With just a simple phrase, you can either build someone up, or you can tear them down. And what other people say toyouhas the same effect. While words are only one of the many ways we communicate with each other, they are the most common and the most effective. But what most people often forget is thathowwe say something, the specific words we use, is just as important as what we actually say.
We express our mindset by how we phrase certain expressions. For example, for the sake of simple argument, there are two separate mindsets we can have a negative and closed-off mindset, or a positive and loving mindset. If someone were to ask you question, you can gauge instantaneously where your mindset is just by the type of answer you provide. “How are you?” The closed off person might say, “Meh, I am alright, I guess” while the positive person might say, “I’m alright, but I’m getting better!”
When we have a loving mindset, the words that come out of our mouth are more careful and directed. In this mindset, we are more open to understanding and to accepting the thoughts of others. And we have a mindset of positive progress. In the example above, the positive mindset response shows both a conscious and subconscious desire to be “better.”
When our mindset is closed-off, when we respond just with “I’m alright,” we are not planning on reaching for better, rather it allows the mind to stay exactly where it is. We may not be content with where we are, but we do not yet have the drive to find a better emotional or spiritual place.
People love to be around positive people. They make life easier, they pull you out of darkness and lift your burdens. Notice how you always gravitate towards those who are smiling? Laughing? Joking around? Making you feel good? Making you feel it’s 100% acceptable to be yourself?Youcan become one of those people if you learn to harness the power of language to become a more positive person.
Most people have been touched (for better or for worse) by someone’s words, whether it was a beautiful poem or a hateful insult. But the power of language is even deeper than that. You can change another’s mindset with your words, but you can also change yourownmindset.
But how do you do it? By becoming consciously positive. Like in the example above, when someone asks you how you are, be honest if you are feeling poorly, but always add a positive tag. If you’re tired, tell them you’re tired—people value honesty as much as positivity—but tag on that you’re happy they’re here, or that they energize you just with their presence. As you infuse your words with a positive message, you will also begin to become more positive.
I look to positive role models in my life and one example is that of Dr. Wayne Dyer.Dr. Dyer teaches us that we all came from a source of positive energy, and in order to be happy, we need to return to that positive energy. As we actively take part in creating our own positivity, we will find that happiness that much quicker, and we will find a greater capacity to love those around us, and that people will flock to be our presence. My intention is that reading this has shifted your day and encouraged you to reach higher, reach across the gradients of emotion and actively choose the next emotion that feels better, and you can start today by watching your language!
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Melyssa Moniz is a leader in the mentor community; with several certifications in the health and fitness industry, she is always actively promoting a healthy, wealthy, and abundant future, not just for herself, but for all her clients. She is the founder of MelyssaMoniz.ca and P.O.S.E Dance Company, Inc. and an expert in the health and fitness industries. The tips she provides encourage a positive outlook on life and successful business and lifestyle. She is a business life mentor, a passion expert, a motivational speaker, a business consultant (her past clients include the Cadillac-Fairview Corporation Ltd., Ryerson University, and Hermes Canada), communications expert, and a health and wellness advocate.