Life is constantly changing. A reality which can be difficult for people with ADHD who often struggle with making changes, especially when they are unexpected. In order to make change more successful it is not enough to know what we want to change or even what is motivating us to change. We need to be able to have enough “space” to change.
Making change successfully requires that we have created enough “space” in our lives for that change to occur and be maintained. In order to make a change, not be overwhelmed in the process and be sure that the change is lasting, the first thing we need is enough time. Change takes time. Research says it takes 24 days to create a new habit. For people with ADHD, it may take even twice that long.
Secondly, to make a change successfully, meaning the change will last; we need to make sure we have the physical space in our lives for the change. For people with ADHD, this literally may mean cleaning out, decluttering or tossing out items to create room for a different way of living. Creating space means also that we have room to add some useful items in our space, such as a new filing system, storage bins, etc.
And finally, we need to have cleared a space in our heads for new thinking and habits to take root and support this change. Often this means getting rid of old negative thinking or beliefs. Ask yourself what limiting views you have about this change occurring and mentally toss them out. When we don’t admit or rid our minds of long standing doubts, fears or false beliefs, they will prevent new more optimistic and positive perspectives from being possible.
Once you have created the space in your life for change to occur, you will be well on your way to new experiences that will surely bring you more success, enjoyment and satisfaction in your life. After all…isn’t that what you want?!
Laurie Dupar, Senior Certified ADHD Coach and trained Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, specializes in working with clients who have been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD and want to finally understand how their brain works, minimize their challenges and get things done! Through individual/group coaching, live speaking, and her writing, she helps clients and their loved ones use effective strategies to minimize their ADHD challenges so they can experience success. She is the co-author and editor of 365 ways to succeed with ADHD and author of Brain surfing and 31 other Awesome Qualities of ADHD. For more information, please visit http://www.coachingforadhd.com.