Dear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ... Views: 31
I'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book.
A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ... Views: 32
Whether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ... Views: 33
Is your special day just around the corner? If so, stress levels are probably high and you are feeling anxious about it. Though the perfect wedding requires a lot of preparation, you should learn how to relax and have a good time. Try the following checklist to get organised during your special ... Views: 32
Healthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ... Views: 46
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love".
For instance, how many times have you heard ... Views: 37
Do you know that needy behavior is a huge turn off? Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don't know they are needy? So what constitutes needy behavior and what can one do about it? Find out here!
1. Have a fear of being alone.
2. Need others to ... Views: 41
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 41
Dear Dr. Romance,
I love reading your articles here and on Divine Caroline, and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he ... Views: 55
I met a guy a year ago. We dated weekly for 2 months. Our dates were fun and passionate.
Then after that he started asking me out on dates every couple weeks or so for the next 4 months. The dates were still very passionate and so much fun.
One day he started to invite me ... Views: 51
For many, love is a mystery.Â We grow up hearing fairytale beliefs about love from our family members and our friends.Â Many times these beliefs don’t serve us as we are searching for true love.Â I have discovered some myths that I feel don’t really hold true for my clients and ... Views: 45
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ... Views: 66
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviors, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 50
Many therapists and coaches who are attempting to help individuals overcome their shyness have taken the view that:
1. It is not possible to fully over come it,
2. That is has something to do with having inadequate social skills and,
3. That social skills classes help you become more ... Views: 58
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 44
Everyone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership.
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Just because someone is available at one point in time, it doesnât mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of.
However, without even going into how much ... Views: 60
Dear Dr. Romance:
How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ... Views: 103
Dear Dr. Romance:
Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ... Views: 62
Everyone starts out in life wanting to be safe, loved, and accepted. Itâs in our DNA. Some of us figure out that the best way to do this is to put aside what we want or feel and allow someone elseâs needs and feelings take precedence. This works for a while. It feels natural, and thereâs less ... Views: 69
While relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship.
This might create the impression that they ... Views: 76
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ... Views: 116
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 79
While some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ... Views: 66
Just because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesnât mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ... Views: 84
And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. Doris Lessing
Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ... Views: 95
We believe the primary purpose of all love relationships is opportunity for spiritual growth, yet few seem to share our belief considering the three common questions about a new relationship partner that often lead to love life suffering.
Itâs understandable why people today approach love ... Views: 74
Self-determination and self-respect are the necessary keys to take full responsibility for and control over your own life. Without these keys, it’s easy to be caught up in the fantasy that there is someone else who will make it better, who can or should take total care of you, ... Views: 109
My clients all have different personalities! Some clients have more outgoing, extroverted personalities where they do not have any problem meeting people and have more of a problem choosing a good partner for themselves. Then there are more introverted clients that I work with who are more ... Views: 65
When an obsession dominates us, it steals our will and saps all the pleasure out of life. We become numb to people and events, while our mind replays the same dialogue images, or words. In a conversation, we have little interest in what the other person is saying and soon talk about our ... Views: 111
One of my clients, Mindy, has never been married and in her late 30‘s has been dating and been in several relationships off and on for most of her adult life.Â When she started coaching with me she was in relationship with a professional man in his early 40’s for about 2 years ... Views: 67
Dr. Romance writes:
It was one of those magical encounters with a personal truthâyou know how it feels. I was fifteen, in ninth-grade English. The teacher, Mr. Rizzutto, read us a poem, and it had such a profound effect on me that even five decades later, Iâm still using it as a guide. The ... Views: 110
When a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly painful experience. And this doesnât even need to be a relationship was fulfilling or healthy; as it can be painful no matter how âgoodâ or âbadâ it was.
So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and ... Views: 100
Do you know that all relationship conflicts arise because of unconsciously held co-dependent patterns held by each partner? Do you know such patterns are rooted in early negative relationship experiences stored in the subconscious mind as negative memories or rejection, abuse, abandonment, ... Views: 91
Many of my clients come in with complaints about personal habits that feel toxic in their lives. Just as you can detox your body when you’re feeling sluggish, it’s also possible to detox your emotional life. Here are some of the most common ways your life can back up on you, and how ... Views: 95
Last week I wrote about dating from a womenâs perspective. But what about men? It takes two to tango, and men find dating these days just as daunting as women do. Maybe more. Here are some tips:
âKnow thyselfâ is always good advice, and especially when dating. If you are a ... Views: 88
Dear Dr. Romance:
I started dating a man 2 years younger than me, who is from another country. I thought he was very sweet and gentlemanly and of course I'm really attracted to him, and he eventually asked me on a date. We've had several dates, and he's very considerate, very ... Views: 96
The most overlooked quality that makes or breaks your love life is not bad luck, but personal timing.
Weâre not referring to trying to time the beginning of a relationship for success, such as planning a wedding on the day of a New Moon. Our findings tell us that other forces, such as an ... Views: 169
Are you totally baffled as to why you only seem to attract men who are far from ideal for you? Are you tired of ending up with men who arenât ready for the same type of relationship you want?
Before you give up on the possibility of ever meeting guys who truly measure up and want what you ... Views: 115
Dr. Romance asks: Should you date someone who is divorced? Does it mean the person can't commit or trashes relaitonships?
It's possible that those things are true, but let's look on the positive side. What are the perks of people who have already been through ... Views: 163
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was married at the age of 21, was married for 7 years, separated from my spouse a little over a year ago, and I'm in the process of divorce. I dated various people shortly after separation, but I was lost, broke some hearts, and simply didn't know ... Views: 131
I have a friend who protested she didnât like the âsmall talkâ required in early dating, and wanted to go straight to a relationship. You can go online, research your prospective date and learn everything you need to know about him, right? Wrong. This is one process that you canât cut short. ... Views: 88
It is not uncommon for someone to hear that they should just be themselves around the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual preference. And while this sounds accurate and exactly what one should be doing, it doesnât mean that this is what always happens.
There will be some ... Views: 94
Ever wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. But you don’t have to be dishonest and ... Views: 133
Writing has a powerful effect on our emotional state. The following exercise is designed to help you fully express feelings that may have lain dormant for a long time, or may be too intense and jumbled for your to process effectively. Youll find it helpful in expressing what you feel, ... Views: 139
In romantic depictions of love, cute little images of cherubs and cupids abound. But Cupid, in his real incarnation, is not so sweet and cuddly. His arrows can create deep and lasting wounds, and can strike you blind and irrational in a heartbeat. A few disaster-filled run-ins with Cupid’s ... Views: 145
Honor your Self. What does that mean? In my book, it means getting in touch with our Core, True, Authentic Self, our Soul, and operating from it in all we do.
This means being in connection with our Self, knowing our Self. Most of the time we are in a fog and cacophony of daily minutiae, ... Views: 150
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a woman in my mid-twenties from India and working in the middle east in a professional job. I had a brief arranged marriage and am now getting divorced. One of my business clients, who is an arab and over forty has been married for many years but claims his ... Views: 151
With Suitor #1, he and I talked via text and on the phone a lot. Then when we met in person, there wasn't any chemistry. A friend told me next time to not talk with the guy so much. That way there wouldn't be expectations. So I decided to try this tactic, because at this point, I'm willing to ... Views: 140
The season of renewal is finally here and with it comes an invitation to awaken to life. Note the blue skies, the sun shining, birds chirping, flowers blooming. What an enchanting time to be alive. The possibilities are countless.
As we are coming out of hibernation, it is time to look around ... Views: 165