Mind Puzzle

Time for Exercise: 15 minutes to one hour

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  1. Ask yourself the following questions. The first question is the most important one. All the other questions follow from that one. The first question is: “Who am I?” Some common answers might include: your name; your various roles (occupation, parent, child, employer, employee, lover, spouse, friend, neighbor); your personality; your beliefs; your values; your accomplishments; your knowledge, skills, and abilities; your possessions; your goals and vision; your body; your thoughts; and your feelings.
  2. These next questions can be taken in any order. Pick and choose as you like.
  • What if all of the things mentioned above were taken away from you—one at a time, or all at once? Who would be left? Don’t let this question scare you. Just let it play around in your consciousness and see what comes up.
  • Is the “self” something that can be contained within the limits of any or all of your answers and the above categories?
  • Does a body have consciousness, or does consciousness occupy a body? What is consciousness?
  • Does the body have a soul, or does the soul have a body? What is the soul?
  • How can you explain experiences when someone’s consciousness travels through space and time separately from his body? What do such experiences suggest about the nature of consciousness?
  • In what sense is your personality only a mask you present to the world? Can you allow yourself to change your mask? Why? When? How? What is the “self” if you change your personality?
  • Is the nature of “self” material, like matter and particles, or non-material, like energy and consciousness? Is the “self” both material and non-material? Can the non-material “self” exist/operate/know independent of and separated from the material body?
  • What is before birth? What does the “self” come out of? What is after death? What does the “self” return to?
  • We know that bodies die. Can the “self” die with the body?
  • We know that energy and matter cannot be destroyed. Can consciousness be destroyed? Or like energy and matter, can it just change forms, or move to a different place/level/reality?
  • If your existence is neither limited to nor dependent upon the body, how would that change how you live, what you decide to do or not do, how you treat the people you love, and how you treat neighbors or strangers?
  • If your existence is neither limited to nor dependent upon the body, how would that change how you think about birth, life, and death?
  • Who or what is God? Can you know God as a direct personal experience?


Talk about your ideas with your lover.


Enrich yourself by asking these profound questions. Be open to some surprises. Let the mystery enter into your experience.

Author's Bio: 

Al Link and Pala Copeland own and operate 4 Freedoms Relationship Tantra. They regularly host lover’s romantic weekends near Ottawa Canada, and weeklong retreats in exotic locations. For more information call toll free from Canada or USA: 1-800-684-5308 International long distance: 1-819-689-5308. Visit their website www.tantra-sex.com and their blog www.askaboutloveandsex.com or send email: 4freedoms@tantraloving.com They have four books published including Soul Sex: Tantra for Two, New Page, 2003; The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Supercharged Kama Sutra, Penguin, 2007; Sensual Love Secrets for Couples: The Four Freedoms Body, Heart, Mind and Soul, Llewellyn 2007; Tantra Step by Step: 28 Days to Ecstasy, Llewellyn 2007.