How do you KNOW that your partner is cheating on you? There are actually two absolutely unmistakable signs of infidelity … signs which can indicate nothing else except cheating. And if you see one of these signs, my bet is that you will see the other, as long as you keep your eyes open, that is.
RED FACE – this is true whether your significant other is a man or a woman. A red or flushed face on a man indicates that he has taken Viagra in the past several hours. And why else would a man take Viagra – except for having sex with someone … someone other than you, that is. Now the side effects of Viagra dissipate over time, so you would have to notice the red or flushed face when you initially see your man … right when he walks through the doorway. You can confirm that the flushed face you are witnessing is a side effect of Viagra by noticing some other subtle side effects … such as a stuffy nose, and possibly being a little shaky in terms of his movements. In other words, if his hands seem to tremble just a little – that would confirm that Viagra has been take in the past several hours.
Women don’t take Viagra – so how does a red or flushed face on a woman indicate that she is cheating on you? The answer is – if her face is red, then within the past several hours she has had a man rubbing his rough or not-freshly-shaven face upon hers … and that (of course) happens when they are having sex. Most women have soft skin on their faces … and so if a man is aggressively kissing her during the course of a sexual encounter, he is probably also kissing her up and down her neck … on her mouth, and on the sides of her face. And unless he shaved his own face literally right before the encounter, then he will definitely have some stubble or whisker growth on his face. Those whiskers will mark up her face, and make it red … because her face is essentially being scratched, sort of like with sandpaper.
Now if you notice the red face sign on either your man or woman when he or she walks through the door – don’t call him or her out on it. If your partner is a man, first look for the other Viagra side effects I mentioned above. Next you want to look for this other unmistakable sign of cheating – which will confirm your suspicions.
HEADS TO SHOWER IMMEDIATELLY AFTER ARRIVING HOME – again, this is true whether your partner is a man or a woman. If he or she goes straight for the shower as soon as they walk in the door – what do you think that might mean? It means they are trying to wash something off of themselves before you notice it! Jumping into the shower will definitely take care of that problem, too.
So what are they trying to wash off? That’s an easy question to answer – two things. One is the smell of the person they are cheating on you with … that person’s cologne or perfume. Since they’ve just gotten naked with that person in the past several hours, the scent of that person’s cologne or perfume will be present on them. You can confirm this by giving your partner a long hug as soon as they walk through the door, and taking a big whiff. Don’t give away what you are doing though – don’t make it obvious that you are sniffing them.
Other than the smell of their lover’s cologne or perfume, the second item they are trying to wash off is their lover’s “juice”. I’m trying not to be too graphic here, and it is difficult. What I mean by their “juice” is semen (from a man, obviously) or vaginal fluid (from a woman). This is the proverbial “smell of sex” that I’m talking about – you can smell that on a person, if you get close enough, right? You also might be able to see it, but only if your cheating partner is fairly sloppy about covering up what they are doing. If you look at their pants around their zipper (in the case of a man), you might be able to see some dried white material. Or if we are talking about a woman, you might see something along her upper thighs. Again, you won’t see that if your partner is being careful – only if they are being extremely careless.
So how can you confirm that your partner who just walked through the doorway, and headed straight to the shower has one of those scents upon them? This is easy part – while they are in the shower, go examine their clothes. Look first at their underwear – turn it inside out, and then look at it and smell it. If he or she is cheating on you, then you should be able to see and smell the discharge I previously described … it will be absolutely obvious. You can also smell their shirt or the top of whatever clothes they were wearing, and be able to pick up the scent of some cologne or perfume that you do not recognize. The underwear evidence though is the conviction – no one can explain that away.
At this point – you will have seen one or both of these unmistakable signs of cheating. What now? That is not an easy question to answer. Do you confront him or her? Do you move out? How do you, yourself, recover from this devastating revelation? A lot depends on whether you are married to that person versus just dating, whether you have children together, how long you’ve been together, etc.
I can offer you three suggestions about how best to proceed:
You can read a quick overview of each book by going to this page on the author’s website: Three New e-Books on Infidelity from the Founder of midlifebachelor.com
Know that you will definitely get through this mess, and you will ultimately find the happiness that you deserve. Yes!!!
Gregory Smith is the Founder of www.been-cheated-on.com, and www.midlifebachelor.com. His new e-book, How to Recover from Having Been Cheated On, is the product of over seven years of research and practical guidance given to individuals who have been victims of infidelity, or cheating in relationships. See www.been-cheated-on.com for more details - and to move forward with your life today.