Dear Dr. Romance:
We are co-workers and I've know him for about two years. He's very nice, funny and in very good shape. We've built a pretty solid friendship. We hang out a couple times a month (when I'm home from school). But, lately he's been pushing for a ... Views: 7
Our wedding vows include the words: “for richer or poorer” – but as we all know, keeping this vow is easier said than done. For almost three decades, I’ve seen love diminish when couples fight over money! To avoid these damaging fights about money, follow these five (5) simple guidelines for ... Views: 1
Self worth is the ability to respect, honor, value and appreciate yourself. Unfortunately there is an epidemic of low self worth here on the planet. Why is that and what can be done to achieve what many believe to be impossible; Supreme Self Worth?
The main reason why most, yes most, ... Views: 13
In Chinese Astrology, the birth chart of a person allows us to determine the quality of spousal relationship through an intricate destiny analysis. One of the branches of Chinese Astrology known as Four Pillars of Destiny or BaZi can reveal the luck of marriage of a person.
In Ba Zi, the ... Views: 15
There is a reason you picked your partner, and there is a reason why you have friction in your relationship. The areas that are still unresolved are due to the inability to overcome the potentially meaningful challenges. If you are willing to take full responsibility for your life and make a ... Views: 24
Dear Dr. Romance:
I came across your web site when I was desperately looking for motivation. I'm a salesman selling first class products but I couldn't get motivated and it's been a problem for months. It's been getting worse.
I read "Motivation and How to ... Views: 28
Once upon a time, In high school, I memorized a poem that has been a constant source of help and direction in my life and relationships. It’s simple and much more sentimental than today’s cynical age can handle, but the very simplicity of it made it a great navigational tool for me ... Views: 30
Dr. Romance sees many clients who are having marital problems because of the following bad habits. If you find yourself doing any of these things, consider changing your behavior or getting counseling.
1) You place social media above real communication; This can be a big problem, ... Views: 35
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 31
What is the Fun Quotient in your relationship? Couples have the tendency to become complacent in their relationship including the fun aspect of their relating. This is traumatic to the relationship as it stifles its energy flow creating a numb, stuck and disconnect feel and dissatisfied ... Views: 37
Do you know when you get on your partner’s nerves? There is a general underlying theme to the complaints couples usually share and that is that their partner is being egocentric. Egocentrism gets in the way of witnessing our partner’s beauty, gifts and contributions. It keeps us trapped in our ... Views: 33
After the infatuation and dating stage, fun and romance doesn’t just happen in relationships. Great committed relationships don’t just happen. We have to put in conscious effort to create the relationship we want. Here are some tips for creating and enhancing your intimacy, romance, passion and ... Views: 38
My is that most people on this planet repeatedly fail in various areas of their lives, be it in relationships, their careers, their friendships and so on? Well it's "all" because of how their subconscious mind has been programmed. So what programs the subconscious mind and what, if anything can ... Views: 22
There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” Aristotle
OK we all know this right? And yet how many of us enter into the most intimate relationship with our partners “saying nothing.” For those who still can’t discuss sex, it is time to lift that veil. ... Views: 43
After all the hours of therapy and self-help, self-discoveries, self-realizations, and self-improvements I’ve made, I just identified yet another layer of unresolved issues that I need to deal with. Can you relate?
When will we finally be done evolving and growing into the person who we want ... Views: 33
Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully?
Louise asked me:
"Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ... Views: 20
As a parade went by, one of the horses pulling a float entry left a memento in the middle of the road, right in front of where we were watching from the sidewalk. From that point on, every band or group that came marching down the road marched bravely on, right through the pile of horse manure. ... Views: 32
The most valuable thing in a long-term stable relationship is having a partnership, and most new couples don’t realize that money is a major factor in marital happiness. Money is one of the biggest generators of problems, arguments, and resentment in long-term relationships. Couples argue ... Views: 35
While everyone has times when they are in an extreme mood, a person with bipolar can be very depressed and at other times be so happy that they seem like they are driven by a motor. Their mood can change very suddenly, and it often seems that there is no apparent cause. This is called bipolar ... Views: 33
Do you know that the fear of intimacy is a key factor responsible for self sabotaging patterns in relationships? Do you know that this fear literally hijacks the person by getting them to believe that it is somehow protecting them from being rejected, abandoned, exposed, shamed, humiliated and ... Views: 36
Fun is important in our relationship. Having fun releases different chemicals in the brain that engender good feelings which get then associated with our partner. This is a good thing. Having fun with our partner should be a priority in our relationship. We can get huge returns on this ... Views: 43
Dear Dr. Romance:
This question is a little hard for me because it is very personal. My husband and I were married for 24 years before he passed away. During our time together, I developed a severe case of alopecia which has left me with very little hair. This did not bother my ... Views: 40
Spring is a time for renewal and fresh beginnings. People come out of hibernation from the long winter months to enjoy the outdoors and fresh air. Many people plant seeds in their garden and spruce up the inside of their homes by throwing out old things and replacing them with fresh new items. ... Views: 23
Business Success & Intimate Relationships
Are you an entrepreneur or small business owner? If so, do you realize how much your intimate/primary relationship matters to your business success? Really think about this for a moment.
If there is upset in our primary relationship what often ... Views: 57
There is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes.
Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have ... Views: 38
Our connections through relationships are so important. Sometimes we get so busy that we intend on calling that special someone, or taking them to lunch, but before you know it’s the weekend and you have a full agenda.
It is easy to sit back and claim that this one didn’t return your call, or ... Views: 56
Dear Dr. Romance:
I fell in love and married a man from another city. We have been married for three years. I livedwith his family, which included his parents and his three younger sisters, plus children. In my eastern culture, we mostly live with our inlaws. My mother in law's ... Views: 61
1. Seek first to understand. If you know your partner's frame of reference, you can speak to him/her within it.
2. Pay attention to how your words are landing. If your companion's response looks off the mark for what you said, check out what he/she is hearing....
3. Focus on the solution ... Views: 63
In a recent article I noted that one of the roots of rescuing behavior arose out of one's early life experiences having "programmed" them to believe that feelings of sympathy were normal and/or loving human traits.
If you're reading these articles you may then feel a strange degree of ... Views: 37
Understandably so, much has been said and discussed about relationships by people all around the world –including relationships experts. One of the most deliberated points that are argued is: how to keep a relationship. Below is a compiled list of tested and proven tips on how to keep a ... Views: 28
Do you have problems committing to a relationship, or are you involved with someone who has a fear of commitment?
Louis wrote to me:
"I have been dating an amazing girl, but recently ended it because I am not sure if she is good for me. Our relationship has ... Views: 35
There is no better way to create wonderful memories and meaning in one’s relationship than with rituals. Rituals are a special way to show love, appreciation and importance for the partners throughout time in the life of the relationship.
Relationships are made up of interactions between two ... Views: 39
Overcoming social anxiety is hard.
Let me correct myself...
Overcoming social anxiety is next to impossible if you don’t have the right advice. If you’re suffering through anxiety knowing the most common mistakes can really make a difference when changing this part of your ... Views: 95
Do you spend much of your time making yourself attractive on the outside only to have it undermined by inner emotional neediness that drives people away? Do you know that it is now possible to completely make yourself over from the inside? How does one do that you ask?
Well, through a ... Views: 45
Do you know that the fear of rejection can generate a level of insecurity that can lead one to be needy, clingy, smothering, controlling, manipulative, jealous, immature, and possibly even lie about one's self in order hang onto their partner?
Do you know that all of the above are perceived ... Views: 58
Do you know that many people who are afraid of rejection, intimacy, and abandonment often tend to fall into self sabotaging behaviors such as manipulation, avoidance, overeating, jealousy, drug and alcohol use, having affairs and so on in order to try and "protect" themselves from being ... Views: 59
Do you know that many relationships are founded on co-dependent manipulative neediness that masquerades as love? Do you know that most people never realize the difference between the two? Do you know that means the majority of such relationships are therefore conflictual, abusive and bound for ... Views: 57
One characteristic satisfied and successful couples have in common is that they are part of each other’s lives. Duh-ah! I’m sure this does not come as a surprise. The trick though is how the partners are part of each other’s lives.
Partners have difficulties negotiating what this means to ... Views: 36
When a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ... Views: 49
About one in five families of veterans will never be the same once a soldier returns from combat. That is because the U.S. Department of Veterans’ Affairs finds that one in five combat veterans develop a mental illness known as Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD. PTSD can be developed after ... Views: 42
Civilians will never know the struggles and torments that soldiers endure while in combat. Because of the highly-stressful and volatile atmosphere of war, it is no wonder that combat veterans find it hard to shake their wartime experiences when returning back to civilian life. It’s as though the ... Views: 29
Although each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people.
This is what will be ... Views: 38
The average person pays more attention to what she’s saying or thinking about than what she is hearing, or how her words are “landing” on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using ... Views: 55
While there are a lot of tips on how to attract a girl, not all of them will work for you. To effectively attract a lady, it is important that you understand how they think and how they perceive men. Women are different from men and to make matters even harder, they can change their minds faster ... Views: 28
Dr. Romance: tips on spring cleaning your marriage:
Over an extended period of time, dust and detritus can accumulate in even the best marriage. Spring cleaning, to clear out the cobwebs and re-energize your connection, is a great idea. Just like a regular housework schedule, regular ... Views: 80
There are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life.
On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ... Views: 67
LOVE IS A SHARED ENERGY OF BLESSING
Love is an expansive connective energy that enables individuals to experience the sublime grandeur of the core of their own being by sharing that relational energy with others. Empathically tuning into what is experientially genuine, naturally good, or ... Views: 40
Do you find yourself saying or doing things that habitually undermine your chances of relationship success? In other words are you repeatedly sabotaging your relationship? Do you know why? Do you want to stop? Here's your chance.
In many cases when self sabotaging behaviors seem to erupt in ... Views: 59
Everyone is searching for a happier and stronger relationship; but with the jobs, kids, running the household and other mundane responsibilities – it can be really hard to maintain that spark that keeps the love alive! Here are 7 secrets for rekindling the spark & romance for a stronger ... Views: 38
One would think that connecting with our partner is an easy feat. After all they are the one person we are supposed to be the most intimate with. This is most often not the case and we are actually not that intimate. I find that couples have a very difficult time connecting, feeling connected ... Views: 54