Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D.
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Effective Communication Goes Against Human Nature
Communication is the most common presenting problem of couples in my practice. Yet, it is not truly the main problem. Even if couples utterly fail to talk, negotiate, or make decisions, thereâs a bigger problem than communication. When you're in a tense, difficult or nasty discussion with your partner, the problem isn't communication. The problem is your distressed emotional reaction about what they are saying. If your distress is severe enough, you are on the way to being
December 3, 2009
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7 Steps to Influence Your Partner to Change
Everyone has something theyâd like to change in their partner. Unfortunately too many partners believe, âIf I want a change, my partner is obligated to do it âif they really love meâ.â Frequently this creates quite a power struggle. Here is a 7-step process to create a change in your partner. The key to the success of this process is that it makes your partner want to change â instead of feeling coerced. Why? Because your gain will not feel like their loss. Hereâ
December 3, 2009
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