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Dear Dr. Laura: \ How long should a 62 year old man wait to ask a 55 year old woman to marry? They are both financially secure, they have similar values and interests, and only one has a child (who is adult)? \ Answer: \ I’m assuming that you think that your “mature” ages would relieve you from .

Have you ever wondered if you are normal? Do you spend time comparing yourself to others? It is not uncommon to have these thoughts because we tend to judge many things as being normal or not normal. If people don’t perceive themselves as having “acceptable” thoughts, feelings, beliefs, or behaviors, they think there is something wrong with them and believe they are not normal.

Millions of adults in the United States were victims of some degree of sexual abuse when they were children. In most cases this abuse leaves its affects to a greater or lesser degree. The affect it has on people when they become adults is dependent on many factors. The first factor is the severity and the duration of the abuse. The second most important factor is how the abused child processed the abuse in his or her mind. If the abuse was dealt with at the time, it would have a lesser affect later in life.

ACTORS ALL - I MYSELF - ALONE When life fails to bring us consistent satisfaction, when our weaknesses withhold from us the ego satisfaction we crave, most persons create fantasies that ease the pain caused by the near universal life-style dilemma of uncertainty. This allows each fearful person ...

Question: Is the narcissist confined in his grandiose fantasies to one subject? Answer: This apparently simple question is more complex than it sounds. The narcissist is bound to make use of his more pronounced traits and qualities in both the design of his False Self and the extraction of ...

Just before the start of a “Stress, Change and Creative Teaming” workshop, I was testing out my microphone. The program was for managers of a global engineering company. Most of the 50 + particpants were ex-military, now contractors working with commands and brigades based at Ft. Hood, TX or presently stationed overseas. As I called out, “Can people in the back hear me?” a former Sergeant Major who knew me from my work at Ft.

At the start of the last century, some people have already recognized the duality of our mind. The part which we always use was dubbed the conscious mind. The part erroneously thought of as a lesser part of human consciousness was called the subconscious mind. As technology progresses onward, so too does humanity’s interest in delving into the mysteries of the mind. In addition, the ability to take full control of the mind has been of great interest amongst the luminaries i

Recovered memories have been defined as the phenomenon of partially or fully losing parts of memories of traumatic events, and then later recovering part or all of the memories into conscious awareness. They have also been defined as the recollections of memories that are believed to have been unavailable for a certain period of time[1]. There is very strong scientific evidence that recovered memories exist.[2] This has been shown in many scientific studies.

Question: What happens to a narcissist who lacks even the basic potential and skills to realise some of his grandiose fantasies? Answer: Such a narcissist resorts to deferred Narcissistic Supply which generates an effect of deferred grandiosity. He forgoes his grandiose schemes and gives up ...

Human rights activist backs computer hacke When human rights activist Terry Waite spoke in support of Gary McKinnon, the noted Pentagon hacker, it made quite a stir in March 2009. Waite is a former Beirut hostage, imprisoned for four years in Lebanon in the 1980s. Waite told the press that ...

SUPEREGO AND DIVERSITY Sigmund Freud discovered the superego as a psychological structure juxtaposed to the ego, but at the same time faced this. The father of psychoanalysis died in 1939. It's been 70 years. At this point there are who ask: "About the superego ... what is fantasy and what is reality ...?" The superego certainly exists and we can reach it using our capacity of introversion. 1-THE SELF With few exceptions, all have clear awareness of what is the ego, ie, just what we call in our everyday language when we say: "I think, I am ..." 2-THE SUPEREGOr

Have you ever wished you could get others to agree with you? Do you ever find yourself agreeing with someone that you wish you hadn’t? Like maybe a telemarketer or other annoying individual? This is a brief summary of some of the reasons we agree. Perhaps you want to become more persuasive or perhaps you want to discover why you are so easily persuaded. Let’s examine some reasons. Reciprocity We each try to repay, in kind, what another person has provided us. Favors have a

It may be of some surprise that the word 'wound' is used to represent a cut, hurt, abrasion or more serious injury AND that same word can mean tied up tightly, coiled up, or bound as in "I was all wound up with stress." We tend not to think of being wound up and stressed as an injury, or wound. However, on a psychological level, that is exactly what it is. In today's jargon, the word 'trauma' is used, and aptly so. Trauma is Greek in origin and translates into English as 'wound' - as in hurt or injury. When we speak of trauma, we are talking about being all wound up with woundedness.

