Appreciation is one of the most powerful actions in the universe.
When you are sensitively aware of a unique quality that makes
someone who they are -- and are willing to communicate it to
him or her -- that person’s life and your own can change forever.
Let me give you an example.

After walking out the door of a Kinko’s a few years ago, a young
man coming down the sidewalk called my name and approached
me. “It’s me, Tenny,” he said, “We used to play pool together at
the youth center.” The last time I had seen Tenny he was a small
thirteen year-old boy. Now he was an impressive-looking young
man, taller than me.

We talked for a while and he told me of some of his high school
sports accomplishments and of his plans to attend college that fall.
After we wished each other well, he looked into my eyes and said
“One time you told me that you liked the way I concentrated on
every shot I took. I’ll never forget that. Thank you.”

Standing there on the sidewalk, I felt the power of apppreciation.
I realized that what I had said to him years ago (and had long since
forgotten) had changed his life in some way -- and his appreciation
for me was now changing mine. I thanked him and walked to my
car with a new lightness in my heart.

What do you appreciate about the people in your life? Are you willing
to tell them? When? If you’re feeling unsure of how to share an appreciation
with another person, here are two examples:

“I like/love the way you ________________.” (Offer to help, light up a
room, ask for what you want...)

“I appreciate how you _________________.” (Listen closely when I talk,
make eye contact with me, support my creativity, spend time with the kids...)

We blossom in an atmosphere of appreciation. Take the time to appreciate
yourself and others often as you go about your days. Your life and the lives
of others will unfold in miraculous ways.

Author's Bio: 

Since 1995, Gregory Newman, M.S. ( has coached individuals and couples in body-centered skills that have made it easier for their lives, relationships and careers to blossom. Greg coaches over-the-phone and in-person and can be reached at 608-274-6962 or