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When was the last time you were physically intimate with your partner? If you say a long time, you are not alone! A lot of couples share their sexual life is in the toilet. They struggle getting along, among other things, to the point that being physically intimate is the furthest thing from ... Views: 8
I didn't date a lot when I was younger. I always used to say it was because I enjoyed hanging out with my friends (which I did), but really it was more about never getting asked out. Everyone wants to be liked. Everyone wants to be asked out. College I dated more, well hung out with guys, ... Views: 12
Do you know the main reason relationships fail is because the individuals in them are emotionally unprepared to have relationships in the first place? Do you know however that emotional adequacy in this context does not require years of psychotherapy but instead simply the recognition and ... Views: 10
Dr. Romance discusses advice on dating after widowhood.
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Dr. Romance's 3 Tips for Finding New Love
For a while after a relationship ends, you may not feel like considering a new relationship, which is probably good. Jumping right from ... Views: 8
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love". For instance, how many times have you heard yourself ... Views: 18
It’s that time of year again. Countless Valentine’s Day ads remind you of your happy love life, or if you’re like most people, your less than perfect romantic life.
Contrary to the implications of this commercial holiday, there’s nothing wrong with being single, or having a non-traditional ... Views: 13
Do you know that many people who are afraid of rejection, intimacy, and abandonment often tend to fall into self sabotaging behaviors such as manipulation, avoidance, overeating, jealousy, drug and alcohol use, having affairs and so on in order to try and "protect" themselves from being ... Views: 16
They're so good at it they might as well host a "How To Trick A Shy Man Into Spending Money" seminar.
Now, I'm not talking about every woman. I'm talking about that particular woman who is just extra bit hotter, who has that extra bit of guys chasing her and who makes you ... Views: 16
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 almost 6 months now. We hit it off from the very beginning and fell in love a couple months into the relationship. Both of us are independent people and level headed, but there's a deep connection between the two ... Views: 26
When it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved.
However, just because someone is in love, it ... Views: 30
Dear Dr. Romance:
Last year, my boyfriend he broke up with me 3 days before my birthday. On the actual day, he didn't even so much as text or call to wish me a happy birthday - or even send me a card. I was devastated, esp because I really made a big deal of his birthday last ... Views: 22
As a single mom, it's a big step to date, no matter how old your kids are. You put yourself out there wanting to find love and hoping to find quality men. Talk about having faith. Well, I do. I have faith that it will happen. It might not happen when I want it to, but I KNOW it will when it's ... Views: 20
In recent studies, men have been shown to suffer more than women when a relationship comes to an end. And while some people would not have been surprised to hear this, for others, it was unexpected and even dismissed.
Even though men have emotions just like women, this doesn’t always appear ... Views: 24
Have you ever noticed that no matter how hard a needy person tries at having a relationship their "neediness" always sabotages their most concerted efforts? Have you ever wondered why some people are needier than others or in fact why people are needy at all?
What's more, have you ever ... Views: 34
One could be in a relationship that is going extremely well and out of nowhere, it could end up being on the rocks; leaving one in a place of uncertainty as to whether it will last or not. It could also be a relationship that is not going to well either.
However, just because something seems ... Views: 44
Let's face it, nothing feels quite like having someone special in your life - a significant other to call your own.
But ask yourself this. Are you making the mistake of assuming you're in a committed relationship with a man you're dating?
The truth is, just because you're dating, enjoying ... Views: 31
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 30
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviours, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 23
Love is in the air. Or so we hope, especially for this single mom. This season, fall in love. Where is the best place? That's the question, I've asked myself over and over again. Where do people go to find love?
If you don't meet men through your friends or work, where do you meet them? I've ... Views: 32
Dr. Romance writes:
Many of my clients want to know: What is a safe surrender to love? They have been in love before, and have gotten hurt. While we all are aware of the joy and beauty of love, and the profound pleasure of being in love, most of us are also afraid of mistakes, of making a wrong ... Views: 28
When you are comfortable with yourself you release all expectations of others. I say this in part because Valentine’s Day is approaching and there will be many hearts that get broken because they expect others to fulfill their wishes. There is an easy evaluation of this. If you squeeze a ... Views: 36
Reinventing yourself is not about getting rid of old ways and ideas. It is about taking away what you need from them; heartbreak, sadness, being stepped on and lied to, and creating a brand new person who sees their self a lot more clearly.
The energy around a situation or circumstance is ... Views: 38
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 40
Two things are certain a) everyone is carrying some emotional baggage and b) everyone struggles to keep it at bay. What most don't know is it's now possible to completely and permanent delete old emotional baggage from the subconscious mind so that all ones time, energy and focus can go into ... Views: 29
Why are you still single? It's this the question every single person hates. I used to get this question all the time. Now, I get more of the statement that's a question, "You're single?!"
