Truth and Dare

All the secrets you hold inside are an enormous weight, a needless burden. This exercise offers an excellent opportunity for you to revisit and let go of things from your past that still bother you. All of us have experiences that have left us wounded: times when we felt humiliated, diminished, attacked, violated, abused, rejected, ignored, or misunderstood. Just to have someone listen to your story without judgment, without comment, and without assuming responsibility can lighten your load tremendously.

Time for Exercise: 10 to 30 minutes

Properties Required: none


Share with your partner something you have been thinking or worrying about, are afraid or ashamed of, or embarrassed or otherwise bothered by.


  • Only one person tells their story each time you do the exercise.
  • Both tell a story during the same session.


When you share your story, you are not necessarily asking for help or expecting your lover to provide a solution, although you might want these things, and, if so, you will include that information as a request to your lover.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website and their blog or send email: They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.