There are people I love who are easy to be around, and others I love who are more difficult for me. It’s not that they’re bad people, others get along with them fine, and, actually, so do I. It’s just that I have to work a little bit more to understand what they mean, to ... Views: 18
As another year winded down and a new one begins, I feel a sense of pressure. Don't get me wrong I'm excited to see where this next year leads, but there's this thing creeping up. I have successfully pushed it away before, but I feel it coming again. I used to work in a restaurant, so every New ... Views: 16
I was speaking with a client today about his burn-out in his career. This is a man who’s been very successful, earned a lot of money, and worked hard for a big, national corporation. I told him he was burned-out, and on strike, because he had put himself in a box about work. The box ... Views: 36
Dear Dr. Romance:My partner whom I have been in a relationship with for the past year has changed and let me down twice. We were first friends for several years & became a couple for the last year. We both fell in love instantly and desire to live together to build towards a good ... Views: 29
It’s not uncommon to hear that women want to settle down and that men want to ‘play the field’. And based on this, women want to be in a relationship and men are not bothered about being in one.
This is how men and women are generally portrayed and in some cases, this is going to be true. ... Views: 49
Dear Dr. Romance:
My last romantic relationship (that I thought was mutual) ended because she said one day out of the blue, "I don't love you any more." I think she never really did, but rather I was her crutch after her lastbreakup. I loved her wholly, with all my ... Views: 39
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm really confused about a guy I know online from a social site, he's ten years older than I am. We've been in contact for several months. We now live in different countries. Recently, our chatting got intense and he told me that he likes me. ... Views: 45
The pain, sadness and grief that go with a recent divorce can often make it extremely difficult to clearly and confidently move forward into one's awaiting new life. In fact many individuals have been told that it often takes months to years to truly recover from such a negative event. Is this ... Views: 41
Perhaps you have heard that in business it’s all about location, location, location! However, this dating coach believes that for relationships, it’s all about values, values and values! What do I mean about values? Let me explain:
Your values are what you treasure. ... Views: 48
Are you getting ready for the most exciting day of your life? Getting the perfect pictures will be an integral part of the experience, providing you with sweet memories to go over again and again.
Choosing the right wedding photographer is the key to getting the perfect pictures. How can you ... Views: 45
Does this sound familiar? You go to a loud club and your friends tell you that they can’t hear you even though you’ve been talking in a louder voice. Your throat feels raw and sore or perhaps you have lost your voice after an hour or two of straining to be heard.
What you are experiencing ... Views: 67
Do you know that most people experience shyness to some degree? In many cases shyness is so debilitating that it sabotages relationships and career success. Do you know that underneath that shyness lurks a more sinister problem i.e. a deep need for validation, acceptance, appreciation, ... Views: 72
Dear Dr. Romance:
I do not like my job, I have two more classes before I complete my masters in HR to move to a better position and recently passed the PHR certification. I was talking with my boyfriend about the environment at the company and how they are always threatening ... Views: 76
Everyone at some point in their lives has experienced a break up or two. Some of those breakups were on good terms others were not. For whatever reason a trust issue develops with one or both of the individuals. This trust issue tends to carry over into the next relationship. That is the reason ... Views: 60
We live in a world where we make our own choices that decide our future but it doesn't not always turn out the way we anticipate it. Did we do something wrong or was it someone else who prevented that dream or goal of being achieved? The fact remains we have two choices to choose from when ... Views: 51
Technology can have a big impact on relationships. In my counseling office, I see many couples who are struggling over Internet and social media issues. The ability to work at home via computer and smart phone can mean arguing about how work spills over and absorbs relationship time. Secrets ... Views: 68
If you've been in one or are in one right now, you will know that it’s not always easy and euphoric 24/7. A solid relationship takes a lot of WORK and it takes two. See if you and your lover can past this test!
Own Your Power,
RELATIONSHIP BASICS 101
Couples often lose track of ... Views: 65
This past weekend was my 12 year wedding anniversary with Alan. This is a major milestone for me. My first marriage ended abruptly in year eleven when I was 36. So I had a huge gremlin about whether I would make it past eleven years in this marriage this time around.
We have had our ups ... Views: 33
Dr. Romance on men and biological clocks:
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Yes, a man can feel the need to grow up and have a family, especially when he finds a woman who inspires those feelings in him. The problem is, how can you be sure the match is a good one?
You’d think the positive ... Views: 70
When it comes to talking to people that one’s knows and gets on with, there is not going to be any thought as to whether one will be accepted by them. And this is because at a deeper level they know that the other person accepts them.
So unless there is so kind of tension or something ... Views: 67
When one has the desire to be in a relationship with someone, they are going to have certain expectations. And the same can be said when one is already in a relationship. Now, there is the chance that one is completely aware of what these are and at the same time, there is the chance that they ... Views: 80
Dear Dr. Romance:Thank you for your free articles, you have a lot of good stuff in there. A couple of the girls at work and I read your articles and get a good laugh. You're giving advice assuming that our lives are what YOU consider normal. You have a good job, make good money, live in a ... Views: 133
I'm updating my book The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. The new version will be called Dr. Romance's Guide to Dating in the Digital Age. The following article is excerpted from the new book.
