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Do you know that neediness hijacks the mind and causes one to make choices based on feelings of insecurity, fears of being abandoned or rejected, jealousy, etc.? Do you know this not only makes one feel and appear unattractive it also leaves them feeling out of control and unable to discern ... Views: 45
Dr. Romance’s 3 tips to finding true love:
1. Know the difference between fooling around and building a real relationship. You can mess around with anyone (if you’re careful and have safe sex) but before you bring someone into your life, or share money or living space, remember they’re ... Views: 63
Dating Again? Use These Five Tips On Every Date!
You’re fresh out of a disaster, and you are terrified of the thought of dating again, but you’re going to try anyway. Good for you! Here are some guidelines to help you avoid repeating old mistakes:
1. Pay Attention!
You Have Things to ... Views: 41
So you're an adult now and engaged in a relationship but you find yourself at times behaving like that frightened and shy child who is still inside. You find yourself having trouble expressing your true feelings to your partner for fear that he/she will find you undesirable and reject you. This ... Views: 45
If You're Searching And Can't Find Love, Try This
Probably the most prevalent question I'm asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can't find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won't respond as they would like, even why ... Views: 60
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm hoping you can offer some advice. I recently fell in love with a guy going through a divorce. We weren't together for ages but I feel like it was. He was separated About 10 months when we started dating and he had confessed to having a crush on me for a really ... Views: 76
Do you know most people find out too late they've been stuck in the habit of making bad choices when it comes to a partner? Do you know these choices are not made from a place of freewill consciousness rather are driven by deeply buried co-dependency needs programmed into the subconscious mind ... Views: 119
Do you know most men, when in the company of attractive women, feel shy and weak, intimidated by their beauty, feel inadequate and anxious, get tongue tied, lose all self confidence, and appear needy and unattractive? Do you know this is a real turn off for many women? Do you know that it is now ... Views: 90
Do you know that most people pick the same "kind" of unhealthy partner over and over and never realize it until their life is spent and they are too old? Do you know this unhealthy dating pattern is rooted in early childhood relationships you had with important caretakers (usually parents) often ... Views: 91
Do you know that bad relationship choices are driven by old unmet emotional needs that often undermine one's ability to make healthy, self respecting and discerning choices in relationships (and other areas of life)?
Do you know these unmet needs are generated and supported by old emotional ... Views: 80
When it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ... Views: 138
There are a number of individuals who are in relationship who are not yet ready for such a commitment.
One of the biggest issues with such individuals relates to what many therapists classify as a personality disorder. Personality disorders pertain to failed maturation of the individual's ... Views: 99
Dear Dr. Romance
I came across your name and contact details on a web it whilst trying to find info' to help my relationship. I wonder if you might be able to offer me any advice please ?
My girlfriend always wants to take control and the way she speaks to me at times is though ... Views: 93
Do you know that neediness is one of the greatest impediments to healthy and successful relationships? Do you know that the majority of people feel emotionally needy and they acquired this through early life conditioning that remains stored inside of them much like an old outdated computer ... Views: 103
Do you know that many individuals who are coming out of an unhealthy relationship situation often find themselves quickly re-entering similar negative and often abusive relationships?
Do you know that this pattern is largely driven by feelings of rejection, abandonment, low self worth, low ... Views: 118
Men, Women and the Fear of Emotional Commitment
Do you ever wonder why you find yourself repeatedly sabotaging your relationships? Well the most likely cause is an underlying Fear of Emotional Commitment. What's at the root of this fear and how can one completely eliminate it?
Emotional ... Views: 100
Do you know that low self esteem and self worth are significant impediments to creating and sustaining healthy, fulfilling and long lasting relationships? Do you know that when one feels deficient in these qualities it is not because there is anything wrong with them but largely because they ... Views: 94
A happy marriage can begin with a list of date night ideas that you turn into a series of romantic dates with your mate. That's right, you can rekindle the romance in your marriage with a regularly scheduled date night with your spouse.
Couples who nurture their relationships through ... Views: 92
Do you know that many people sabotage their relationships because of a fear of commitment, fear of intimacy, fear of being rejected or abandoned, feelings of inadequacy, worthlessness, and neediness just to name a few?
Do you know all this negativity is generated by old emotional baggage ... Views: 115
The impulse to get married almost seems programmed into us from a very early age. Many believe that being married reflects on how attractive, lovable, and successful they are as human beings. Do you know, however that most people who are thinking about marriage are not yet ready for such a ... Views: 128
Ready To Get Back Out There? 3 Must Knows
Men and women have to redefine themselves after a relationship ends, and reinvent their lives. If they do it well, it can lead to the most satisfying and successful years they've had. Dating successfully after divorce or a breakup require several ... Views: 122
I woke up this morning, Sunday at 6:00 a.m., restless from 6 hours of sleep. I crept downstairs hoping to not awaken my 8 year old morning “rooster” to check my email and begin my day.
In my inbox, was a potential “match”, from Singleparentmeetup.com. The profile picture, was of a, er, ... Views: 78
What is an "Authentic Relationship"?
Well simply it is one in which both partners are "authentically themselves"!
Does such a species exist on this planet yet? I would like to think so however I would like to expound on how there can be many more.
