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By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

A Couple's Guide to Intimacy...When One of You is a Sexual Abuse Survivor

Jeanette really wants to have a “normal” sex life with her husband Carl. The problem is her memories of being sexually abused as a child by a neighbor. It seems like whenever Carl touches her or talks to her in a sexually suggestive way, she freezes up. This has been a struggle for the two of them since they started dating and it doesn't seem to be getting better. Jeanette frequently forces herself to have sex with Carl and she does enjoy it to some extent. But, she is aware that she holds herself back from him and is not as passionate as she'd like to be.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

2,334 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Intimacy Enhancer or Mood Dampener?: The Potentials and Pitfalls of Back Rubs

Ah, the back rub. In your love relationship, a back rub can be a welcome tension reliever at the end of a long stressful day. It can also be a prelude to lovemaking or other intimate connecting. But, unfortunately, a back rub can also backfire and end up causing pain, discomfort or even ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

2,209 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Try a Spark Experiment in Your Marriage or Love Relationship

Reverend Ed Young, founder of a nondenominational church in Texas, made an unusual proposal to his congregation a few months ago. He suggested that married couples in his church make an agreement to have sex with one another every day for seven days. This “sexperiment” was intended ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

2,164 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Want Deeper Intimacy? Send Out A Message To Yourself

“I’m sending out a message to myself so that when I hear it on the radio, I will know that I am fine. I will know that I am loved.” In an interview, Melissa Etheridge explains that she wrote these lyrics as an uplifting reminder to herself. We believe that the positive ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

2,156 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Dating After Divorce: How Can You Tell That You're Ready?

In many cases, immediately after going through a divorce, a person is not too interested in getting into a relationship with someone new. Hurt feelings, sadness, grief, even anger are quite common. These emotions need to be dealt with and moved through before the person can truly open up to ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,987 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

The Affair is Only Part of the Story

Selena and Trey have decided to give their marriage a second chance. After finding out that Trey cheated, Selena was ready to pack up her belongings and leave. She spent a week with her mother and decided that she isn't willing to file for divorce just yet. When Selena returned home, she set down some strict ground rules with Trey. He would need to prove to her-- without a doubt-- that he truly broke off the affair. He would need to make his entire life accessible and open to her.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,840 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Is it too easy to get a divorce these days? Advice to Help You Through Relationship Rough Spots

A recent article in Psychology Today discusses the current state of marriage in the U.S. The author of the article asserts that couples in the U.S. today have too many choices-- and this is leading them to get divorced when the going gets rough. We don't get the sense that this Psychology Today article was advocating that nobody should get divorced or split up. Instead, the point seemed to be, that in the context of the relatively wealthy lives (compared with the rest of the world) that many Americans lead, marriage has become less of a necessity.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,829 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

5 Ways to Stay Connected with the One You Love in Times of Stress

We've all had stressful times in our lives-- some of us seem to have more frequent stress and upheaval than others. And if you've been in the middle of a stressful period, you probably know that being under pressure can have detrimental effects on your love relationship. This is the time that ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,731 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Intimacy Tips for Moms and Dads

If you have kids at home, it's highly likely that you and your mate have to schedule in and make plans for special time for you two to be alone. This may vary depending on your lifestyle and the ages of your kids. It's quite possible that at a certain point in your lives, you and your partner ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,704 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Trust Rebuilding After Infidelity: Is it Time to See a Professional?

Saundra had an affair a year ago. Her husband, Rick, agreed to try to work things out and rebuild trust. This hasn't been as easy or as smooth a process as either of them hoped it would be. They are both willing to keep trying, but are starting to wonder if they need outside help. “Is it time to see a professional to help us rebuild relationship trust?” If you and your partner are struggling in the aftermath of an affair, you might be asking yourselves the same question.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,658 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

3 Ways to Find True Relief from Relationship Pain

When you are in pain because of something that's happened in your love relationship or marriage, it can seem like there's nothing else in your life but the hurt and upset way you feel. You may have discovered that your partner lied to or cheated on you. Or perhaps you and your mate can't seem to get along and your relationship is riddled with conflict most of the time. It could also be that you feel unappreciated, neglected or unloved. No matter what has happened, the pain that you are feeling can be intense at times.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,594 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Listening to Your Inner Voice

If you never imagined that a goose could teach you about your personal growth, think again. Here's a bazaar, true story that our daughter told us about her co-worker A 's experience. Ann was training for a marathon, running on a bike path in a major city where she lives. As she was running, a ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,484 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Trust Turnaround Advice: How to Courageously Make Relationship Changes

Change is an undeniable part of life. Seasons change. Our bodies change as the years pass. And relationships change. Sometimes deep down inside, you are called to make a change in your life or your relationship. For a variety of reasons, you might choose to ignore that call for change and ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,445 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Creating Red Hot Relationship Spontaneity in the Midst of a Planned-Out Life

