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The Only Two Ways to Heal the Divide Byr Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; unite and lead, is watchword of the wise.” ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.
RATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rxnby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...
Finding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Withi BynBill Cottringe n“The obscure takes awhile to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Unknown author. Just about the time I finally think I have the main purpose of life figured out, up pops something else with a slightly different flavor and ...
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson. As managers today, we are being challenged to use and teach one skill more than all the others in our toolbox—adapting to and teaching change successfully. Just pause a moment ...
Why You Should Focus More On The One Really Important Need You Have Rather than on The Many Others That Occupy Your Attentio BynBill Cottringe “We never understand how little we need in this world until we know the loss of it.” ~James Matthew Barrie. We all really just have one ...
THERE ARE ALWAYS TWO SIDES OF THE STORY n& THEN THERE IS THE TRUTHnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. nnn“Reality leaves a lot to the imagination.” ~ John Lennonnn Actually there are probably as many ‘stories’ as there are people on this planet. But, there is but one overall, unifying truth that ...
A PERSONAL CHOICE: PRETEND OR PLAY? BynBill Cottringe nn“A truly good book teaches me better than to read it. I must soon lay it down, and commence living on its hint. What I began by reading, I must finish by acting.” ~Henry David Thoreau. For a long time now I have gradually realized ...
GIVE IN AND WINnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Conscience is what hurts when everything else feels so good.” ~ Unknown author. It was a rainy night in August of 1964 when this naïve 19-year old kid was assigned guard duty at the make-shift rear gate of Tan Son Nhut AB in Saigon, Vietnam. ...
n“It’s not what you do, but how much love you put into it that matters.” ~Mother Teresa. One very interesting research study I came across a few years ago was done with very senior citizens who were all over 95-years of age. What interested me most were the top regrets these people had ...
Being successful and winning in life takes much talent, effort, determination, cleve ess, good timing, and patience. However you can shorten the learning curve by understanding and practicing certain “P” points. These psychological power points are the little things you can do, with ...
ANY RELATIONSHIP CAN GO SOUTH QUICKLYnBy Bill Cottringe nn“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” ~Henry Winkler. Great, good or ghastly relationships can go South in a New York second if they are not prepared ahead of time for the Big “S”—the inevitable stress that challenges ...
Walking to Successnby Bill Cottringe n“Slow down you’re doing fine. You can’t be everything you want to be before your time.” ~Billy Joel. There is too much hype about thriving to success and way too many hits about that “race” on the I-net (only 360 million!). Even the most simple, ...
Sigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. ...
How Do You Know What To Do For Sure? By William Cottringer, Ph.D. “Good judgment comes from experience and experience comes from bad judgment.”n ~ Anonymous. How do you know what to do for sure? That is a very good question to which we should all want to know the answer, especially ...
Looking for Greener Pastures Byr Bill Cottringer “The grass on the other side of the fence isn’t always greener. Sometimes it is just a different shade of brown and other times it comes with unwanted weeds and underground pests. ~The Author. Having played fierce musical chairs for over 5 decades now with careers, jobs, relationships, living locations and even with politics, religions, and schools, I can attest to the truth of the opening quote. Here are just a few honest views of both sides of the fence: Big vs. Small
SUCCESS IS EASIER DONE THAN SAIDnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “People love chopping wood. In this activity one immediately sees results.” ~Albert Einstein. All the libraries of current success clues are making success harder said than done. We are all buried in the success overload and ...
HELP FOR REALTY REPAIR Rx? BynBill Cottringe n I am currently writing a book called "Reality Repair Rx: Making Things Better," which I feel is very important today given the extent and scope of the problems we are all currently facing (total overload). I recently published “Do What Matters ...
The Trouble with Beliefs Byr Bill Cottringer “Man is what he believes. ~ Anton Chekhov.
Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair RxnBy Bill Cottringe nn“What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson. What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and ...
THE WILL TO GROWnBy Bill Cottringe n There is one particular motivation that has a significant impact on the quality of your life; it can result in varying degrees of happiness and unhappiness, success and failure, peace and turmoil and good health and ill health. This single motivation ...
The least Applied Solution to Relationship Conflicts Worth ConsideringnBy Bill Cottringe n“The only way to mange the destructive affects of anger and hatred are to cultivate the positive antidotes of patience and tolerance.” ~The Dalai Lama. In any intensely close personal or work ...
CHOICES, CHOICES, CHOICES By Bill Cottringe nnn Probably the one thing we think about and do more than anything else in life is making choices. Many times we even have to choose to make a choice or not. We generally make choices from either our heads or our hearts, but usually somewhere in ...
“For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible.” ~Stuart Chase. There is one huge belief that has a humongous influence on all others because it represents and touches everything else. This one belief that matters most is the one we each ...
The Terrible Twins Within: Our Psychological vs. Moral ConsciencesnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. “The human voice can never reach the distance that is covered by the still small voice of conscience.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. We start out and end up at the same place in finding and knowing ...
THREADING YOUR NEEDLE WITH LIFE’S ROPE By Bill Cottringe nnn A great challenge and opportunity we all have in life is to be successful in threading our needle with life’s rope. This is our main success quest behind all that we do. The keys to this quest are in understanding the rope, ...
Understanding The Violence of RapenBy Bill Cottringe nn“Liberty without love is destruction; love without liberty is despair.” ~Thomas Troward. Earlier in my career as a prison administrator, when I was just beginning my learning curve on understanding the hard core problems of life in ...
