Renita T. Kalhorn
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Review And Recap: The Crucial Step To Success
Eager to charge into the New Year with your goals and resolutions? Before you do, why not take a moment to step back and reflect on what you learned in the past year -- it's the best way to avoid making the same mistakes and to fully leverage the experience you’ve gained. I'll go first, with a few of the key lessons I took away in 2007:nn 1. There’s no such thing as public speaking. Most people, as Seinfield said, referring to the widespread fear of speaking in pu
January 3, 2008
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Do You Have Your Full Attention?
Have you ever had a conversation with someone and noticed midway that your mind is somewhere else and you have no idea what they just said? Or sat at your desk, hands on the computer keyboard and realized you’ve done nothing for the last ten minutes? Or have you ever...hello? Excuse me, are you there?nnSo often we allow our minds to be taken over by “unauthorized” thoughts, like a territory under foreign occupation. We live on auto-pilot, going through the m
December 18, 2007
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Four Steps To Don't Worry, Be Happy
Recently, in Singapore for a coaching event, I found myself starting to worry about the trip back. As I wasn’t able to check in online, I would have to wait to reserve my seat until I arrived at the airport and, with claustrophobic visions of being trapped in a middle seat, I found myself becoming quite anxious about the 23-hour flight back to the US. As it turns out, I was assigned an aisle seat and, for the final leg, actually had the whole row to myself. All the worr
October 1, 2007
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Seven Tips for Achieving Ultimate Productivity
Surfing around the world of blogs (or online journals) this past month, I ran across the âUltimate Guide to Productivityâ project started by Ben Yoskovitz at the Instigator Blog (www.instigatorblog.com). Ben solicited bloggers around cyberspace to contribute their best tips for getting things done, and I was inspired (once I realized reading blogs is the archenemy of productivity!), to catalog my own proven tips:nn 1. Immediate deadlines. The key to productivity is focus,
May 31, 2007
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This Is Your Ideal Life
When speaking with potential clients during exploratory sessions, I often ask them what their âideal lifeâ would look like. Without fail, they are taken aback: it seems theyâve never thought about their life in those terms â is that even allowed?! Apparently the self-help gurus are right: people put more thought into planning their vacations than they do their lives. nnIt seems preposterous that someone would go to the airport at the beginning of their vacation and ho
May 1, 2007
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It's About Time: Living In the Bottom of the Hourglass
Why not adopt an attitude of abundance â some thoughts on how to change your relationship with time. nnnHere in New York, holiday decorations had made their appearance before we had even celebrated Thanksgiving. Apparently time is not passing by fast enough for the rabid retailers. nnAccordingly, the pace picks up as our days fill with additional seasonal activities â parties, shopping, travel â crowding already jam-packed schedules. But rather than savoring the special
December 1, 2006
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Perfection Is Overrated
A few weeks ago, I attended a reading at Barnes & Noble for Violin Dreams, the latest book by Arnold Steinhardt, first violinist of the renowned Guarneri Quartet. When asked during the Q&A about advances in recording technology, Steinhardt replied that while digital technology enabled the production of flawless recordings, in his opinion, they were lacking in emotion and personality.nnHe then related an anecdote about Pablo Casals, the great cellist, who was asked by the soun
November 2, 2006
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How To Listen To Your Inner Critic
YOU SAID, I HEARDnRob, a client of mine (though not his real name), recently took a one-week vacation from work, a much-needed break from a highly stressful, fast-paced corporate environment. Upon his return, one of his colleagues welcomed him back and noted that Robâs team had worked hard and been very productive during his absence. Robâs first reaction, as he relayed the story to me, was: âI knew it, theyâre going to find out they donât need me here â I might ge
October 9, 2006
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How To Listen To Your Inner Critic
You Said, I HeardnRob, a client of mine (though not his real name), recently took a one-week vacation from work, a much-needed break from a highly stressful, fast-paced corporate environment. Upon his return, one of his colleagues welcomed him back and noted that Rob's team had worked hard and been very productive during his absence. Rob's first reaction, as he relayed the story to me, was: I knew it, they're going to find out they don't need me here I might get fired.nnNow,
October 2, 2006
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Don't Get Mad, Get Curious!
J, a friend of mine, was at the post office the other day waiting in line. She realized she needed a form so moved to the table a few feet away to fill out the form and then moved back toward her place in line. The man behind her in line, however, had already moved into her place and seemed unwilling to budge. J started to assert that she âwas on line,â but then caught herself, acknowledging, âNo, those are the rules â step out of line, lose your place.ânnHearing th
August 12, 2006
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Got Tedium? How To Enjoy The Job You Have Until You Have The Job You Want
Visit a bookseller and you can find any number of books telling you how to find your dream job (a âdream jobâ search on Amazon returns 513 results), from using the Internet to using the rules of dating. Clearly, there is a large number of people who do not have their dream job and want help finding it. For most of them, however, the transition will not happen overnight, and what those books donât share is how to enjoy the job you have in the meantime. nnIf thereâs no
July 10, 2006