While there are people who are drawn to those who are self-centred, there are others who are repelled by them. When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are going to spend time with people who are not right for them.
Yet, when it comes to the latter, there is a strong chance ... Views: 21
By Margaret Paul, PhD
February 20, 2017
Discover how loving it is to yourself to understand the amazing difference between blame and responsibility.
Growing up, most of us had numerous experiences of being blamed. I was frequently blamed for things that I was too young to understand, ... Views: 18
If one was to get in touch with one of their friends and to ask them how they are, they may find that they return the favour. When this takes place, it might not end up standing out, and this is because this is how they generally respond.
What this can show is that their relationship is ... Views: 22
Most times when a woman continuously asks the same questions over and over again, checks her partners belongings, looks through his cellphone, constantly checks up on him, and she can’t trust him around other women; these are clear signs of insecurities. Why is she insecure? Was she this way ... Views: 31
It is often said that if one wants to have a healthy relationship, they will need to have high self-esteem. Through being this way, it will then allow them to be with someone who will treat them in the right way.
And, if one doubted this, they would only need to pay attention to the people ... Views: 45
When a relationship comes to an end, it can mean that two people are happy to be able to move on with their life. It could then be said that this was something that had run its course, and that there was no reason for them to stay together.
Now, this is not to say that one of them won’t feel ... Views: 53
When one has a history of bad relationships, the last thing on their mind can be to have another one. However, regardless of what they have been through, the need to be with someone is not going to completely disappear.
What can happen is that one can end up disconnecting from this need and ... Views: 70
A romantic relationship with a Narcissist can be an exciting, whirlwind experience.
They are often charming and the life of the party. If they are interested in you, nothing will stop them from winning you over. They will flirt, entice, persuade and pursue until you give them a chance. ... Views: 62
Different men have different dating preferences. Some are looking for a woman between a certain age range; some are interested in only women of certain economic status; and some have their search limited to women within certain geographical boundaries. And then there are some who just want to ... Views: 48
Although some areas of one’s life can generally go to plan, there can be others that don’t, and this is something that can cause them to experience a lot of pain. For example, they could find that their career is going in the right direction, but that it hasn’t been possible for them to achieve ... Views: 71
If someone is attractive, it can be normal for other people to believe that they are intelligent, well-adjusted and successful, among other things. And, this is something that they can believe even if they don’t know anything about them.
This person’s appearance will then be what typically ... Views: 73
Charisma is usually seen as something that's innate. After all, most people would think that you just can't fake charisma. In reality, there are some very real tips that can help you to fake it until you make it. Below are five hacks that will give you instant charisma in any situation. ... Views: 90
Warning: This Gift Might Be The Best Relationship Gift You'll Ever Get
Whether you are married, dating or divorced resentment will affect you and your relationship current or future if you do not release it.
What is Resentment?
Resentment is a sense of unfairness - that you are not ... Views: 68
A lie can travel halfway round the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.
A single lie discovered is enough to create doubt in every truth expressed.
If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.
We all know how difficult it ... Views: 104
By Margaret Paul, PhD
February 13, 2017
Discover the great benefits to your relationship in learning to love yourself!
What creates sexual passion?
• First, there needs to be sexual chemistry between two people. Sexual chemistry can sustain passion for a while, but it isn't enough ... Views: 74
When it comes to the kind of women that men are attracted to, it could be said that there is not one type. There is what is spoken about in the media, for instance, and then there is what takes place in reality.
If one was to read an article about what kind of woman a man is attracted to, ... Views: 106
Anger hurts. It’s a reaction to not getting what we want or need. Anger escalates to rage when we feel assaulted or threatened. It could be physical, emotional, or abstract, such as an attack on our reputation. When we react disproportionately to our present circumstance, it’s because we’re ... Views: 103
While one could be in a fulfilling relationship with someone, there is also the chance that this is not the case. This could come down to the fact that they don’t want to be in one, and this might be a sign that they have just broken up with someone.
If this is the case, they might want to ... Views: 135
My cheeks are flushed, my body is radiating heat, and little moans escape my lips. His breath is heavy on my neck as we dive deeper and deeper into a state of passion. The little moans escaping my lips tell him that I am enjoying his touch and he sporadically shares little insights of enjoyment… ... Views: 100
When one meets someone they like, they might not look into what their past relationships were like. In this case, the only thing they could be concerned about is what the other person is like around them.
Point of Focus
This could also be a time when one will spend a lot of time thinking ... Views: 114
Scenario 1: We have just come out from an extraordinary concert that has my heart dancing from the beautiful music. As we walk down the sidewalk, he grasps my shoulders and pushes me to the right, and I get jokingly scolded as he explains that he needs to be between me and traffic. In this ... Views: 123
Hi Selfgrowth Friends,
Since I have been receiving a high volume of readers who are interested in more information on Narcissistic Abuse Recovery and Surviving Relationships with Narcissists, I have created a brief Youtube Video.
I have spent many hours reviewing experts on Narcissism and ... Views: 137
If one was to go out for a meal with a friend, it is likely to show that they both have the need to do so. This will not only allow them to fulfil their need to eat something, it will also allow them to fulfil a number of other needs.
Therefore, although they are both ... Views: 97
As a psychotherapist, I often meet individuals, couples and families who at first describe the relationships that matter the most in their lives as ‘very close’, ‘tight’, and supportive. But later, after understanding the issues that brought them to my office, I view them more as insular systems ... Views: 132
Even though one can have the need to experience intimacy, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to fulfil this need. As a result of this, this area of their life is not going to be the same as it will be for others.