The Secret In The Way of The Secretnby Bill Cottringe n I have to admit I am both a fan and a skeptic with all the hype this past year or so about “The Secret.” My “fan” perspective is a feeling one. I feel the fundamental truth of the Law of Attraction and power of positive thinking is ...
A Mother of a Problem For Reality Repai By Bill Cottringe n A central challenge in life is for us to learn how to become experts at reality repair. We frequently find ourselves as part of undesirable realities we need to fix or create new and better replacement ones we think we want. ...
Two of my favorite words lately are alignment and purpose. When these two words are in sync with each other you can access unlimited success and abundance and all the positive feelings that come with those things. But when these two words are out of sync with each other, that is when you get ...
BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF byr Bill Cottringer “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true strength.” ~Lao Tzu. An earlier Psychologist, Abraham Maslow, proposed a hierarchy of needs that all people had a drive to satisfy. This was Maslow’s attempt to explain human motivation. Each need must be met with a certain level of satisfaction before we are inclined to move up through the hierarchy with any degree of serious intent or likelihood of satisfying that need.
TRUE BALANCE: WHEN TO BE EVEN-HANDED AND WHEN TO GO FOR IT WITH ALL FOURSnby Bill Cottringe n“Genuine happiness and true peace of mind only come about when you begin to make progress at knowing when to be even-handed and when to close your eyes, hold your breath and jump in with all fours.” ...
THE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...
Having Enough Hope in Motion for Successr By Bill Cottringer “You may not always have a comfortable life and you will not always be able to solve all of the world's problems at once but don't ever underestimate the importance you can have because history has shown us that courage can be contagious and hope can take on a life of its own.” ~Michelle Obama. Having hope is a good thing to have on your bookshelf. But, hope is too useful and valuable in driving success, to leave it there and not put in motion to work its magic. How do you do this? Here are four useful tips:
AN IDEA WHO’S TIME HAS COME By Bill Cottringe nn Thanks to the relatively recent science of neuromarketing, brain research has begun to identify the central role of the reptilian part of the human brain (old brain)—below the thinking and emotional semi-conscious mental activities we ...
Our Common Denominator Byr Bill Cottringer “Men go to far greater lengths to avoid what they fear than to obtain what they desire.” ~Dan Brown, The Da Vinci Code.
SOULFUL SATISFACTION By Bill Cottringe n“It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinions about these things.”n ~ Epictetusnn Without a doubt, the above quote is my all time favorite, because day by day it keeps growing in meaning and value in my own life and adding ...
Small Thinking Can’t Solve Big Problems Byr Bill Cottringer “Logical, intellectual thinking can prove or disprove relative beliefs and at best most of these turn out to be half-truths which are not worth clinging to. But only whole-brained rational and spiritual intelligence combined can discover the absolutes that are worth dying for.” ~The Author.
Job-Getting Reminder Tips Byr Bill Cottringer Although the post-pandemic job market is starting to lean toward favoring employees over employers, it is still a difficult challenge to find the right job today. Success requires some serious preparatory work in the following three areas, in making the attempt to market yourself better and stand out from the rest of the crowd. Job
“Reality is hard to see, harder to talk about and hardest to agree upon.” ~The author. It has taken me awhile, but I think I have finally figured out something very important. We all spend a great deal of time trying to repair broken realities we don’t like and trying to create new and ...
Good Sense About Getting Along with Others During Troubled Times byr Bill Cottringer “The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” ~Theodore Roosevelt.
Psychology for Dummies (Like Me & You) Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they need to be done.” ~ Mark Twain. 1. Most of what we think we know really isn’t so, whether we like that reality or not because it is true. Why we wait so long to admit this, is a mystery. Our brains need to be purged of worthless information, so we can make room for what we really need to know in order to thrive past our surviving.
The Three Main Highways to Success Byr Bill Cottringer “Knowing how to succeed is the easy part. The hard part is in translating your desire into hard work and maintaining perseverance through inevitable setbacks.” ~ The Author.
The Central Conflict That Spills Over Into Everything Else BynBill Cottringe nn After decades of studying and experiencing personal conflicts in a variety of work and domestic relationships, there is one that is more bothersome and difficult to talk about than any other. The strong ...
Developing a Winning Success Style byr Bill Cottringer “When you win, say nothing. When you lose, say less.” ~ Paul Brown.
We Are Alike & We Are Different Byr Bill Cottringer “It is a darn shame that we spend so much time arguing and being annoyed with our differences, and not enough time understanding and celebrating them.” ~The Author. An important insight to apply for success is knowing the commonalities we have in unity as human beings and the differences that separate us and make us all different. Our unique ability of self-consciousness already separates us from the rest of life and that should be quite enough separation.
The Three Core Conflicts byr Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author.
n“If you want to know where you are going, stop; look at where your feet are pointing and look behind you to see where the footprints are that got you here.” ~The Author. I have been a part of the positive psychology, human potential and self-help movements since the late sixties. At this ...
Time: The Ultimate Yin-Yang Urstoff byr Bill Cottringer “The hidden portal to real time is the precise now moment of when the past and future collide into the present.” ~The author. To see true time, You need double vision, One eye for conventionr The other for imagination. First you look, Then you see, First clock time, Then the ete al now. When they rhyme, You know time.
Whole-Brained Thinking © 2021 William Cottringer “A wise person uses intelligence to find reasons to support intuition.” ~The author.
Accidental vs. Intentional Careersr By Bill Cottringer “Our strongest gifts are usually those we are barely aware of possessing. They are a part of our God-given nature, with us from the moment we drew first breath, and we are no more conscious of having them than we are of breathing.” ~Parker J. Palmer.