Do you know how beautiful you are? Yes, you! You're beautiful beyond compare. Affirm this to yourself ten times right here and now. Okay, now that you're back, think about how you felt as you affirmed your beauty. Did you feel a spark of power? What if you used that spark to ignite filling ...

Question: What are the effects that narcissistic parents have on their offspring? Answer: At the risk of over-simplification: narcissism tends to breed narcissism - but only a minority of the children of narcissistic parents become narcissists. This may be due to a genetic predisposition or ...

PARENTAL ALIENATION is real. If you're on the receiving end...you know it. For most everyone else,...it's invisible.rn ..... TheBondedFamily .......Retweeted by PASA-NJ January 10, 2012

Notes of therapy session with Magda, female, 58, diagnosed with Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) Magda is distressed when I reschedule our appointment. "But we always meet on Wednesdays!" - she pleads, ignoring my detailed explanations and my apologies. She is evidently anxious ...

With so many people opting for plastic surgery and other procedures, over 11 million in 2006, the fate of facial exercises seems to be in terminal decline. Women and men are going for the quick fix of either injections or, more radically, surgery, where they opt to either have pieces of skin and ...

Two three-letter words: "but" and "and." In grammatical terms, they are called conjunctions. They bridge two clauses of a single sentence together. In communication (and negotiation), these words are subtle manipulators of exclusion or inclusion. Generally speaking, "but" excludes, denies, discounts or in some way rejects the previous clause.

Can Men and Women Be Friends? By Dr. Linda Sapadin - Psychologist www.PsychWisdom.com It’s been 20 years since the witty romantic comedy - When Harry Met Sally - explored the still debatable question- “Can Women and Men be Friends?” There are those who say ‘No’. Heterosexual men and women can‘t be true friends. Blame the hormones! Attribute it to jealousy from a spouse! Point the finger at the predatory nature of men (and aggressive women) who “want only one thing”! Or simply remember that men and women come from different planets and interplanetary friendships have never worked!

Remember Sociopaths are opportunists and you are at risk for being that opportunity for him. I need five commitments from you if you want to avoid the wake of destruction that comes from dating a Sociopath. 1. Commitment to your Heart:

The Primordial Energy (Adi Shakti) has 2 streams 1) spiritual 2) material. Spiritual energy is called Gayatri and material energy is called Savitri. Gayatri has 1 face because it represents Non-duality and oneness of soul. Savitri has 5 faces. The body is made up of 5 gross elements. Its 5 sense organs experience sound, form, taste, smell and touch with the help of 5 Tanmatras (subtle element). Vibration of consciousness i.e. the 5 Pranas (Vital Forces) control our bodily mov

Copyright2010 Recent research has revealed more about the brain and its alte ative capabilities for learning. We now know that the human brain has an amazing ability to adapt and grow. We also know that some people are right-brained dominant while others are left-brained dominant. What we are only beginning to understand is that a person having strong right hemisphere thinking generally has trouble learning in school. The reason behind this fact is because most schools focus

SEXUAL OBSESSIONS IN CONVENTS Before knowing the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, this already existed in monasteries and convents. He was known by the name of "scruples of conscience. " A VERY STRICT MORAL Sexual morality of the Roman Catholic Church has been very strict. Any “venereal” pleasure (sexual) consented, constituted a grave sin and was punished with ete al hell. This sin not accepted "paucity of matter", ie, against this provision had not sin mild, all were serious or fatal.r

A MINDFUL CHOCOLATE MEDITATION Walk into any grocery store and there’s likely to be a Halloween aisle brimming over with candy. Those who struggle with mindless eating have already begun to wonder how they’ll stay clear of trick-or-treat sweets. Many people find that Halloween ...

