While there are some people who can handle life regardless of whether they are with someone, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, they are going to have a radically different experience when they are not with someone.
When one is able to handle ... Views: 1
While there can be people who one enjoys spending time with, there can be others who they don’t. What this will come down to is that they won’t feel the same around everyone, and this will be the result of how these people behave around them.
When it comes to the people who they ... Views: 19
When considering your rules about dealing with conflicts it's time to KISS and make-up . . . or rather the principle of Keep It Simple Stupid.
At some point in any relationship you'll begin to experience conflict. It happens sometime after you discover that he or she isn't perfect and ... Views: 19
While some people are going to be used to having relationships that are fulfilling, there are going to be others who are not. In this case, someone could find that they have the tendency to end up with people who are not right for them.
This is not to say that they will treat ... Views: 34
I used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself ... Views: 40
When a relationship comes to an end, each person can go their own way, or something else might take place. As a result of this, it could only be matter of days or even weeks before they are back together.
Round in Circles
In fact, this could be something that will take place more than ... Views: 61
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 28, 2016
Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Discover how to love yourself in group situations.
"She's very shy," my parents used to say to people when I was quiet. From their tone, I thought it wasn't a good thing to be shy. I ... Views: 50
One of the biggest issues that couples face is that after the first few blissful months or years together we begin to see our partner’s flaws, the things we don’t like and the things that upset us and annoy us. When we initially fall in love it is with the feeling it gives us. We feel on top of ... Views: 90
They are the three "Ds" in your life - desperation, dependency and doubt. They sneak in without you realizing they are there, create havoc and ruin relationships. But, when you are aware of the potential problem, you can stop the problems before they start, whether you are manifesting the ... Views: 63
What is the means and reason of marriage?
Marriage is that the intimate union and same partnership of a person and a lady. It involves North American country from the hand of God, World Health Organization created male and lady in his icon, so as that they may come back to be one frame and ... Views: 73
Navigating normal relationship concerns is a big enough challenge, let alone navigating separation and attempts at reconciliation. We have to consider that what has persisted and what we know may be wrong, complicating the matter, altogether.
In my newly released white paper, Individual and ... Views: 163
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 22, 2016
Do you know how love yourself when you feel rejected? Start learning how now!
What do you generally do when you feel rejected? If you're like most people, you either try to control the rejecting person, or you take it out on yourself with various ... Views: 107
CHANGE YOUR WAYS TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
If there were any lyrics that best describes today’s message it would be from Michael Jackson’s 1987 hit song ‘Man in the Mirror’ “I’m starting with the man in the mirror. I’m asking him to change his ways and no message could have been any clearer ... Views: 112
While someone could be in a position where their friendships are generally fulfilling, they could also have people around them who make their life harder than it needs to be. This is then going to be similar to how one can eat food that is good for them or they can eat food that ... Views: 151
A lot of the time men have trouble getting out of a "dry spell," or getting out of a "rut." For some men, this can be because they moved to a new city and are struggling to create a new peer group. For other men, it can be that they've simply lost touch with old friends.
Either way, getting ... Views: 152
We are encountering various immature or spiritually unconscious beings all the time. They can be little children, animals or even grown up people with mental or emotional issues. Although most of the time these interactions can be lovely and amusing, they can also turn out to be extremely ... Views: 147
"I still love my ex boyfriend" is a phrase that may be on your heart and mind if you've just gone though an emotional break up. Right now you're probably feeling depressed and in pain. That's ok, those are normal feelings for a woman to have as they remember all the special moments and memories ... Views: 164
When something goes wrong in your life, who do you blame?
“I’m in so much debt because the economy is bad and everything is so expensive. It’s not my fault”
“My mother always criticized me when I was a child. That’s why I suffer from low self esteem and make so many bad choices.”
Sadly, ... Views: 133
I suppose you might be wondering how long things can last without getting back together with your spouse, especially when you are hoping for reconciliation. There is no definite time frame when all hope of reconciling is cut-off, and I know this from personal experience. Some people can be apart ... Views: 174
By Margaret Paul, PhD
November 15, 2016
What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself.
Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ... Views: 93
If one was to think about why they are a relationship with someone, they could begin to list what they like about them. This is then going to be a time when they will go over what they bring to their life.
Having them in their life is not simply going to give them someone to spend time with; ... Views: 125
The current wisdom is that people are attracted to those who are confident in their demeanor. They know what they want and they go after it. They know with certainty who they are, what they're worth and that they are worthy. On the other hand, wisdom also holds that men are interested in the ... Views: 148
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
November 07, 2016
You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person.
One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ... Views: 137
How do I know if I am acting codependent or loving? This is an excellent question and often confusing for many for different reasons. Let’s look at the definitions of codependent and loving and see what we find.
