knew what was going on. Their boss, the ...
You’re dating and your religious beliefs are different. How much difference does this make? The answer is: Another person’s religious beliefs are important to you to the degree they re important to you. This may sound like begging the question, but it’s an important thing to get . Assuming ...
When we think of Valentine’s Day, we tend to think of two lovers celebrating together. If you aren’t paired at this time, don’t let yourself get left out! Here are 14 great ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day YOUR way. 1. Celebrate with a child! If you don’t have one, borrow one! Invite ...
Dear EQ Coach: My husband and I have been together for 10 years. We have 4 kids, his and mine. I love his youngest one like she were mine, but the oldest one I just can’t stand. He’s favored her in the past, which irks me, and she’ll always doing things that get on my ...
"To know how to grow old,” wrote Henry Frederic Amiel , “is the master work of wisdom, one of the most difficult chapters in the great art of living." One of the most important things you can do to assist in this process, is to work on your emotional intelligence. It includes competencies such ...
Let's face it, some families live in each other's pockets and love it, while others prefer a little distance. But parents, especially, like to get the whole gang together once in a while. Also you might be hosting the step-kids for the summer. What venue you choose for these occasions makes ...
What's the pulse out there? Many of us opted for a quiet New Year's Eve choosing Mozart and a glass of wine in front of the fireplace over getting drunk, hanging off the rafters, and negotiating a statistically dangerous drive back home in a sort of mad compensatory gesture. It’s really just ...
The recent proliferation of dating websites makes it clear that you’re looking for him, and he’s looking for you, so how do we get the two of you together? AT WORK Most people meet their future mates in the workplace, despite the distinct possibility of Double Jeopardy: you could lose both ...
There's no better way to promote your business for free than to write articles on the Internet. It is particularly good for promoting services where advertising doesn't work as well even if you can afford it. All business is about relationship. You can't meet face-to-face with each person, or ...
We transform ourselves and our lives when we look at things differently. Take a new look at THE APPLE and what it can teach us. "The Botany of Desire: A Plant's Eye View of the World," (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0375760393/susandunnmome-20 ) is a delightful book full of fascinating ...
Coaching developed because it met a need. People who weren’t in need of psychiatric therapy needed more in terms of advice and guidance than friends or family could, would or should provide, and were seeking this from various professionals in their lives – doctors, financial advisors, ...
There are lots of things credit card companies can do legally that are unfair and that leave you in the lurch if you're not aware of them. For more information, go to http://www.bankrate.com where these facts come from. 1. Bait and switch. You think you're applying for a credit card with ...
Bravi Azurri! The Italians deserved to win. They outplayed and outmaneuvered the opponents, including using what they call “furbo.” It means being wily, cunning, or tricky. It’s an integral life skill as well as football skill. It works and it’s part of emotional intelligence. As you ...
Introduce interesting topics of conversation - good movies you've seen, places you've visited. If you're stuck, ask the other person something - Do you have children? Did you get away over the [holidays]? Have you read [the latest bestseller]? Where do you work? Any of these questions will get ...
As we all race to understand Emotional Intelligence, arguably the hottest thing on the business scene globally, there are many questions. As ‘Ask the EQ Expert’ for a business website, I’ve been asked:nn· Isn’t ‘Emotional Intelligence’ a ...
In today’s litigious society – and simply because you care – planning the holiday office party must include thoughts toward the safety of guests, especially if you’re serving liquor. Here are some tips to aid your planning: First of all, someone always gets assigned to PLAN the party, but you ...
If you're an introvert (about 10% of the population), the holidays can be a stressful time. Here are some things to keep in mind to make it more enjoyable for yourself. 1. Be sure and plan plenty of time for extra rest and time alone for recharging your batteries. 2. Don't accept every party ...
When my client Lorena was going through her divorce, she said she played the piano every night "until there wasn't an ounce left in me." John went out on his boat and listened to Rachmaninoff. Many of us turn to music when words are not enough, or there are no words. We listen to an opera, or ...
“Let’s break bread,” was once a popular phrase but you don’t hear it too much any more. It’s still the preferred way to get to know people in the business world, to bond with colleagues from other departments, close deals with clients, work out issues with partners, and build trust. It works, ...
Are you bracing yourself for December, unsure what to celebrate and how? Here’s what you can do: D ... iversity In today’s multicultural world, and office, there will likely be many faiths represented during the holiday season. You can’t assume any longer that ...
Arthur and Samatha are going at it again. It’s hard to watch from the outside, because it’s obvious they love each other, and obvious that they’re quite compatible. They’ve both been divorced, though, so they’re leery, and what they’re doing is finding sore points – even manufacturing them, ...
Here are three things typical of your first weeks on a new job. 1. You will get sick. 2. You will find out you were lied to. 3. You will have a mini-crisis at home. There. Now that you have the proper expectations, it will be easier. If these don't happen to you, be pleasantly ...
It’s common knowledge that athletes must have trainers and coaches. It’s a long tradition, not even questioned. The results of the coaching are also obvious … athletes engage in physical actions, and one can easily see the results. They are using what’s called “gross motor skills” – hitting ...
I've been planning to move for some time, but first I had to repair the foundation on my house (a common problem in south Texas) and also get a new roof because of hail damage (another common problem in south Texas. I finished getting those major projects done, and turned to the tweaking of the ...
Sarah Wilson, a dog trainer, was recently interviewed in a magazine article in reference to her master’s thesis which is about women and their dogs. She feels that what women are intuitively attracted to in a dog are the same things she’ll enjoy in a mate. (I’m sure this applies to men as ...
It can present itself as depression, aching and exhaustion, burn out, fibromyalgia, auto-immune deficiencies, low sex drive, insomnia, hair loss, and a host of other things that make life a struggle every day. Adrenal fatigue will ultimately compromise your immune system, which is your health. ...
This article is for you if you’re a behind-the-scenes kind pf person: the administrative assistant who gets the presentation ready for the guys in marketing but doesn’t get to go to the meeting; the PR pro who writes all the CEO’s speeches and answers all the complain letters; the at-home ...
Finding a husband at midlife is a challenge. Since people date for different reasons, if you want marriage, you must differentiate yourself, select men accordingly, and behave differently. n Some of the problems are that there are more women than men at this age, some men prefer to date ...
Things change at Christmas time - new people come to your house with strange new things, you rearrange furniture, add new things like trees, get more tired, and pay less attention. All these things can confuse your animal companion causing them to do things they ordinarily wouldn’t do, and ...
If you’ve read my articles, you know I sometimes talk about knowing your time zones. Sometimes we can get stuck in the past, or treat current situations as if they were like something from the past, or spend all our time dreaming about the future and miss the opportunity that would get us the ...
Perhaps you’ve asked yourself this question in the past few years, or asked someone else whom you thought might have the answer. You’re wondering what you can hang on to, where you can find an anchor, or at least a marker bouy, in a world that’s never the same, and more not the same all the ...
Around the end of January, post-holiday blues combine with bad weather, debt, allergens, failed resolutions, and long hours of darkness. In fact last year a scientist, using a formula of things that make us feel bad, labeled January 24 the most depressing day of the year. It’s a nasty ...
This question appeared on a blog recently, and of course it caught my interest as it was framed in terms of Emotional Intelligence. I maintain the answer is quite simple: because no one ever taught them how. Now, let me say that I don’t know that middle managers don’t know how to lead. In ...
First of all, what is emotional intelligence? I bet you’ve read some fancy definitions, and maybe even some of the academic articles trying to distinguish between emotions, feelings and moods. Part of emotional intelligence is what we could call “common sense.” So, some common sense ...