Have you ever known a person who is angry all of the time? These sort of loose cannons can be amusing for a bit, until you realize how draining their sideshows can be. I refer to these riled up angry people as Energy Vampires.
Energy Vampires will take any chance they can to drain all of your positive energy while spouting off like an eruption of Mt. Vesuvius. Do you think these vampires have any idea how many people choose to stay away from them based on their dark energy? The sad part of the equation is, how many people stay present for these shenanigans and then wonder why they feel so crappy after the welcomed tirade is over?
Honestly, there are countless people in the world who are angry for all of the wrongs they’ve encountered and endured in their lives. Energy Vampires carry their negative experiences around like luggage adding more bags to the pile each day. We all have issues, but we can choose to create a better life.
Brian Tracy is an amazing author and motivational speaker. Tracy addresses how anger and guilt can destroy us if we let it. Each of us has the capacity to learn how to let go of guilt, anger, and shame. Anger can be a destructive emotion if we allow ourselves to get out of control and remain attached to our agenda and outcome. Hanging on to the venom of destructive feelings can cause dis-ease, trigger depression, and a general sense of malaise. Getting angry is natural, how you handle anger is another animal all together.
Honestly, do we really need to take ourselves so seriously?
Here are 5 tips to help you come to grips with anger:
● Allow yourself to be ticked off for 15 minutes then take
action.
Anger is a natural and acceptable emotion for a period of time.
Allowing for a period of time to feel the anger is healthy. The trick is to feel it and then take a deep breath and address the situation. How can you take care of what happened? What steps can you take to make things right?
● Address the situation as “a moment in time” and then let it go.
Have you ever looked back on an angry / emotional situation and
laughed? The lesson here is understanding you will recover and life will get back on track. Last week I was angry with a customer service person who forgot that “service” was a part of her title. After minutes of uncomfortable hoop jumping, everything was resolved. At that point I had two choices. Let it go or tell everyone I know about my crappy experience.
● Learn to Forgive: Forgiveness is healthy and all about YOU letting go of the baggage.
What a blessing to learn to forgive. Practice forgiveness whenever you can. You will feel better and lighter for having the courage to allow for human weakness. All too often we carry a grudge which only creates bad energy.
● Take stock in your relationships; words are irreversible and unrepeatable.
This quote explains this situation perfectly ... Think before you
speak.
"Know that a word suddenly shot from the tongue is like an arrow shot from the bow. That arrow won't turn back on its way; you must damn the torrent at its source."
– Rumi
● Walk away from Energy Vampires
Unless you have some sort of super powered protective energy force field, do yourself a favor and walk away from people who rant and rave, and suck up all of your positive energy. If you can’t get away, I suggest infusing some positive energy into the encounter. Energy Vampires will be defused by your positive remarks and will move on to the next willing victim.
Follow these simple steps and you will open yourself to a well
balanced, emotionally healthy way of living. After all, your life is not a dress rehearsal.
For 15 years, Shann Vander Leek has inspired sales professionals and entrepreneurs. Telephone and email consultations make her accessible to clients all over the world. Please visit www.truebalancelifecoachi
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