Dear Dr. Romance:
This is something that's puzzling me for along time. I often do want the playgirl, but they like the more bad boy type.
I know for sure I want sex without strings attached, many men get this, but I simply attract women who want a boyfriend, and I ... Views: 23
Dear Dr. Romance:
My partner says I turn him on which means, it seems to me, that he would like to have sex every time he thinks about it. It's almost too much and I don't know how to handle it. My background with sex, including the children's dad, has been: ... Views: 33
Have you found it hard to stay open in the face of conflict? Does your wounded self quickly take over, and your conflict resolution skills disappear?
Allison asked me the following question:
"I practice Inner Bonding when I feel I need it. I basically feel connected and when something is ... Views: 32
While there are some people who are able to experience intimacy, there are others who are unable to do so. As a result of this, it could be said that that their relationships are going to be extremely different.
When it comes to the former, someone will be used to being with people who ... Views: 94
If you've decided that your spouse has obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) and you’re trying to get help for the both of you, you’ve taken a step in the right direction. Recognizing that there's a problem with your partner’s behavior and that it needs to be addressed is the first step in finding ... Views: 75
If you are having problems in your marriage, depression may be part of the reason. Recent studies have indicated that depression is associated with the quality of a relationship. Additionally, the quality of a relationship can affect a person’s level of depression.
Not surprisingly, someone ... Views: 78
When one is attracted to someone in the real world, it can be due to a number of different factors. On one hand, how they look could play a part, and on the other hand, it could be the result of how one feels in their presence.
There is also the chance that how one feels in the other ... Views: 71
Almost all relationships experience a certain level of difficulties. However, when one of the partners has a psychiatric disorder, such as an anxiety disorder, the relationship will have new challenges, and their previous problems can be worsened.
Each has shown that people suffering from ... Views: 98
When one is in a relationship, they are likely to have less time to spend with their friends. This is because when they are with someone, they are going to spend a lot of their time with them.
And as they are going to be an important part of their life, it could be said that this is to be ... Views: 77
Dr. Romance writes:
Would you like to stretch time – to make the time you have go farther, and use it more for what you really want to do? Stretching time is not difficult if you have the prerequisites: self-awareness, a sense of purpose, thoughtful action, and a playful ... Views: 155
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy!
One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ... Views: 70
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Hugs can be romantic or disconnecting, depending on your intent in hugging.
Has the romance gone out of your relationship? Has work and/or parenthood left you no time for romance, connection and intimacy?
A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is ... Views: 68
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Do you speak up for your inner child – your feeling self – when someone is judgmental toward you, or they are blaming you or discounting you?
What do you generally do when you are in an interaction with someone and you are feeling anxious, scared or lonely from ... Views: 70
By Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Like anything worth learning, developing the habit of loving takes practice. As you practice Inner Bonding, your brain develops the habit of loving.
"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~ Aristotle
All of us develop ... Views: 56
When a relationship gets to a point where it is no longer working, each person is likely to feel different to how they felt in the beginning. When they spend time in each others company, they could be thinking about how long it will be until their time together will come to an end.
However, ... Views: 80
Peace in the world starts with ourselves first. When we learn to find inner peace, we can then start to create global peace. Most of us are not able to leave our lives and go become activists or join a movement. However, by setting an example in our communities we can create a ripple effect that ... Views: 72
One of my all-time favorite teenage book, The Secret Life of Prince Charming by Deb Caletti, imparts many love advice I truly believe in. It is about a 16-year-old girl named Quinn who was surrounded by other people’s heartbreak that made her playing it safe when it comes to love. Prince ... Views: 135
If someone was asked why they use social media, they may say that it’s because it allows them to stay in touch with their friends. It could be said that this is not much of a surprise, and this is because this is how social media is often portrayed.
One of these sites has even promoted ... Views: 97
I could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything ... Views: 132
Dear Dr. Romance:
I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ... Views: 120
Dear Dr. Romance:
I like your article "Stupid Cupid" and find that all your down-to-earth questions should be applicable in a daily life of a relationship. I will forward it to my friends. I'm writing you about a guy that I met at my dance class. I ... Views: 138
Whether you've already married or might want to be, why not learn an easy way to keep your relationship happy and lifelong?
Regardless of life's ups and downs, if you've chosen your partner well, you can continue to enjoy romance, romance, intimacy, and teamwork. You'll deal with issues ... Views: 110
Last week I was hurt because of something my husband said to me. I was hurt, but at the same time, he felt frustrated and misunderstood. The evening ended abruptly. For me, it had been a lovely day spent with a good friend. That evening, I sat outside with my husband sharing the goodness that ... Views: 128
When it comes to romantic relationships, what is the most important thing you look for in a person?
Although many will have a different answer, the one thing that tops the list for most people (or at least makes their top 3!) is honesty.
I agree, honesty is very important. It’s one of the most ... Views: 142
Dear Dr. Romance:I read your article about "Age Differences in Dating" and thought you might be interested in a case history. I was married to a younger man for twenty years.He was 21 and I was 40 when we met.I had been in a very unhappy marriage for twenty years and had three ... Views: 152
I recently read an article in The New York Times by philosopher Alain de Botton that ignited my thoughts on marriage. Among many things, de Botton expresses in the article a belief that “Choosing whom to commit ourselves to is merely a case of identifying which particular variety of suffering we ... Views: 98
Let me preface this article by saying that there are no quick fixes when we are dealing with the highly complex reality of interpersonal (romantic) relationships. The internet is littered with guides, ebooks, and membership plans that promise “tricks” to get him or her back. That should be ... Views: 126
Although some people have the tendency to take responsibility for what takes place within them, there are others who don’t. Due to this, it can be normal for someone to believe that what is taking place externally has nothing to do with what is going on internally.