A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how ... Views: 115
Whether someone is in a relationship with another person or not, they are still going to experience pain. This could relate to certain disagreements that one has with the person they are in a relationship with on one side and on the other, it could include different kinds of abuse for ... Views: 99
Is your special day just around the corner? If so, stress levels are probably high and you are feeling anxious about it. Though the perfect wedding requires a lot of preparation, you should learn how to relax and have a good time. Try the following checklist to get organised during your special ... Views: 101
Healthy relationships are built on a foundation, or infrastructure, of clear thinking, problem solving, and mutual support. Any willing couple can learn to build a happy relationship, if they stop reacting and learn to respond thoughtfully. As an individual you have ideas and beliefs about how ... Views: 116
Why does Co-dependence arise? Well because two or more individuals make an unconscious contract with each other to try to satisfy the unmet needs of the other. Initially, especially in the case of a couple, this contract is defined as "love".
For instance, how many times have you heard ... Views: 101
Do you know that needy behavior is a huge turn off? Do you know most needy people keep getting rejected simply because they don't know they are needy? So what constitutes needy behavior and what can one do about it? Find out here!
1. Have a fear of being alone.
2. Need others to ... Views: 104
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 98
Dear Dr. Romance,
I love reading your articles here and on Divine Caroline, and I always look forward to the new ones. I have a long time online friend. We have been friends for about three-four years, and I even felt I was in love with him for a while - and told him so. He said he ... Views: 123
I met a guy a year ago. We dated weekly for 2 months. Our dates were fun and passionate.
Then after that he started asking me out on dates every couple weeks or so for the next 4 months. The dates were still very passionate and so much fun.
One day he started to invite me ... Views: 111
For many, love is a mystery. We grow up hearing fairytale beliefs about love from our family members and our friends. Many times these beliefs don’t serve us as we are searching for true love. I have discovered some myths that I feel don’t really hold true for my clients and ... Views: 103
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm in high school and going through a rough patch in my relationship I have been with my boyfriendFor 17 months, sort of on an off, but 5 months ago we broke up and I slept With another male an yesterday he told me he had sex with another female after I told him ... Views: 130
Do you know that many people are not fully mature enough to have healthy relationships? Do you know this immaturity manifests as a fear of being alone, fear of abandonment, feelings of jealousy and insecurity, controlling and manipulative behaviors, fears of commitment and intimacy, self ... Views: 115
Many therapists and coaches who are attempting to help individuals overcome their shyness have taken the view that:
1. It is not possible to fully over come it,
2. That is has something to do with having inadequate social skills and,
3. That social skills classes help you become more ... Views: 118
Do you know that co-dependent needy behavior can make even the most physically attractive person a pariah? Do you know however that those behaviors, rooted in old emotional baggage stored in your subconscious mind, can be permanently and completely erased thereby leaving you feeling self ... Views: 96
Everyone wants the best relationship they can have. The markers of a happy relationship are: Cooperation/partnership, mutuality, laughter and affection. Whether you’re in a relationship now or hoping to be, these keys will help you create a more loving and happier partnership.
... Views: 140
Just because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of.
However, without even going into how much ... Views: 120
Dear Dr. Romance:
How can I sign up for your Happiness Tips newsletter? I want to read "The One Who Got Away." Also which article would you recommend reading in my case? I met a wonderful lady who loves dancing like I do, and for almost 8 months she has been getting her house ... Views: 190
Dear Dr. Romance:
Nine months ago, I met a girl on Facebook. my words about many subject attract her , then she add me as her friends, and I discovered that she is lesbian. Before that, I didn'tknow there was lesbian world but when we chat I get to know her very ... Views: 127
Everyone starts out in life wanting to be safe, loved, and accepted. It’s in our DNA. Some of us figure out that the best way to do this is to put aside what we want or feel and allow someone else’s needs and feelings take precedence. This works for a while. It feels natural, and there’s less ... Views: 119
While relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship.
This might create the impression that they ... Views: 136
Dear Dr. Romance:
I was wondering if I could ask you for some advice. I'm feeling so troubled. I got divorced a few years ago. Since then, I became involved with a man more than ten years older than me. I got a work assignment out of town, and he was adamant about keeping a ... Views: 177
Do you feel inhibited or afraid to be your true inner Self in all areas of your life? Do you feel like you betray your Self, your inner truth and integrity on a regular basis? Does this make you feel inadequate, ashamed, and bad about and towards your Self? Would you like to develop the courage ... Views: 125
While some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ... Views: 120
Just because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ... Views: 142
And then, not expecting it, you become middle-aged…You achieve a wonderful freedom. It is a positive thing. Doris Lessing
Maturity or middle age means different things to different people, but for most, reaching a mature age means developing a new set of ... Views: 156
We believe the primary purpose of all love relationships is opportunity for spiritual growth, yet few seem to share our belief considering the three common questions about a new relationship partner that often lead to love life suffering.
It’s understandable why people today approach love ... Views: 125
Self-determination and self-respect are the necessary keys to take full responsibility for and control over your own life. Without these keys, it’s easy to be caught up in the fantasy that there is someone else who will make it better, who can or should take total care of you, ... Views: 166
My clients all have different personalities! Some clients have more outgoing, extroverted personalities where they do not have any problem meeting people and have more of a problem choosing a good partner for themselves. Then there are more introverted clients that I work with who are more ... Views: 119