Most of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards children with little more than passing reference to adult ADHD. Most adults with ADHD do not look like the typical depiction in childhood, Typically, but not always, as kids with ADHD mature into adolescence, the hyperactive symptoms diminish. But, for some people, adult ADHD continues to cause significant adult problems.

Let’s discuss LOVE: L – Letting go O – Opening up V – ValuingnE – Engaging Let’s now explore each of these elements in more detail: LETTING GO “Letting go” is the escape route from inside-your-mind, one of the elements that DRAIN your relationship. Your mind is like a master storyteller ...

It is well known that the sense of smell is the strongest sense related to memory; especially long term memory. All it takes is a smell of something from your childhood - say, the scent of an old rug - and you are instantly transported back to where that smell was significant. Because of this, what we smell can subconsciously put us in a good mood, or a bad mood. If the scent of vanilla reminds you of more relaxed and easier times (and for most people, it does), why not provi

The Extreme Abuse Surveys (EAS) were created to develop a qualitative and quantitative base of data regarding the accounts of survivors of extreme abuse [1]. Four researchers from Germany and the United States, Carol Rutz, Thorsten Becker, Bettina Overcamp and Wanda Karriker worked together to develop three different surveys to develop this base of data[1]. The Trilogy The international online survey was divided into three parts. The Extreme Abuse Survey for adult survivors (EAS), was conducted betwee January 1 and March 30, 2007.

What constitutes sexual addiction? This article addresses some common misconceptions. It also more clearly defines sexual addiction. I hope that those reading this article will understand that like all addictions, sex addiction is a progressive disease. It requires more and more to get the same “high” and sex addicts find themselves seeking things that are taboo and more risky behaviors. This could result in engaging in illegal sex acts and possibly sexual abuse.

When we think of emotional stress, we automatically assume it’s something that is bad for us. Yes, some kinds of stress are associated with health issues such as high blood pressure, headaches, and even weight gain. But not all stress is negative stress.

Leading with “Passion Power” ™: A Four “P” Interactive Model for Expanding Personal Energy, Professional Creativity and Organizational Synergy – Part I Awhile back, preparing for a talk on “Becoming a Dynamic and Engaging Speaker,” I asked myself a fundamental question: what are the essential ...

Question: What is the typical profile of a homosexual narcissist? Why is he always on a lookout for new victims? Is he lying or is he telling the truth when he says that he "wants to get laid" by one and all? If he is not suicidal, is he not afraid of AIDS? Answer: Research failed to find any ...

Several different types of treatment may be helpful for self-harm, including the following:nn+ Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) CBT helps people learn new skills for managing their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. CBT is often a fairly structured treatment, with a clear agenda for each ...

Professional Athletes Using Hypnosis to Enhance Mental Toughness and Peak Performance As they get older and put more mileage on their bodies, proactive thinking professional athletes look for an edge. Much of the training and coaching that professional athletes receive works on the logical brain, the left brain. Game plans, strategies, knowing what to do in a specific situation…all fire up the left brain. Frequently, the right brain is ignored. Balance, music, emotions, visualization and self-hypnosis all involve the right brain.

I have had many people sit on the therapy couch, look deeply at their partner, and say, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” As the eyes of their other half fill with tears, I explain to both of them that this is not a bad thing. Now they can get down to the business of having a real ...

