Although you might think of “falling in love” as romantic; we all fall in love many times in life: with a new lover, a new friend, a particularly cooperative co-worker, an appealing movie or TV star, a caring neighbor, siblings, relatives and even pets. Any close relationship ... Views: 10
Do you have the common false belief that the better you feel about yourself, the more alone you will be?
"What is coming up for me is -- if I completely move out of self-judgment and fully take the responsibility to actualize the deepest yearnings of my Soul, I ... Views: 4
Self esteem by definition is the extent to which you like, respect, love or hold yourself in high regard. Many feel that they have this important life giving energy in short supply and as a result feel that they are held back from achieving their life's goals due to associated feelings of ... Views: 13
I hate sarcasm. It's rude, hurtful, and offensive. Yet I have met many people who insist that it is humorous. "Sarcasm can be funny, " my friend John told me. "I beg to differ", I replied. "There is nothing funny about saying something hurtful to another person." "Yes, but...", he continued, ... Views: 30
Men are always asking such basic questions:
• Where do I find women?
• How can I make a girl like me?
• How do I get a girlfriend?
• Why can’t I ever seem to find someone?
All of these questions have the same thing in common: men are not addressing what women want. They are merely ... Views: 20
Do you know that bad relationships persist because one (or both)of the partners has significant emotional blocks to being able to leave? Do you know that some of these consist of fears i.e. the fear of being alone, the fear of being unable to cope on one's own, the fear of feeling like a ... Views: 19
Dr. Romance discusses advice on dating after widowhood.
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Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love
For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from ... Views: 12
The trouble with arguments is that they don't work.
I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around ... Views: 20
No one likes to be criticized, fairly or not. It’s always difficult to deal with, and it can hurt. Because I’m a writer of books and columns, and because I’ve lectured, appeared on radio and TV, I am sometimes recognized in public. I’m glad I’m not more ... Views: 18
Take a journey with me to the other side of the fear of rejection.
I'm sure you are aware of what this does to you and to your relationships. It leads to an inability to be truly honest with your partner, to be unable to be spontaneously your self, to have to hide behind a mask that will ... Views: 33
Many people believe that all that you need to succeed in life is to work hard, do what people tell you, and be nice. Unfortunately that is not all you need. It helps, but many people seem to hear the word no often for jobs, promotions, and relationships. They are usually nice hard-working ... Views: 23
Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance.
"I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ... Views: 23
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
The truth is, for many couples, the empty nest is a time of great “re-discovery” of the love for each other. You and your spouse are finally alone after two decades of marriage because the children have all left home. Now what? This is a question ... Views: 39
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ... Views: 30
When it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved.
However, just because someone is in love, it ... Views: 34
The dog ate the cord to your laptop battery, which fortunately wasn’t plugged in at the time--who knows how many volts run through those things, your dog could have been twitching for hours--but meanwhile, you’re without your computer.
You have an important presentation at work in a couple of ... Views: 42
Did you know that your True Authentic Self, which is not your personality, is actually imbued with self confidence, self esteem, self worth, charisma, energy, enthusiasm, courage, strength, optimism, spontaneity and magnetic attractiveness? The only problem is that it is enslaved by a ... Views: 41
Everybody gets angry, even me. Professionally, I've been helping people understand and reduce their anger for twenty years. And in all honesty, I do practice what I preach. I experience far less anger and frustration than I did when I was younger, perhaps some of which is due to age. People ... Views: 22
There is one simple step to moving towards a successful life and it has everything to do with permanently erasing the unconscious program that has conditioned you into believing that you are a failure. By erasing this program one can literally start over and create a fulfilling and joyful life. ... Views: 29
Want to stay married, talk about money. Creating healthy finances when two people join their lives takes effort. Are you having money talks with your spouse or significant other? Many people will talk about anything before money and yet money is the #1 reason for divorce and the driving force in ... Views: 37
Dear Dr. Romance:
Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ... Views: 29
In recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed.
Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ... Views: 27
In my private counseling practice, clients often tell me, “I want to be happy!” We then set about making it a reality. As a psychotherapist, I know that Your habits, your relationships, your environment, and especially what you think about them determine more about how happy you are ... Views: 46
Do you know that the majority of individuals feel needy inside? Do you know that neediness makes them feel weak, inadequate, deficient, defective, vulnerable, manipulative, unattractive, depletes their self confidence, self esteem self worth, personal integrity, and sabotages their ability to ... Views: 33
Do you know that most people only have a vague recollection of who they truly are? Do you know that this Authentic Self has become progressively buried under many layers of early life conditioning that is collectively referred to as old emotional baggage?