It is then going to be ... Views: 127
Developing relationships can be equally as confusing as rewarding, yes? Especially at this time, when so many older souls who are attentive to spiritual awareness and energetic balance actively seek romantic partnership for the purpose of raising consciousness and working at a deeper ... Views: 107
Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Here we are. Deal with it. Love it up, even! The way to deal with and appreciate it, especially for more spiritually-based women, is to realize that while we’re all from the same planet, our spiritual growth processes occur differently. ... Views: 90
While one can have people in their life who are there to support them, they can also spend time with people who try to fix them. As a result of this, it could be said that one will feel good in their presence or they will end up feeling bad.
Another way of looking at it would be to say ... Views: 74
While one could be in a relationship that is going as they would like it to go, there is also the chance that this is not the case. As a result of this, they could be in a position where they believe it is time for them to move on.
This could be a sign that they don’t feel ... Views: 167
Sure, it’s challenging and at times feels embarrassing when someone does not return romantic feelings that you experience as vividly real. However, not only has nobody ever died from embarrassment, but we can also learn more about ourselves as we navigate the emotional challenge. ... Views: 111
Summer blockbusters are full of Masters of the Universe—Superheroes/heroines, Emperors and Kings—in righteous battle. And, when someone storms your castle – be that of your thoughts, your actions, your behavior—don’t you defend it with all your might? “You’re wrong!” “You messed up, not me!” “I ... Views: 75
How to Save a Relationship
Last week I wrote about how one could destroy their relationships. In the article, I listed and explained six actions that one may take to carry out that goal. Obviously, I was not advising their usage, but explaining the actions and the negative externalities, ... Views: 144
As the summer nears its end, our relaxing days of leisure start to become hectic and stressful. Coordinating pickups to and from school, being on time for afterschool sports, or occasionally being summoned to chaperone a field trip can be taxing on your body. Add those things and more to your ... Views: 98
Reconnecting with an ex lover after a breakup can be extremely tough, especially if the breakup was your fault. Depending on how the relationship ended, the actions you take to get your ex lover back will greatly vary.
The best way to approach your ex after the breakup, how to properly ... Views: 183
Gone are the days of heartfelt love letters written in bold ink with elaborate details and design. Don’t you just miss receiving one of these in your mailbox? Not your electronic mailbox. If you and your partner never had one, maybe it is the time you take the initiative to write the contents of ... Views: 73
When you are close to someone who has bipolar disorder, it can be a challenge to keep yourself healthy. Symptoms of bipolar disorder vary greatly depending on the person. However, phases between ups and downs are stressful for all involved, and can take a toll on any relationship. Bipolar ... Views: 67
You may be wondering how I know I can get my ex boyfriend back and why I think he still loves me but seriously, I can and I do. I can get my ex back because I have been through this before and I know he still loves me because he isn't seeing any body new. Have you said this to yourself ... Views: 126
When a relationship comes to an end it doesn’t mean that one will be willing to walk away. Instead, they may feel the need have the other person in their life again, and it might not be enough for them to see the other person from time to time.
This could then be a sign that ... Views: 102
How To Stop Missing Your Ex - What To Do When You Start Missing Your Ex
There is no easy way on getting over a break up. It takes time and tons of effort to totally forget and accept everything that has happened. Regardless of your gender, it has never been easy to let go of someone you ... Views: 137
So, your boyfriend hates you, or perhaps he said he doesn't love you anymore and you feel like you've just lost the most important thing in your life. Don't worry too much, most of the time this is not a statement of true feelings, and more of a reflection of a moment of anger or situational ... Views: 100
What should you do to win your ex back? You just need to speak to your ex without any hostility. It'd be difficult as breakup is something that affects a person very much emotionally and is very disturbing. But if you want to get your ex to call you back and maintain contact with you, you need ... Views: 81
What you do after the break up matters! Relationships on the verge of permanently falling apart can still be saved, but only few are successful. That's because unfavorable moves and mistakes are done on days following the big breakup. Heartbroken people are so weighed down by what happened that ... Views: 106
Do you truly practice the meaning of friendship? What is a friendship? The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the ... Views: 78
Do you truly practice the meaning of friendship? What is a friendship? The philosopher Aristotle said, “In poverty and other misfortunes of life, true friends are a sure refuge. They keep the young out of mischief; they comfort and aid the old in their weakness, and they incite those in the ... Views: 56
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm not sure if you're willing or able to help, but I've been looking online for a solution to my problem for a while now. As of yet, I've come up empty handed. My situation is that I'm 21 years old and haven't spoken to my maternal grandparents ... Views: 65
If one was to think about what their friends are like, they could start to think about how they accept them for who they are. It is then not going to be necessary for them to play a role, and it could be said that this is how it should be.
The alternative would be for one to be in a ... Views: 74
In any relationship, there is always a possibility to become boring regardless of how long you have been. If you don’t spend some time and effort overcoming the rough patches of your love life, the romance can easily leave your relationship indefinitely. Use below the following 10 suggestions to ... Views: 104