When you think of passion and intimacy, an image of love-making whenever and wherever the mood strikes you and your partner might come to mind. Perhaps you and your love experience this often. Or maybe you used to have spontaneous red hot moments before you settled into a life together ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,384 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Whatever Happened to Teamwork? Advice to Help You Build (or Re-build) a Great Relationship

Does it ever feel like it's you against your mate? Perhaps this occurs some of the time or most of the time in your love relationship or marriage. It could seem like you are constantly in a struggle with one another-- whether it's about finances, the kids, your home, intimacy or other issues. Feeling at odds with your partner, even part of the time, can drive a wedge between the two of you. Your connection and trust itself can be undermined when there is no sense of teamwork in your relationship. You might have very good reasons to not feel like a team with your mate.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,311 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Don't Let Jealousy Take Over Your Love Relationship

It usually starts out small—just a twinge of worry or insecurity—and then before you know it grows to such huge proportions it seems like it will never leave. We’re talking about jealousy here. And if you’ve been in the throes of jealous feelings, you probably know what ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,102 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Communication Advice When Your Relationship Just Seems Stuck

It’s all about you. If you’re like most people, that’s probably not a sentence you feel comfortable reading! On one hand, you were probably told by someone as you were growing up that “the world doesn’t revolve around you” or something to that effect. In ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,082 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Tips To Free Yourself From The Clutches Of Jealousy

Have you ever traced your genealogical roots? Perhaps you've conducted searches about your ancestors using the internet or a library's database. It can be fun and quite interesting to find out if your long ago relatives fought in wars, traveled to distant lands with their belongings in a ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

1,065 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Intimacy Tips To Bridge The Communication Gap

Do you ever feel like you’re pouring out your heart to a blank stare? When you try to communicate with your love, does it sometimes seem like you're just not speaking the same language? He or she may be trying really hard to figure out what you are talking about, but just can’t ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

996 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Self-Care: Try Spring Cleaning For A Lighter, More Joyful You!

It’s that time of year again. You see folks clearing out their garages, basements and attics preparing for yard sales or trips to thrift stores to donate all of those unwanted items. Yes, it’s spring cleaning season. If you’ve ever engaged in this annual tradition of sorts, ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

971 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

You Can Have It All in Your Love Relationship

After many years of being in a love relationship, you might be asking yourself: “Can I have it all?” It’s a good question and here’s what we find in our experience working with couples…. nn--A couple may have friendship or compatibility, but little or no passion.nn--A person might feel like he ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

894 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Find Love And Create The Relationship Of Your Dreams

Have you had it with being single and alone? Are you tired of romantic encounters that either lead nowhere or lead you places you don't want to go? Are you ready to share your life and love with the mate of your dreams? If you answered “yes,” to any of these questions then you ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

889 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Relationship Advice For Creating Greater Intimacy

Most of us are pretty routine-oriented. We get up in the morning, brush teeth, eat breakfast and then head off to whatever form of work we engage in. Our days continue on in much the same way. Many of us also create time to connect in with our partner watching movies, having dinners out, and ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

852 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Tips To Move Closer To The One You Love Even In The Midst Of Life Changes

Change. Every single one of us goes through a myriad of changes not only in our lives but in our day to day existences. Some changes are pretty small and insignificant. Perhaps your favorite coffee shop stopped carrying your preferred blend of java and you have to make another choice. Other ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

833 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

What's Knocking On Your Back Door?: How to Open Up To More Happiness And Connection

Have you ever had a complete meltdown over something that wouldn’t usually upset you and wondered where that came from? As we move along through our lives, we are sometimes caught unaware by stirred up feelings we didn’t realize were getting stirred up! We are sometimes just as ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

830 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

How To Deal With The Communication Tough Stuff

Sure. It's easy to feel gratitude about your relationship and partner when things are running smoothly. Wasn't it wonderful the way she surprised me with a love note in my briefcase the other day? Or, I just adore the way he knows when I need a bouquet of flowers at the end of a long week. But ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

821 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Happiness Tips: Savor The Flavors Of Life

Have you ever been to your favorite restaurant, ordered your favorite food and then thoroughly enjoyed eating it? We hope so! If you haven’t had such an experience, imagine what it might be like. Remember how the texture, taste and smell of this wonderful food delighted you as you ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

782 views

By Susie and Otto CollinsRecently published1 topic

Relationship Advice For Communicating About Money

When you live and love together, that pesky “M” word can become quite the wedge between you and your mate. The romance and intimacy are great but then along comes a question or decision to make and you two feel like you’ve hit a big brick wall. We’re talking about money ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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