While someone can assist others in a direct manner, they can also do this indirectly. As a result of this, it is not necessary for one to work in the helping profession, for instance, in order to make a difference.
However, even if one was in a position where they didn’t help others ... Views: 9
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
September 27, 2016
What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now!
What does loving self-care really mean?
Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means.
The wounded ... Views: 11
It is indeed a challenge to maintain any relationship with the constant understanding and absence of misconceptions. Relationships involve plural minds. This means there is a definite possibility of different perspectives clashing against each other.
Well, this is faced by each one of us. It ... Views: 15
It could be said that there will be moments when one is happy and moments when they are not. And if they were to reflect on their life, they may see that they spend more time in one state than they do in the other.
This can be how their life has always been, or it could just be down to ... Views: 20
How Texting Brought Us Back Together.
After two years together, my boyfriend all of a sudden decided that we were too young for a meaningful relationship. He concluded that it was necessary to go our own way and that we needed time alone. Right then and there I decided I had to figure out a ... Views: 18
Not Everyone is Confident Enough to Share Their Feeling's
There are many obvious differences between men and women. And perhaps one the most striking is the way that men and women communicate and listen to each other. This of course, is also reflected when either one engages in phone sex. ... Views: 23
Most of us found dating difficult prior to getting married, and it isn’t generally any simpler after divorce. Everybody has baggage, but divorced people frequently have a tendency to carry much more of it, particularly when they’re just coming back towards the dating scene. This is one of the ... Views: 40
While someone can be there for others from time to time, this can also be something that consumes their whole life. It is then not going to matter what is taking place in their life, as they will be only too happy to put it to one side.
Due to this, it can be normal for one ... Views: 39
When someone thinks about abuse, there is a strong chance that they will think about what some men do to women or how some parents treat their children. But if this is not the case, they might think about men who are abused by women.
The reason they are more likely to think about this kind ... Views: 70
The Benefits of Working As a Chat Host!
Texting has quickly become one of the most popular forms of communication in this day and age. Everyone is looking to find that perfect connection, hoping they can share their feelings and desires. Imagine if you could receive compensation to both text ... Views: 59
When one meets someone from an online dating site, they can end up having a strong connection with them. As a result of this, the time that they spent talking to them online would have been time well spent.
One way of looking at this would be to say that they were putting ... Views: 94
Time can be a big source of conflict in relationships.
When you get married “your time” also becomes “their time” and if you have children then you need to also schedule in “family time” and time for family chores.
Many couples I speak to are feeling so busy and stressed by feeling pulled ... Views: 70
While some people can keep things to themselves, there are others who are far more vocal when it comes to their life. It might then not matter what is taking place, as they will feel the need to tell other people.
Fortunately for them, they live in a time when this is ... Views: 93
Are You Ready To Learn How To Use Phone Sex The Right Way?
Phone sex is an art form that everyone should include in their amorous repertoire. It will help to keep things interesting in or outside the bedroom with your partner. It teaches you to express yourself more freely and open as a ... Views: 100
Is Your Flirting Technique Up To Par?
How we flirt says a lot about who we are and what our chances of finding love or starting a relationship.
Take a look at the top five flirting styles and see which one best portrays you.
1. The Traditional Flirt.
In traditional ... Views: 113
* If you’ve had an affair, are regretful and desperate to save your marriage, don't let another mistake-ridden day go by without reading these tips.
* If you are the betrayed spouse and your cheating partner is unintentionally hurting you in his/her attempts to make you feel better, put this ... Views: 119
After the honeymoon period in a relationship is over, and our partner raises complaints about us, or does things we don't agree with or is somehow absent, we often start to make or draw slightly negative conclusions about them or the relationship. Typically it starts off as a thought one day, ... Views: 112
What are your spouse's most annoying habits? Is it the way they talk, eat, sit, clean up or snore when they sleep? Do they perhaps hum an annoying tune or crack their knuckles? And when was the last time they did something that irritated you? Last week? Yesterday? An hour ago?
One of the most ... Views: 87
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, it’s perfectly healthy to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged by someone you love, but when it becomes consistent or explosive anger or spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your marriage, your health, and your state of ... Views: 86
There is no doubt that work stress has become an increasing factor in marital dissatisfaction. Today couples work on average a thousand more hours each year than people did thirty years ago. This number tends to increase further in expat cities, as well as if you are an entrepreneur. All the ... Views: 72
When it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked:
Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage?
Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband's / wife's affair and show them what they have with ... Views: 92
In the past, someone would have needed to go out in order to meet someone, but in today’s world, that is no longer necessary. Nowadays, the only thing that they need to do is to go online.
