Do you ever wish that something in your life had happened differently? Maybe you made a bad decision in a career or marriage? Were you bullied in school? at home? at work? Is there a memory that you continue to think about?
There are some simple exercises that can help you heal a memory. It is really not that difficult. Here is an exercise called Flooding The Negatives With Positives.
You will need a pen, paper, or word document.
1. Think of a memory that you have mixed feelings about. Nothing overly traumatic as this is your first time doing a memory healing exercise. Maybe you were swimming in the ocean but got a nose bleed, maybe you had fun on a date but at the end they said we are just friends. Make two columns on a paper or word. First write the positive things that you remember. Write the details on the left column and the feelings you have when you recall it. Then return to the left column. Write the negative aspects of the memory. Then write the negative feelings on the right side.
2. Give the negative feeling a rating from 1 to 10. One means that it is not a particularly strong feeling and ten means you are very anxious, depressed, or angry when you recall it.
3. Close your eyes and imagine the memory. First imagine the negative parts. Include the sights, sounds, bodily sensations and feelings. Do this part for no more than a minute by estimation. However, don't time yourself as this is a relaxing exercise.
4. Imagine the pleasant parts of the experience. Spend time playing the good sites, sounds, and feelings than you did re playing the negatives.
5. Repeat step 3 for a minute or less.
6. Open your eyes. Re rate on a scale of one to ten how the negative feeling feels.
We will now see how you fared on the exercise. It is probable that you are now feeling good about the memory and the negative feeling is gone.
If you scored a 1 on step 6 then you have succeeded in flooding the negative feelings with positive feelings. If you scored 2, 3, or 4 then you are probably a person who feels things very strongly. You still felt the negative feeling, but you felt the positive feelings more strongly. If you scored 5 or more on this activity, you could be someone who is habituated to feeling more unhappy than happy. Do you tend to dwell on negative events? When you think about the future, do you anticipate the worst?
This was an introduction to healing your memories. I will be posting more articles with more healing exercises to help you heal the past and move on to a phenomenal present and future.
My website is www.phenomenalmemory.com
Frank Healy, the Memory Healer is the author of "Heal Your Memories, Change Your Life" which has additional exercises to heal your past and move on to a phenomenal present and future. You can order it on Frank's website http://www.phenomenalmemory.com which includes a community of phenomenal members which you may join for chats, coaching, and classes.
Frank Healy is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Life Coach. He is one of about 50 people who have been classified as having Hyperthymesia by the University of California. Frank participated in their reserch studies because he remebers every day of his life since he was six years old. He is now 53. His memory of each day includes the day of the week, the weather in his locale, news events and personal experiences. Recalling so much in his life had it's advantages and disadvantages. The advantages include recall of every happy experience he had with friends, family, school, and his wife. The corollary of that is that he remembers all of the negative things. Bad days at work and school, slights from people, bad days at jobs, romantic breakups etc. Before he began his own journey he would recall bad memories with the same emotional intensity as if he was experiencing it now. He had learn to let go of the feelings. He now counsels and coaches people to heal from the ill affects of their own traumatic and unpleasant memories. This can help people be happier and move on to a successful present and future.
Frank live swith his wife in Dennisville, New Jersey. He is in private practice at Associates For Life Enhancement in Northfield, New Jersey. Frank enjoys going to the beach, reading, writing, playing quizzo with friends (It's a trivia game) and playing ball wth his grandsons.