Dating can be a very interesting or frustrating time in one's life. When we are in a relationship, we always wonder where this relationship will lead to. Everyone wants some kind of commitment from the other person and we all do things to make sure that we are not wasting our time with a particular person. Well it is important that we understand what we really want from the relationship, this means we have to know who we are, deal with your issues (get yourself whole) do not look to the other person to make you complete.
Every relationship brings us closer to ourselves and when we really pay attention to the lessons to be learned we will come out better, and stronger that our next relationship will seem easier to deal with. So do not panic pay attention to what lessons you need to learn. Once you deal with the root issues you are ready to Love again! Taking the risk. Pay attention to the stages in the Love connection


1. How eager is he/she to see you? does he call you with 24hrs of meeting? does she respond to your calls, does he ask you on a second date? Is she excited to see you again? Here you are getting to know each other, your partners response is crucial.

2. How much time do you spend with each other on that fist date, or first phone call? If hours pass and you have not even noticed or think that time is flying then you are getting the connection. You can safely move to making more time to spend with the special person.

3. How consistent are you in seeing each other? Is he asking to taking you out on dates? or wanting to see you every chance he gets? With other obligations in life, those that were there before you met, you will be working on making the time to see each other.

4. How interested are you in each others lives? You are willing to know your partners schedule that way you can work together. You are able to find things that you both love to do and want to do them together, or finding out what your partner enjoys to do so you can share their interest.


1. Are you wanting to help each other with projects? Things can start to become challenging, but when we pay attention to what stage we are in you can work together.

2. Is there verbal and physical affection? Emotions start to flare up at this point once intimacy is involved partners become more aware of their needs. It can be healthy to keep away from sex, it helps to keep these emotions in balance.

3. Is there physical attraction so strong that you have to make sure that you are not in a compromising place? Try to keep the fire burning.

4. Communication becomes regular, texts, emails or calls. Can not pass a day without talking. Or you can become relaxed thinking you always get a chance, communication is critical.


There should be more signs of commitments like wanting to share living space, talking about the future together, introduction to close friends and family.

Its important to pay attention to what stage you are in when dating that way you are not expecting more than what the relationships is offering. Moving slowly and steadily helps to have a more healthy and satisfying relationship.

Author's Bio: 

Charity Limula is a published author of Why am I single again? Life coach working with women around the world to help them find wholeness and fulfillment.