Social media can allow them to find what they are looking for, or they can go one step further and join ... Views: 86
Dear Dr. Romance Recently, I have gone back to online dating but have some very strong concerns. I just severed a 5-year relationship with a man who seems to have an internet addiction. He worked from home and was constantly on the porn and personals (by looking ... Views: 98
Dear Dr Romance:Thank you for your article "Age Differences in Dating". I am a fortysomething woman whose fiance' died in my arms of heart failure three years ago. He was in his late sixties. Then I dated an ex-pro athlete who had a stroke and lost ... Views: 66
Dear Dr. Romance: I live in Scotland and I think we are quite backward when it comes to mental health issues. I have spoken to 2 therapists now about my obsessive thinking, both of whom seem strangely perplexed by what I perceive to be quite a common problem. I seem to ... Views: 77
Ian and Kim were a couple who came for marriage counseling, as they were constantly fighting over Kim's love of fashion and the financial cost of her shopping sprees, her husband Ian couldn't keep up with it and thought that there were far more important things to be spending money on. Kim felt ... Views: 69
"Nicola, my husband is chronically complaining and forever in a bad mood. He manages to find something wrong with everything and is constantly feeling hard done by and down. I don’t know how to help him or live with him at times! I don’t want him to ruin the holidays for me and the children ... Views: 72
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
September 12, 2016
Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship. Discover how to create and nourish this deep connection.
Loving coupleThink back to times you felt 'in love.' Aside from chemistry, what was it that drew you to ... Views: 68
Over the years, I’ve discovered there are few among us who embrace transitions. I’m not one of them.
Just ask my husband.
For perhaps the first ten years of our lives together, when we vacationed overseas (before the aid of the Internet to illustrate the sort of place we were headed to), ... Views: 78
Dr. Romance writes: Do you sometimes feel locked in a struggle with yourself? I know I do. Why is it that we know what we want to do, but it’s such a struggle to actually get it done? Even Saint Paul writes, in a letter to the Romans, “I do not do the good I want, but the ... Views: 96
Dear Dr. Romance: I was very attracted to a lady and I did things for her with out asking for any thing in return. She was single and I fixed her jeep, I put down new linoleum in her kitchen for her, we did go out together for drinks, dinner, dancing, ... Views: 77
JUPITER in LIBRA: “And in the End, the Love You Take Is Equal to the Love You Make”*
“In love’s circle there's another kind of serenity; in love’s wine, another kind of hangover. What you learned in school is one thing, love is something entirely different.” RUMI
For more: Ruminations ... Views: 122
Nowadays, someone no longer needs to get in touch with their friends in order to find out what they have been doing. The only thing they need to do is to go online and to use a social media site.
During this time, they could get an in depth understanding of how their friends have been ... Views: 74
Once you’ve met people and discovered you have some things in common, the next step is to arrange to meet again. If that’s satisfying to both of you, you’ll need to continue to meet.
Ideally, you and the other person will take turns initiating contact. But if you initiate more at the ... Views: 115
Studies have found that having friends is one of the most important contributions to having a happy and healthy life. Forming friendships isn’t difficult, but it does take some effort.
Friendships Come in All Shapes and Sizes
Some friends we know from childhood are with us our entire ... Views: 106
Disagreements occur in all loving relationships. If you do not resolve these differences, the love between you and your partner will gradually erode. Trivial incidents will trigger these negative feelings again, and your feelings will be right at the edge. The different personality types deal ... Views: 121
Couples who are most successful have learned how to argue effectively. Believe it or not, arguing in a caring fashion is a skill. Arguing can easily get out of control. You need self-confidence to bring up a topic you’re concerned about, and you need self-confidence to argue in a way that ... Views: 129
Family relationships are some of the most important in your life. There are many families that you may be relating to:
• the family you grew up in
• your extended family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and all their husbands and wives
• your current family
• perhaps the ... Views: 96
One of the most difficult things for most people to do is to confront another person, requesting that they change their behavior. Arguments, yelling, and put-downs may ensue.
As you become assertive, you will become a master in using “I” statements in order to get your point across. You ... Views: 105
Active listening is a powerful communication tool designed to really increase a person's self esteem.
Part 1 - For Kids Part 2 - For Adults
This tool is used to mirror our children’s statements with feeling. What does this mean? It is a way for parents to suss out and validate ... Views: 60
Toxic relationships are like diamonds in the rough because until we shine them up, their brilliance cannot be appreciated. In shining them up we start to value their lessons and how they can help us to achieve healthy happy partnerships.
When we learn our lessons, of why we are in a toxic ... Views: 77
Love is like a double blade knife. At one edge it's inspiring, at the other it's expiring. While it makes one live, at some point it can also be fatal. At times it encourages but there are times when it discourages.
Undeniably, most heartbroken gals tend to become desperate especially at the ... Views: 108
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By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
August 22, 2016
Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions?
Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ... Views: 67
When one goes out at night with the intention of meeting someone, there is a strong chance that they will want to be at their best. There are then going to be a number of things that they can do.
The first thing they are likely to do is to make sure they look right, and this will involve the ... Views: 73
While someone can spend time with people that they appreciate, they can also spend time with people who irritate them. As a result of this, not everyone is going to feel the same when they are around their friends.
When it relates to the former, one could find that they have the same values ... Views: 102
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
August 29, 2016
Learning how to trust again is a process, not an event, and it take both inner and relationship work.
I received the following question about how to trust again:
"My husband and I remarried after we both got divorced and went through a number of ... Views: 147
When it comes to being successful, it is often said that one shouldn’t take no for an answer and that they should keep going. As if they were to give up after they experience negative response, they are not going to get very far.
It is then going to be in their best interest to be ... Views: 178
While there can be moments when one is in a position where they do know what is best, there are also going to be moments when this is not the case. It could be said that this is simply part of being human.
If, on the other hand, one was perfect, then there would be no reason for them to have ... Views: 155