*Dating Decisions - How do I know if He's The One?

When we are looking for our soulmate, we often have high expectations for each online date we go on. He is looking for love, you are looking for love - it has to be a match, right? Well, the problem with online dating is there are two types of men - the ones that are sincerely looking for a relationship and the ones that are looking for someone to hang out with for sex. Research shows that only 50% of people who date online are really looking for a relationship.

When I was dating, I found the guys that were looking for the relationship are the ones I wasn't interested in. I had a habit of being attracted to unavailable men. The "nice guys" were everywhere and I was looking someplace else. I consciously wanted a relationship but had an invisible pull toward the bad boys.

I tried to change the habit by giving the nice guys a chance. I would find someone who, like me, was looking for a relationship. We would start to date and I would scrutinize everything to see if he was really the one. I didn't want to invest too much time (I was nearing 40 at that point and time was of the essence to find my man). I would vacillate back and forth and then have a really bad date with him. It would start a downward spiral of finding more things annoying about him, every phone call felt like harassment and I just wanted him to leave me alone. I ultimately broke it off and went into a deep depression, doubting whether I would ever find the right one for me.

The problem I had was that I had this image of my mind of what the relationship would be like. I kept trying to put each person into my picture...but they never seemed to fit. When I did find my true love, he didn't fit ANYthing like I designed in my mind but he was SO MUCH MORE than I could ask for in a partner. Each day I find that my heart opens in gratitude for what I received after all my years of searching. I finally allowed the divine to show me what I needed instead of sending orders of lists of what I want. So, how do you know if he's the one? He'll be completely different than any other you dated in the past. I don't know what that is for you, but that is the clearest way to know that your old habits of dating are changing.

See my Attract the Love of Your Life program which helps you visualize how you want to FEEL in a relationship and allow the divine to bring it to you. You will learn to recognize "the one" more easily when he arrives.