Everyone can benefit from learning a few anger management techniques. While anger is a very normal emotion that everyone expresses from time to time, it can become very destructive if you find yourself getting angry at the smallest things. Not only is it bad for your health, but it can cause your love ones to move further and further away from you with each episode that passes by. The good news is that there are effective Anger Management techniques that you can use on the spur of the moment to diffuse the situation before it occurs. However, in order for these Anger Management tips to work, you would have to make sure you know when you are about to fume, or at least to be able to utilize these techniques before your anger reaches its boiling point.

The first anger management technique is to always think before you say something, and this holds true even if you are in a heated discussion. By forcing yourself to think every time you are about to speak, you will be able to keep yourself in check before the situation gets out of hand. When this occurs, the next step is to take a mental time out. In fact, taking a break does not mean walking out of the environment, but simply slowly counting to ten and concentrating on your breathing as you do so. If at this point you feel it is still not helping because the other person has already heated up, then the next step would be to politely excuse yourself so that you can go to a quieter vicinity to calm down. In order to ensure that you leave the situation effectively, you can even come up with a white light by saying that you have the need to relieve yourself and will be back in short time.

Once you are away and have the ability to calm down, you can then move onto the next anger management technique, which is to resolve the situation within yourself. In other words, accept that things got out of hand, ask yourself why they got out of hand, and then realize that no matter what, the consequences afterwards will always be worse than the feeling of triumph during a heated conversation, even if it was not your fault to begin with. During this time, do not brood, as this will not help you calm the situation down, but rather, it will make things worse once you go back to the environment you just left. Keep in mind that these techniques will not be perfected overnight, as it is never easy to simply calm yourself down and think straight during times when all you want to do is flare up. However, by constantly trying to use these techniques, you will find that in time, you will be able to have effective control over your temper, because you will become more effective at utilizing anger management techniques on-the-fly.

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Dr. Joe James is a psychologist who is the developer of a online court ordered anger management class.