SAFETY DISTANCE When a stranger comes to us or the syndrome of the elevator THE ELEVATOR One day we go into an elevator with other people who we do not know. The limited space forces us to tolerate the physical contact and we are uncomfortable. A person turns to avoid a face to face, another does not want to expose the strange his lower body, a third apparently felt a sudden curiosity to the roof of the little drawer and that was in the middle in a “I stay, I’m leaving”. Nobody looks directly anyone ... All have the unpleasant sensation of feeling violated our security space.r

You probably think of stress as bad or negative, but there are times when stress actually helps you. Andrew plays soccer on his school’s team. He tends to get really nervous before a game, and his stomach often feels a little queasy. At the same time, his adrenaline increases and that helps him perform better. If you go beyond that perfect point, the balance tips; the stress gets too great. It begins to decrease your ability to do well and starts to hurt you. Samantha tends to put school assignments off until the last minute.

This kind of stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The ...

More than three decades ago I had the opportunity of meeting the iconic Ram Dass for the first time on Martha’s Vineyard at a satsung. Satsung is a Sanskrit word that means “gathering together for truth,” which usually involves teaching, music and meditation. This evening rocked my world in a subtle yet profound way. Ram Dass, formerly known as Dr. Richard Alpert, the eminent Harvard psychologist and psychedelic pioneer, traveled to India in 1967 where he met his guru,

In the book describing the fabulous tales of Baron Munchhausen, there is a story about how the legendary nobleman succeeded to pull himself out of a quicksand marsh – by his own hair. Such a miracle is not likely to recur. Narcissists cannot cure themselves any more than other mental patients ...

I was thinking of redecorating a room in my house and I was thinking of what colour scheme to use for the room which got me into thinking maybe I should research what different colours mean and what effects they have on the human psyche, so this is what I found:nnThe eleven basic colours have fundamental psychological effects, regardless of which particular shade, of it you are looking at. Each of these colours has potentially positive or negative psychological effects and de

Jungian therapy, dream interpretation and biology: Max McDowell n P {text-indent:30pt; text-align:justify} P.intro {text-indent:0pt; text-align:justify}nnnnnnnn Jungian therapy, dream interpretation and biology Maxson J. McDowell A version of this ...

There are quite a number of factors that influence the subconscious mind, these factors are more related to the kind of surrounding an individual finds themselves in. understanding how the mind works to perform its specific function is very important for anyone interested in finding information on the factors that influence the subconscious mind. First and foremost, the mind exists in two states, namely the conscious and the subconscious mind. The latter is viewed to be more

Notes of first therapy session with Mark, male, 36, diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder Mark sits where instructed, erect but listless. When I ask him how he feels about attending therapy, he shrugs and mumbles "OK, I guess". He rarely twitches or flexes his muscles or in any way ...

“Midlife is when you reach the top of the ladder and find that it is against the wrong wall.” ~ Joseph Campbell Seventy-six million “Baby Boomers” are facing the midlife experience. Midlife is certainly a time of change and transition, but it is only a normal stage of ...

DEFEATING PERFECTIONIST EXTREMES In a perfectionist state of mind, you put yourself on a seesaw. You are up when you do well. You are down when you don’t. So, let’s look at how to clear this perfectionist tarnish from your window on life. Perfectionist thinking is vulnerable to ...

The fact that the Borderline personality disorder is often found among women makes it a controversial mental health diagnosis. Some scholars say that it is a culture-bound pseudo-syndrome invented by men to serve a patriarchal and misogynistic society. Others point to the fact the lives of patients diagnosed with the disorder are chaotic and that the relationships they form are stormy, short-lived, and unstable. Moreover, not unlike compensatory narcissists, people with the B

In my experience, I have found there are five big issues that cause problems in relationships. These are the major issues that could interfere with the longevity of any relationship. Here are my pick for the five issues that cause the majority of problems in relationships- not in any specific ...

Three Step Basic Posture is a synthesis of many years of practice of oriental disciplines (Aikido, Taichi, Zen) Makes centering process at your "Hara" easy, steady and strong and creates harmony within yourself. Practicing only one of these steps is incomplete. All three enables practitioner to ...