Do you find yourself resisting or procrastinating taking loving care of yourself?
Of course you want to be healthy and fit! Who doesn't? But are you always motivated and willing to do what you need to do to create health and fitness?
Are you motivated to:
Regularly do the workout or ... Views: 17
Discover when compromise is healthy and when it's self-abandoning.
Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity?
When you think about ... Views: 7
Richard and I just indulged in our favorite December traditionwe watched our favorite Christmas movie (Scrooge! the musical starring Albert Finney) which kick-starts our holiday spirit every year.
No matter what you observe: Ramadan, Kwaanza, Chanukah, Solstice or Christmas, ... Views: 21
As a counselor, I get a lot of clients who are worried about intimacy and sex. Romance books are a lovely escape from reality, and can help reduce your stress from daily frustrations. And, you can even learn a few tricks to enhance your relationship. The danger comes in if you ... Views: 16
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am writing this letter to you because I really want to know what is the right love to last a lifetime? I am frustrated right now. How couples especially married, last love into lifetime? I am in love with someone, but I don't know if that person feels the ... Views: 16
While one can have the desire to attract someone who is available, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. One could find it more or less impossible for attract someone who is available.
When someone is available, it is going to mean that they are not only physically and ... Views: 31
There is nothing louder than the silent treatment; nothing more uncomfortable, or abusive (other than physical abuse). The silent treatment is an attack on your psyche—a withdrawal of approval and affection—a form of punishment in an attempt to control you into doing what he/she wants you to do. ... Views: 16
Healing The Pain Body
1. How Our Pain, Fear and Defensiveness Surfaces
The “Law Of Attraction”
As pointed out by Michael Losier and Esther Hicks, both teachers of, “The Law Of Attraction,” we attract what we vibrate at the level of our emotional bodies, not necessarily what we think or ... Views: 48
If you tend to struggle with codependency characteristics, you may already understand that it can sure be sneaky at times. Just when you think you’re doing well, some circumstance or person will pop up in your life and test you to the max. When you think you’re over people pleasing, there you ... Views: 32
Dr. Romance writes:
If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple.
*If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the ... Views: 38
I have been called nice – a lot – frequently. I know people mean well, but nice can be…er, well…nice. It is so fluffy, so sweet, so damning with faint praise. There is no bite in nice – and that is precisely the point. Nice is toothless and gummy. It leaves no marks.
Nice lacks gravitas. ... Views: 17
It is said that it is not possible for someone to be abandoned as an adult, and how this would only apply if they were a baby or a child. However, just because one is an adult it doesn’t mean that they will no longer feel abandoned.
The fear of being abandoned and the feeling itself could ... Views: 24
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a 51 year old divorced Mom who recently began seeing someone. I like him and want to pursue this relationship, but I don't want to keep making the same mistakes! Some people say "be yourself" other say "don't do too much too soon, keep ... Views: 46
Do you sometimes feel trapped with some who wants to be listened to but doesn't want to listen to you?
One of the common complaints I hear from my clients is that they listen well but they end up just listening and never being heard.
This is the ... Views: 30
Your spiritual guidance is always here for you, but you need to know how to access it. Connecting with Spirit is simple, but not always easy.
What if you knew that you are never alone - that you are always being guided by a personal source of ... Views: 22
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am currently reading your book, The 10 Smartest Decisions a Woman can Make Before 40 and absolutely loving it. I have been married for a year and four months and we are going through a really tough time right now. I have suggested counseling and my husband ... Views: 53
Dear Dr. Romance:
My husband/best friend crossed-over a few years ago and I still miss him terribly. I think of him every day and his essence is is always with me. I am still in love with him and cannot imagine having a relationship with another man. At this time, however, I have ... Views: 52
Despite the occasional temporary setback, my life is good, and I’m grateful. It wasn’t always that way, however. At 18, just after I left for college, I was essentially orphaned, and have had to go from no education or support to finding a purpose, supporting myself through a ... Views: 52
Five Realizations of Good Relationships
“Life is not happening to you. It is responding to you.” ~Author Unknown.
In order to create good relationships, correct bad ones or continue good ones, there are a five things, that when realized, can help set up more ... Views: 48
One could be with someone and believe that they are the one, and in the next moment it could all be over. They could also be with someone who doesn’t have the same effect and then before long, this person is no longer part of their life.
How close one feels to another person won’t ... Views: 51
TIT 4 TAT: The Basic Backdrop of Life.
By Bill Cottringer
“Reputation is not of enough value to sacrifice character for it.” Miss Clark.
All of life, upon due reflection, seems to be a variation of one very basic rule commonly known as—Tit for Tat (literally blow for blow). This a ... Views: 68
Whether you asked someone or accepted the date, nerves can be a major hinderance when it comes to being relaxed and enjoying yourself. There are a few things your can do to calm down, to put your best foot forward and to actually enjoy the date.
Do something you enjoy prior to your date
Go ... Views: 37
It is often said that while relationships have the power to lift one up, they also have the power to bring them down. So one can experience just about every emotion on one side of the spectrum at one moment and then experience just about every emotion on the other side of the spectrum at ... Views: 54
“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple” — Dr. Seuss
Finding the person that you want to spend the rest of your life deserves to be celebrated and honored. When you make the decision to get married it shows how your commitment to one another has evolved, aspiring ... Views: 79
For quite a while now, we’ve heard many public figures, like Rush Limbaugh and comedian Bill Maher express scorn about people who are politically correct. Maher even gave his show the very funny title “Politically Incorrect.” Terms like “the PC police” were used to ... Views: 55
Dear Dr. Romance: I'm having problems with my daughter in law . I I love her. She and my son had a relationship for more than fifteen years and were married for six. They have two preschool age children. I always thought My daughter-in-law and I got along, but now we can only ... Views: 43
It's not easy to know what to do when you have a friend who seems depressed. Dr. Romance has some guidelines to help you support and care for your dear one.