Love: An intense feeling of deep affection. For the purpose of this article, we ... Views: 228
Falling in love with someone is way easier than committing your life to her. It is the next stage of your life where you are ready to invest in spending your everything as 50/50 with her. Are you someone who’s ready to do the same? It is an exciting feeling when you know the what step you are ... Views: 144
Some women have this "thing" that attracts all the men in a 20-square foot vicinity. Most women can't identify what that is, but most men will be able to identify it and will hone in like bees to a hive. Women might think she's beautiful, has a great body, dresses well or knows how to flirt. But ... Views: 175
When something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance.
Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it ... Views: 164
When someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with.
If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put ... Views: 156
Busy parents sometimes don’t communicate well with each other because they’re - well, busy. They’re preoccupied with their work, children and all of the responsibilities that go along with them. Sometimes as a result of this juggling act, mom and dad lose a wee bit of the warm and loving ... Views: 119
Diwali is almost here, everyone’s out shopping for gifts, maybe even wondering about the perfect gift for their loved ones.
People often end up spending a lot of time shopping for Diwali gifts. Sometimes they may have something specific that they would like to buy for their loved ones, and at ... Views: 120
Are you sick and tired of your spouse’s behaviour?
Do you have no more to give?
Are you at the end of your tether?
Do you think an ultimatum is your only way out?
We hear people giving ultimatums every day. “If you don’t stop doing X then Y will be the consequence.” However, more often than ... Views: 177
By Margaret Paul, PhD
October 31, 2016
Do you have major challenges in emotionally connecting with your family of origin? You are not alone!
Are you happy with your family of origin? Can you emotionally connect with your family? If you can, you are fortunate indeed. Many people feel ... Views: 97
While someone can be in a position where they always find people to criticise, this might only take place from time to time. When it comes to what they can relate to, it could all depend on what mood they are in.
As a result of this, the people around them might prefer to keep their distance ... Views: 132
While someone might have the desire to speak their mind, it doesn’t mean that they will end up doing so. If one was to take a step back and to reflect on why this is, they could find that it’s because they don’t want to lose other peoples approval.
Their priority is then going ... Views: 111
If one was to go online and to look for information on the women’s movement, they are likely to come across all kinds of views and opinions. In fact, this could also take place if one was to simply find people who were part of this movement in their local area.
For example, if ... Views: 146
The effects of having a child are immeasurable. Whilst most parents say the greatest moment and thing in their life was the birth of their son or daughter. The effect that having a child can have on your marriage is immense. Marital dissatisfaction can ensue after having a child and it can ... Views: 160
It is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case.
In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food ... Views: 248
When someone’s life is not going as they would like it to go, there are a number of things that they can do. This could be a time where one will end up feeling like a victim, and they could then suffer in silence.
One will then continue to live their life in the same way, and this can mean ... Views: 134
I personally know some success coaches that would tell you that it’s easier to attract money than it is to attract your dream partner.
Well, I disagree with that, because if I were to believe it, it would be like believing that the law of attraction is partial when it’s not.
The law of ... Views: 225
Of all of the relationship problems that I help individuals/couples through, this is the most challenging of them. Now, let me get it out of the way that physical abuse is more challenging, but I only offer coaching to the abused, while recommending police/legal intervention. In regards to ... Views: 292
When it comes to intimacy, it could be said that there are at least three types of people. There can the ones who want to experience it, the ones who do experience it and the ones who do everything they can do avoid it.
And whether one has fulfilling relationships can all depend on which one ... Views: 205
Has having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience.
Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient.
I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ... Views: 152
When one is happy, they can feel the need to share how they feel with others, and this can take place in a number of ways. Perhaps one will be more complimentary than they usually are.
It can then be normal for them to say how good someone looks, or they might talk about how they appreciate ... Views: 226
Your level of attractiveness determines how much appeal, desire and interest people have in you. There are many obvious ways of making yourself more appealing and attractive, ways like going to the gym, early morning exercise, push-ups, squats e.t.c but there are also other ways you're ... Views: 235
While one can be friends with people who put in as much effort as they do, there is also the chance that this isn’t the case. It could then be said that some of their relationships will be out of balance.
And not only might this apply to their friends, it could also be something that they ... Views: 246
Break ups are hard. No one wants to go through them, and yet millions of people are dealing with them on a regular basis. If you want to avoid the issues that are related with breaking up with someone, you are not going to be able to do it. There’s no way to avoid it. If it’s going to happen, it ... Views: 220
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
October 10, 2016
Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits?
Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship.
Mary asked me:
"I married my first ... Views: 222
Just a few simple ingredients, put together in a specific combination . . .
Maybe it sounds too good to be true. But as my experiments in Love continue, I discover more evidence that supports this idea.
Love is something that you experience when you create the proper conditions for it to ... Views: 232
When our self-esteem is low, which is typical of codependency, we’re at greater risk for depression. Codependency is learned, and so are self-esteem and the beliefs and habits that cause both low self-esteem and codependency. Self-esteem is what we think about ourselves. It includes positive and ... Views: 335
If one is in a relationship and it was to come to an end, they might be only too happy that they are able to move on with their life. For a number of weeks or even months, they may have been thinking about how much better their life would be if they were both to go their separate ... Views: 252