They are everywhere you go--at work, in the family, among friends, at the church and synagogue. They are difficult, annoying, irritating people. You want to avoid them, but no matter where you go, thee they are.

The fact is, they are playing their part PERFECTLY by allowing you to figure out how to deal with them! Once you know how to deal with them, you become stronger and more self confident than you have ever been before!

Here are some tried-and-true, VERY little known techniques that seem absolutely magical in their effectiveness, but they really come down to deliberately shifting the ENERGY of strained relationships.

First, before you ever come into the same room with a difficult person, mentally talk to their soul by saying, "The Divine in me salutes the Divine in you." (Or, "The Christ in me salutes the Christ in you." Or, "My higher self salutes your higher self." It all works.) Repeat this mental mantra when you are in their presence as often as you wish. Their SOUL gets the message, and the vibration between you alters in a very significant and pleasant way.

Next, when you are in the presence of a negative, difficult person, draw an X on a piece of paper and cross your ankles. These simple acts draw the left and right sides of your brain together so that you can "think on your feet" without losing your concentration. Think of it as "activating the X". This technique is from the latest in brain research.

Now, place the tip of your tongue on that little web of skin behind your two front teeth - that spot you have burned when eating pizza. Apply a little bit of pressure. Instantly, you will begin to feel better! The reason is that a substance gets released into you system when you apply that pressure and it instantly calms you down and even strengthens your immunity!

When you are by yourself and feel the need to calm down, find the little "V" in your neck, move down about 1/2 inch, and tap vigorously right on your skin about 33 times. Use the four fingers of either hand to tap. The same sense of well being will permeate you, and for the same reason. You will have activated the thymus gland, which will send a miraculous substance through your system that calms you down and strengthens your immunity.

These last two techniques are scientific, too, just as the X technique is. Dr. Diamond wrote a book back in the l970's called, "Your Body Doesn't Lie", and it is all about the thymus gland and what it can do for you!

You can have a lot of fun with these techniques during meditations as well. Just activate the X, do the thymus thump, and add in chanting or visualization or both! If you rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being extreme discomfort and 1 being utter calm, then activate the X and do the thymus thump, and rate yourself again, you will be amazed at the shift in your numbers!

Here are some testimonials from people who have tried these techniques in everything from test taking to confrontations to job interviews:

"My boss has calmed down, is no longer insisting that I transfer, and is even helping me to find a new position! It's a miracle!"

"My foreman got off my back today for the first time since I started working here!"

"I drew the X on a piece of paper, crossed my ankles, did the thymus thump, and aced my board exams!"

"I've been doing the thymus thump intuitively since I was a little girl and was so surprised to find out it is based in science! It works every single time!"

Make activating the X and the thymus thump the cornerstones of your stress-management arsenal! You'll reap the unending rewards of peace of mind, clarity, and calmness every time you do them.

Author's Bio: 

In business since 1979, Sheila is a popular lifestyle, success, and career coach. She earned a Doctor of Divinity in Advanced Energy Medicine, and other degrees and certifications. She is a licensed and ordained minister.

Sheila is a published author, and her most recent book, True Ghosts, was published in September, 2008. It is a significant contribution to the field of dying, death, and bereavement. It is available at,, and many other online bookstores.

Sheila's website,, offers an impressive array of personal-development and career-action information.