Heart in Darkness

Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour

Properties Required: drawing paper, pencils, colored pencils, pen, charcoal sticks


  1. Draw a picture illustrating the emotional state of your heart right now. Convey the extent to which your heart is wounded, healed, open, closed, stingy, generous, capable of giving and receiving love. For example, your heart might be entombed in an impregnable fortress, or there might be cracks or openings giving some access to your heart. It could be shrouded in darkness or bathed in light. Various colors might symbolize your heart’s condition. There might be sores or tears in your heart. It might be impaled with sharp objects.
  2. As you undertake an emotional healing journey, a process of awakening your spirit, a quest for freedom, or a deepening of your commitment to your relationship, redraw your heart picture about once per month as a visual representation of your progress.


Share your drawings with your lover.


As we heal and become whole, we can often forget how much progress we have made, how much better we feel, and how much the quality of our lives has improved. This is one way to keep a record—a visual journal.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website www.tantra-sex.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.