1. Don't try to cheer your friend up. It just sounds like you don't understand.
2. Listen, listen, listen: Your friend ... Views: 47
While some people say money makes the world go round, other people say that it is love that makes the world go round. Each outlook deserves to be heard and the outlook that one has is likely to depend on what they’re like as a person.
If one was an idealist they might say it is love and yet ... Views: 53
It is often said that we are what we eat and while this is an area that is given a lot of exposure, it is not the only thing that one needs to pay attention to. This is not to say that what one eats is not important or that it should be ignored, what it means is that one needs to pay attention ... Views: 86
Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory consists of five interdependent levels that one strives to meet in a life cycle. Some cultures may place more or less emphasis on the importance of each level, but each has great applicability to achieving a meaningful life for all people. The hierarchy is ... Views: 55
There are many “red flags about women” articles floating around on the internet. This time though, I will address the amber flags – not good, but not absolute deal breakers either. These can go both ways, but are flags to keep in check, just in case.
I was slightly confused for a ... Views: 39
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a couple of years into my relationship with many problems. I met my guy online and he moved the relationship along rather quickly. His eagerness even made me a bit nervous. After a couple of months being with him, I began to fall for him and fell in ... Views: 73
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm still having a bit of trouble letting go and cutting off communication with a guy who mistreats me. I understand in my head that this is not right, but I can't seem to get it emotionally. Yesterday was his birthday and particularly difficult to ... Views: 43
Although most people in the country wouldn’t agree, we in Southern California have been having extreme weather conditions for us: rain and mudslides. You could almost say we’re so used to mild conditions that we become afraid of what others would call “real” ... Views: 49
I thought if I played by the rules and did everything the way THEY said I should like a good little Catholic girl, I’d feel safe. I’d grow up, get married and have lots of kids like my Mom and live happily ever after.
Why would I even think that since Mom wasn’t living happily ever ... Views: 85
The idea of detachment mesmerized me when I heard about it in Al-Anon. To let go of the ones you love seemed unloving and uncaring and certainly not Christian. But it also seemed to be the NIRVANA you could reach even while living with an alcoholic.
I detached from my alcoholic father by ... Views: 50
Could it be that all of our problems stem from not listening to God? If prayer is talking to God and intuition is God talking to us, maybe we need to listen more. When I was in the midst of my crazy life with alcoholics from my father to my husbands, I felt abandoned by God because I prayed and ... Views: 43
There is a big difference between wanting to experience a sense of control over one’s life, and wanting to control other people. When one experiences a sense of control over their life, it means that they’re not going to feel as though they have no control and as though they are a victim.
... Views: 95
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Do you often see people as you want them to be rather than as they are? Has this caused you problems in your relationships?
“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” ... Views: 36
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
The disturbing lack of a personal spiritual connection that many experience has huge ramifications for our planet.
How are we doing as inhabitants of this beautiful planet? Sometimes ... Views: 40
Talking sweet is about finding your "sugar" even if you're not happy and want to discuss a problem with your man. This is about speaking your power and speaking from your feminine.
Using words describing your feelings in order to say what does not feel good to your man is how you talk ... Views: 91
Dear Dr. Romance:
My best girlfriend ever and I dated for about eight months, then had a long distance relationship when she went back to her home country. She just broke up with me over email and she is dating someone from her home city for the last month. I thought we were ... Views: 68
When life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ages of 12 and 18. ... Views: 58
When you go for shopping, you come across many products of your choice and you choose something that you like obviously in terms of beauty, quality, and price. When you have no choice available, you go to the item you are in need of. When there are some choices, you do a little comparison of ... Views: 74
While one can have the need to experience relationships that are fulfilling and life affirming, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can end up in relationships that are not only unfulfilling, they could also be extremely abusive.
And if this was an area of life that ... Views: 64
There's a lot of misinformation about divorce, and Dr. Romance would like to clear up some of the confusion.
Here are 11 things people will not tell you about divorce.
1. Divorce will not make you happier, unless you’re leaving an abusive relationship.2. Divorce sometimes seems ... Views: 98
It is important for human beings to work together, and this is because they’re interdependent; they need each other. So when they’re able to put their differences to one side and to find a common ground, their own lives are going to be a lot easier.
This doesn’t mean that everyone needs to ... Views: 75
We all have different kinds of mind-sets, personalities, attitudes, beliefs, values, predispositions, perceptual tendencies, and habits overall. We live by our behavioural, cognitive and emotional trails in one way or the other. These traits are our identity, pride, recognition, esteem, and ... Views: 80
Dear Dr. Romance:
I hope you don't mind me writing you but I came across an article that you said: "The best interest of the child also could preclude a mom from gaining custody," says Dr. Tessina. "If a judge doesn't deem that the mother meets the ... Views: 95
Want to be powerful in your relationships? Learn emotional self-control. Learning to take charge of your emotions means you can’t be “set off” by someone else. You control your reactions, they don’t control you. When you’re too reactive to your partner, he or she ... Views: 112