What follows immediately is "Why?" I used to say, "If I knew the answer, I wouldn't be single anymore." ... Views: 26
Dear Dr. Romance:
I just found your article "Without Ego" Omg you are just who I've been looking for. For the past two years I've been reading articles about dissolving the ego and all this hubbub. For those two years I was told that I have an ego that is ... Views: 44
Do you know most people find out too late they've been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind ... Views: 27
Do you know most men, when in the company of attractive women, feel shy and weak, intimidated by their beauty, feel inadequate and anxious, get tongue tied, lose all self confidence, and appear needy and unattractive? Do you know this is a real turn off for many women?
Do you know that it is ... Views: 32
There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.
One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual's ... Views: 37
These are ten tings you can do to create a great relationship.
1. Do your own personal emotional work first.
It is necessary for each individual to become aware of and release the negative unconsciously stored self sabotaging relationship patterns they acquired during their childhoods. ... Views: 47
Are you afraid to fully open up to your partner sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually? Does this create an insurmountable barrier between the two of you? Is this barrier manifesting itself as self sabotaging behaviors that push him/her away ad leaving you feeling frustrated, angry with ... Views: 56
When one first meets another person and starts to feel attracted to them, they will have started to form certain associations around what they are like and what they are not like. This whole process is likely to take place out of one’s awareness and happen fairly rapidly.
Once these are ... Views: 46
As you go through your journey of attracting a good man you may meet a man who doesn’t live in your city. Because of online dating, this seems to be the new norm. Depending on how you and your new date hit it off, it may eventually turn into a long distance relationship.
I’ve been in a long ... Views: 45
Why is it that some people have it and others don't? Which group do you fall into? If you were drawn to this article can I hazard a guess that perhaps you fall into the latter group? Would you like to know how you can join the former rapidly and easily? If so then read this and find out how ... Views: 48
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Dear Dr. Romance:
I saw your video "Don't Call Your Ex" Great video post, good advice.
I couldn't agree with you more. It was a very timely message for me. Just recently, I decided to let go of my partner...for ... Views: 78
Ah, love! What rapturous, torturous words have been set down to try and capture the essence of love. Those clever Greeks, who invented the Olympics, also invented many names for love—Cupid, Eros, Venus, Aphrodite—and each name represented an aspect of love. The ancient Greeks had several words ... Views: 58
Do you know that the majority of individuals feel needy inside? Do you know that neediness makes them feel weak, inadequate, worthless, deficient, defective, vulnerable, manipulative, unattractive, depletes their self confidence, self esteem self worth, personal integrity, and sabotages their ... Views: 67
Do you know that shyness is a) not hardwired, b) not part of who you truly are, c) rooted in early negative experiences of rejection, neglect, abandonment, humiliation, bullying, feeling unwanted and unloved and so on stored in the subconscious mind in the form of negative memories and that d) ... Views: 58
How can we define an ideal relationship? Well one way to begin is to look at where relationships fail on this planet and from there attempt to glean a vision of what might be considered ideal.
In a recent article entitled "Relationships: Why Most Relationships Fail" I make the point that most ... Views: 80
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 63
Even though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child.
This won’t be limited to ... Views: 65
Do you know that the reason many people are addicted to toxic relationships is because they feel emotionally incomplete and empty inside? Do you know these feelings desperately drive one to look to a partner for love, validation, security, care taking, self esteem, self worth, a sense of ... Views: 47
There is no doubt about it. Part of that which makes a voice sexy is tone – the expression of a sensual mood or attitude. However, a lot more goes into a hot voice than your expression. If your voice is high-pitched, whiny, nasal, or shrill voice, for example, it doesn’t matter how great ... Views: 85
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm having major anxiety about the guy I'm dating. I wanted to talk with him, but I lost my strength when I asked about his ex and he gave me an answer like, "There are things you need to know and things you don't need to know and when things don't affect ... Views: 71
The most frequent problem I hear from single clients is that of how and where to search for a partner. Many of them have been searching for a long time, without success; others have been afraid to go out and search at all.
Most of the horror stories you have heard about dating occur when ... Views: 57
People pay therapists thousands of dollars to help them identify their blind spots in relationships so that they can stop attracting the “wrong people.” I like to call this, “What’s in My Shadow?”
The Shadow is the part of your subconscious mind that contains characteristics of your ... Views: 91
When ones relationships are running smoothly and have very little, if any, conflicts, one is unlikely to look deeper into them. And this is to be expected, as the need to look deeper generally arises when something is not working. This need could still be there, but it won’t be as strong because ... Views: 85
While someone can have an idea in their minds about the kind of person they want to be with, it doesn’t mean that this always becomes a reality. This can relate to what another person looks like on the outside and what they are like on the inside and their personality.
One could meet someone ... Views: 89
Is it not striking that so few good relationships exist these days? So much so that we as a species seem to have resigned ourselves to believing that human beings simply cannot have healthy relationships. Unfortunately this view has only come into vogue because we have yet to appreciate the real ... Views: 99
Number Seven May Be A Little Shocking
Dr. Romance’s three tips to maintaining sanity during divorce.
According to results from a recent GfK Roper poll, more than 80 percent of divorced Americans still believe in marriage, but we all know more than half of marriages don’t make it, for ... Views: 107