This is not to say that they will be the only ones on the ... Views: 144
The build up to ‘The Big Day’ is generally dominated by the female of the species and her chosen band of merry women – bridesmaids, mother, mother-in-law to be, sisters, aunts – basically any woman with a relationship or blood connection to the bride.
Don’t be fooled. Weddings, their ... Views: 115
Well gentlemen, this subject may be lumped into the ‘too tough to answer basket’ along with –
‘How to jump out of a plane at 20,000 feet without a parachute and survive’
‘How to get a politician to give you a straight answer’
Nevertheless, let’s take up the challenge - How do you ... Views: 135
It's a tough place to be. When love and a deep connection are not shared, the feelings of emptiness, anger and frustration take over and your ability to function in other roles suffer.
⦁ Why did she fall out of love?
⦁ Who changed? You or her?
⦁ Was there a specific event that brought ... Views: 120
By Margaret Paul, PhD
February 07, 2017
How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead!
I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ... Views: 76
When it comes to dating, the world is radically different to how it used to be in the past. Now, one can still meet people in the real world, and there are a number of ways that this can take place.
If one was to go shopping or if they had to do something whilst they were ... Views: 116
It could be said that the ideal will be for one to stand their ground when they meet someone, and not to put up with anything that will have a negative effect on them. Through being this way, they won’t allow another person to bring them down.
Give And Take
Thus, when they do meet ... Views: 161
Nothing is as satisfying as a good meal when perfectly made. This is why we all like to have good meals every time we are celebrating. Dining is good both for the body and the brain. When you have good meals made for you by talent cooks, you very much feel a sense of satisfaction and you have ... Views: 90
So much of our time is spent fixing problems: problems at work, issues with our loved ones, concerns with our health, our weight, our finances. You name it, 90% of our waking hours (and so many of our sleeping ones as well) are spent in having yet another problem brought to our attention, with ... Views: 105
Anger and Our Dark Side ~ A force to be Reckoned With
In my first book, Lessons for an Urban Goddess, I describe the importance of being in touch with both the light and dark sides of our nature.
In order to live your life authentically and mindfully, it is imperative to regulate the ... Views: 189
We all experience pain in some form but not knowing how to move “Beyond the Pain,” may result in self-hate. Here are 5 ways you may be practicing self-hate without knowing it:
1. You believe everyone is against you. You cannot seem to accept anyone who tries to show you love or care but allow ... Views: 131
I hear people say all the time…
I love my husband/wife but I’m not “In Love” with him/her.
I’m just not sure if I love them anymore.
I love them but he/she said I don’t love you anymore, is my love enough?
These kinds of statements can be extremely confusing not to mention painful ... Views: 172
You have been together for months or years. You have made so many lovely memories together. There was a time you thought you were inseparable but then the breakup happened. It shattered your present and made the future look bleak. Somehow you got over it through sheer mental strength but now ... Views: 165
If one drives an old car, and this is a car that is not in good shape, it is unlikely that many people would spend much time looking it. But if this isn’t the case, it would simply come down to the fact that they would find it hard to believe how bad it is.
On the other hand, if one drives ... Views: 106
“Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people.
A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough.”
-Franklin D. Roosevelt
Are you a kind person? Do you like to be treated with kindness? Why should you be kind?
What if I told you that ... Views: 133
If one wanted to move something, they would pick it up and then put it down once they have found the right spot. While it was in their hands, they would have held on and, when they put it down somewhere, they would have let go.
It could be said that there are times in life when ... Views: 95
If one wants to develop the ability to do something well, this is generally not going to happen overnight. In order to get to this level, they will need to put in the right effort, and they will need to be persistent.
For example, if one was to plant a number of tomato plants in ... Views: 193
It’s heartbreaking. It’s devastating. It brings the whole world down and you see your dreams crumbling into pieces. Yes, we are talking about the breakup and its effect on people. If the relationship has been a long one and you had gotten too close, the breakup hurts more. Most people in such ... Views: 140
If one has the desire to be in a relationship, they could end up going out and/or they could join an online dating site. They could be clear about the kind of person they are looking for, or this could be something that they are not too clear about.
In this case, they could believe that ... Views: 165
Last week a lady I’m supporting in the in the US said: “Nicola, I want out of this marriage but I feel too guilty to leave.” Many men have shared the same with me. Staying in a relationship because of guilt alone can be a miserable way to live. If this is really all that is keeping a couple and ... Views: 182
Although human beings are often seen as being independent, it doesn’t mean that this is actually the case. Now, this is not to say that they don’t have their own life to lead; what it comes down to is that everyone is connected.
Therefore, although everyone has their own physical body, this ... Views: 155
1. They supported each other’s mission and growth
Supporting your partner’s vision and growth is essential to building a healthy and stronger relationship. Barack in his farewell speech stated,” For the past twenty-five years, you have not only been my wife and mother of my children, you have ... Views: 174
Today's world is filled with hookups, casual encounters, and fast and furious flings.
Summer romances and brief passion may be exciting to read about in romance novels, but living it may be a short-lived thrill that ultimately disappoints you, especially if you want something ... Views: 215
….and you don’t know what you’re doing down there.
Quite a title, no? It is quick, to the point and blames the husband/partner for everything. In many couples, the female partner no longer achieves orgasm with any significant frequency and much of the time loses the majority of her desire ... Views: 194
If one was to hear about an abusive relationship, there is a strong chance that this would involve someone who uses force to cause harm. This could mean that they use their body to do this and/or they might only use words.
Either way, this is going to mean that the other person is going to ... Views: 151
Break-ups are among the most painful experiences that many of us have to undergo. The pain of losing someone whom you shared your love with and looked forward to a future with – gone. This can be a devastating feeling to many and each of us has to cope somehow in order to be able to move ... Views: 173