Do you know that this baggage ... Views: 26
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 42
Heart Value In Relationship
Since we are all interconnected through our many types of relationships, this is an article that can be beneficial to anyone. As we come to realize that its necessary to value all our relationships as an integral means to our Spiritual Growth, then they offer us ... Views: 22
How to be more outgoing has a lot to do with your environment. You’ll find that if you’re shy and socially awkward you’ll quite often be in environments that are probably low-key and something you’re familiar with. It can get very uncomfortable when you throw yourself into places like clubs and ... Views: 35
“Nice guys finish last” I’m sure many shy men can relate with this statement.
I’ve seen over the years that shy men have an air of “I’ll always be nice no matter what.” They are easily forgiving of others regardless of what the situation is.
Overly NICE guys also tend to remember things ... Views: 34
One could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either.
However, just because something seems ... Views: 53
If you were truly honest with yourself behind all of those things you do to distract yourself i.e. sex, work, drugs, recreational pursuits, relationships, and so on there is lurking a deep sense of emptiness within that many would characterize as part of the human condition. In fact it is this ... Views: 48
Let's face it, nothing feels quite like having someone special in your life - a significant other to call your own.
But ask yourself this. Are you making the mistake of assuming you're in a committed relationship with a man you're dating?
The truth is, just because you're dating, enjoying ... Views: 34
It would be impossible for me to tell you how many times I have heard someone say: “I shouldn't have to ask for “it” (whatever “it” might be) from his or her partner. If my partner really loved me, he/she would know what I want.” And I often find myself replying: “Oh really, so your partner is a ... Views: 24
Dr. Romance writes:
Many of my clients want to know: What is a safe surrender to love? They have been in love before, and have gotten hurt. While we all are aware of the joy and beauty of love, and the profound pleasure of being in love, most of us are also afraid of mistakes, of making a wrong ... Views: 34
For many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief.
The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ... Views: 23
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 47
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 33
The impulse to get married almost seems programmed into us from a very early age. Many believe that being married reflects on how attractive, lovable, and successful they are as human beings. Do you know, however that most people who are thinking about marriage are not yet ready for such a ... Views: 42
There's no doubt: anger takes its toll on every facet of our lives. From on the job, to our personal relationships, to our health and overall enjoyment of life, destructive anger can wreak havoc in our daily lives.
On the job it cost businesses over $4.2 billion, yes -billion, a year. ... Views: 40
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
Words Matter! What you say to the one you love is important! Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your ... Views: 47
As we struggle with codependency, it’s hard to consider that our current partner really just might not be a good match for us. Sure, I believe that many problems can be worked out in a relationship, but only if both partners want to work on them honestly and openly. For the codependent, ... Views: 28
Dear Dr. Romance:
I just found your article "Without Ego" Omg you are just who I've been looking for. For the past two years I've been reading articles about dissolving the ego and all this hubbub. For those two years I was told that I have an ego that is ... Views: 49
Do you know most people find out too late they've been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind ... Views: 28
What is Co-dependence?
Well in a nutshell its when two individuals form a relationship based on the need to fulfill their mutual needs through the other person.
As you can see there was no mention of the word love in the above definition. That must tell you something about the health of ... Views: 38
Many therapists call the problem some individuals have saying no to others a "boundary issue" problem. In other words the individual has a problem protecting their own space and their energy resources.
Such individuals tend to quietly accept whatever is doled out them whether they like it or ... Views: 30
There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.
One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual's ... Views: 46
These are ten tings you can do to create a great relationship.
1. Do your own personal emotional work first.
It is necessary for each individual to become aware of and release the negative unconsciously stored self sabotaging relationship patterns they acquired during their childhoods. ... Views: 53
Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?” Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and work together ... Views: 51
If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple.
• If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result of the sex, ... Views: 47
Are you willing to do the inner work you need to do to possibly save your relationship?
Many people, like Aaron who asked the following question, seek my help because either their partner is no longer in love with them, or they are no longer in love with their partner.
Aaron ... Views: 52