Let me start by addressing the garden ... Views: 132
Are you coming off a bad relationship? Are you still feeling the emotional wounds from your ex? Do you have old deeply buried wounds from previously failed relationships? Well if you've answered yes to any one of these then I can guarantee that these scars will, whether you like it or not, ... Views: 172
Do you know that one of the underlying causes of toxic relationships is the fear of abandonment? Do you know this fear causes one to become needy, controlling, manipulative, bullying, jealous, insecure, vulnerable, anxious and unattractive, to name a few, thereby making them and their ... Views: 127
Do you know that the reason many people are addicted to toxic relationships is because they feel emotionally incomplete and empty inside? Do you know these feelings desperately drive one to look to a partner for love, validation, security, care taking, self esteem, self worth, a sense of ... Views: 123
Do you know that neediness is the result of old emotional baggage stored within in the form of negative memories of abuse, rejection, neglect, humiliation, bullying, failure etc.? Do you know that these memories create the familiar nagging feeling of emptiness that many people have inside them? ... Views: 120
Dear Dr. Romance
I'm in my seventies, and he is 25 years younger.we met on a senior dating site almost two years ago, and have been living together for over a year. He and my daughter went to the same high school, and he says he was attracted to me then and always compared his other ... Views: 128
3 Must Do's + 2 Don'ts That Can Help You Today
Are you about to be dumped? Your mate/date is losing interest? The signs are: lack of attention in conversation and being together; irritability -- refusal to talk about it, no sex or less interest. Here's what to do if you ARE dumped.
1. DO ... Views: 171
When someone goes from one relationship to another, they are often described as having a rebound relationship. And this can takes place within a very short time of one ending and the other beginning; so there is very little time in between each one.
This could be a relationship that has ... Views: 157
Do you know that old emotional baggage in the form of negative memories of abandonment, rejection, heart break, humiliation, abuse, bullying and failure etc., are responsible for unattractive needy feelings and behaviors? Do you know that those memories make one feel inadequate, vulnerable, self ... Views: 156
Do you know that the fear of abandonment is a key factor in the demise of many relationships? Do you know that it can make individuals insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative, needy, smothering, and that all of these inevitably cause the very thing they fear, abandonment? Do you know that ... Views: 112
Do you know that choosing to have healthy relationships requires self esteem, self worth, self respect and the ability to make discerning choices? Do you know that many lack these because of old negative emotional relationship baggage stored within that generates self destructive needy patterns ... Views: 145
Do you know that needy behavior is the single most common killer of any relationship? Do you know that the majority of adults harbor this destructive tendency within them? Do you know that all neediness is rooted in old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind in the form of negative ... Views: 121
Do you know that there are many successful women and men who continually choose or remain stuck in toxic relationships? Do you know this means achieving career success does not immediately translate into being able to make healthy, discerning and self respecting choices in one's relationship ... Views: 97
Do you know that the fear of rejection is one of the single greatest causes of the fear of committing one's self to a new relationship? Do you know these fears are also sitting on a heap of other negative emotions such as feelings of heartbreak, sadness, abandonment, low self esteem, feelings of ... Views: 169
Addictive relationships are characterized by an inability to let go of a partner who is abusive because doing so leads to strong feelings of need and/or insecurity that cannot be tolerated. There are three important things one must do in order to free themselves from an addictive ... Views: 137
Do you know that many relationships are founded on co-dependent manipulative neediness that masquerades as love? Do you know that most people never realize the difference between the two? Do you know that means the majority of such relationships are therefore conflictual, abusive and bound for ... Views: 120
There are ten tings you can do to create the ideal relationship.
1. Do your own personal emotional work first.
It is necessary for each individual to become aware of and release the negative unconsciously stored self sabotaging relationship patterns they acquired during their childhoods. ... Views: 177
In today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour.
For some people, ... Views: 183
Would you like a deeper speaking voice? Perhaps you are over 21 and think your voice sounds too young. Maybe you feel that your voice is wimpy, strident, harsh, whispery, or nasal. The good news is that you actually have a deeper or lower voice inside of you. It is there just waiting to be ... Views: 206
Do you know that narcissistic individuals seem to exude a sense of self confidence and self importance that attracts, or rather “lures”. individuals who often have low self confidence, self esteem, self worth and are usually very needy and vulnerable? Do you know that such individuals look to ... Views: 145
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've been with this man over thirty years back and forth. Something always seems to happen and we end up apart again. He endsup getting married and yet though living states apart he always ends up calling and we do the same thing all over again.
This time we got closer ... Views: 178
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***What Is Narcissism? - by Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitz, The Official Guides to Marriage
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
We are often asked, "What is the best definition of Narcissism of which you are aware?" For us, there is a simple answer. It is our strong belief that the Mayo Clinic has posited the best definition and it follows:
"Narcissistic personality ... Views: 267
Dear Dr. Romance:
I knew a girl for a long time and had a huge crush on her. I'm in my twenties, and she is a year
younger than me. I am a very shy person and would freeze up whenever I tried to tell her. We knew each other for more than a year and were good friends, so I told her, trying ... Views: 269
Do you know that neediness is the result of old emotional baggage stored within in the form of negative memories of abuse, rejection, neglect, humiliation, bullying, failure etc.? Do you know that these memories create the familiar nagging feeling of emptiness that many people have inside them? ... Views: 251
Do you know that there are many successful women and men who continually choose or remain stuck in toxic relationships? Do you know this means achieving career success does not immediately translate into being able to make healthy, discerning and self respecting choices in one’s relationship ... Views: 193
Dear Dr. Romance:
I'm a 23 year old single mother and believe me when I say my life has been crazy and very rough. I have no relationship with the father of my child. He's pretty much abandoned our four yearl old son after his 1st birthday. He doesn't help out, and blames everything ... Views: 204
It is very important to be positive in life and always look forward to each new day with a smile on your face. When people are living with HIV and are dealing with this virus it is very important to keep a positive outlook. Many people are not looking at HIV dating options because they are ... Views: 143
Do you know that needy behavior is the single most common killer of any relationship? Do you know that the majority of adults harbor this destructive tendency within them? Do you know that all neediness is rooted in old emotional baggage stored in the subconscious mind in the form of negative ... Views: 226